Author / Lace Jun
When faced with trouble, everyone reacts differently.
Some people are worried, afraid, eat well, sleep well, and even lose their temper.
Some people are very calm, as if nothing happened. With such an attitude towards life, the big things are reduced to the small, and the small things are reduced, and life will naturally be easier and more comfortable.
In the past few days, I have re-watched "My Neighbor Yamada-kun" directed by Hayao Miyazaki's good partner Takahata-kun, produced by Studio Ghibli, and found that the women in it are all so carefree and don't take anything to heart. .
Their hearts are "big".
01 Optimistic about destiny - elements of happiness
The Yamada family is a family of five. Mama, Matsuko, is a big hearted foodie.
It was raining so hard that she could sit alone in the living room and eat biscuits. It took a long time to remember that she forgot to put away her clothes.
The even more astonishing fact is that this housework genius still put his clothes in the laundry tub and didn't take them out to dry at all!
A friend wants to come to visit, but the house is in a mess, what should I do?
She opened the closet, took out all kinds of clothes, and threw them all over the floor, pretending to be just cleaning up...
Another day, my grandmother was looking for food everywhere.
Mom said, "Is your Alzheimer's so serious? You've already eaten!"
However, the person who has eaten is the mother herself, and the grandmother has been hungry all the time...
Mom is a joke maker, and she's a little irresponsible with her "big heart".
Fortunately, those were all innocuous little things, and there were family members who "made up the pot" for her, so she could always "go straight to the bridge".
She has a wide heart and a fat body, and has always lived a good life by luck.
Occasionally, the mother will make the family angry, but more often, she is the indispensable pistachio of the family.
There are so many trivial matters and troubles in life and work, and everything must be arranged properly. It is hard and unrealistic, and sometimes we need to have such a mentality.
If you can't get it, forget it.
You can't bear it, you can escape.
Go with the flow, as long as you eat well, sleep well, and play well, what will be wrong in life?
02 Calm down - the solution to the problem
Daughter Nonoko is another type of "big heart".
At one point, she was left at the mall by her family.
She is only in the third grade of elementary school, and this situation is very dangerous. Ordinary children will be panicked and scared, crying.
However, instead of panicking, Noyeko helped a little brother who was separated from his family.
Like an adult, she comforts her little brother:
"Now it's popular for adults to get lost!"
Noyeko methodically asked for the identity information of the little brother, and took him to the salesman to broadcast to find his mother to help him reunite with his family.
When Ye Yezi's family anxiously returned to the mall to find her, she had already returned home with her neighbor's aunt who happened to pass by.
I even ate food.
A girl with a big heart, luck will not be too bad.
But it's not so much luck, it's actually the courage to stay in the face of danger.
Those who encounter difficulties in the same way, do not panic, keep calm, can make judgments and decisions soberly, and solve problems step by step, are always more likely to turn misfortune into good fortune than those who are in a mess.
03 Strong and sturdy - the courage to challenge
A little different from the two juniors, grandma has a big heart and is a bit unreasonable.
When I went out to see the cherry blossoms falling, my 70-year-old grandmother did not lament how short life was, but felt that she could "watch it 30 more times!"
Dare to feel that I can live to be more than 100 years old! Such self-confidence, not to mention the elderly, young people may not have it.
My grandmother is still a "female hero" with a strong sense of justice and incomparable courage.
The arrogant drag racing clan is feared by everyone. There was an old man who was killed for meddling in their own business.
But grandma was not afraid. She put on a hard hat, grabbed a baseball bat, and put a wrench in her pocket, and went out to find them.
The old lady was not foolhardy. When she arrived at the scene, she completely changed her face, smiling and persuading the drag racers to "act as a chivalrous person".
"Benefiting others is a great thing, and the mood will be very happy. It can also teach the little gangsters who don't follow the rules a lesson, and collect some money by the way."
... The old lady was eloquent and well-founded, which attracted a group of onlookers. The motorcyclists did not dare to cause trouble, so they had to drive away in despair.
The old lady who is old and frail and has no strength can say that "heart is big" is amazing.
To sum it up in one sentence, "A sturdy life requires no explanation."
We always put too much emphasis on forbearance and calm for a while, and take a step back to see the sky and the sky, and forget that some people and some things, you can't retreat, you can only fight.
Especially at work, being aggrieved, being suppressed, blindly giving in, and calming things down will not solve the problem.
One of the necessary conditions to prove that you can be on your own is to be tough and strategically tough.
"Big heart", it is easy to think of "open-minded", but in fact the two are not the same.
Open-mindedness is more of an advanced life realm achieved through cultivation.
A big heart is an innate, innate attitude towards life that does not require "hard work".
In the cartoon, the "girls" in this family are all born with good characters.
They don't want to think too much, and they look at the world and life very simply, so they are more likely to be satisfied and happy.
"Life is always full of surprises. So far, everything seems to be going well. But suddenly, you will be cornered..."
The father in the film said in a relative's wedding message.
"...As long as you think about it, you can be tolerant, no! If you don't tolerate it, you can't live. No way! No way! This sentence is by no means only negative, but absolutely indispensable... It is to face life optimistically and break through difficulties. the key."
This can also be used as an annotation for "big heart":
Don't be afraid of difficulties, never give up, be optimistic and enterprising, and tolerate each other.
God helps those who help themselves. How can people who do this have such bad luck?
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