Please imagine, a couple who are busy with their careers suddenly have three children, what kind of chaotic life will be?
You may think of the triplets in the American TV series "Our Lives". Indeed, the lives of Jack and Rebecca have changed dramatically because of the birth of three children. But the situation in the movie "Instant Family" is even more dramatic. The couple, who have never been parents, adopted three children at one time. The elder sister Liz is smart and rebellious at the age of 15, the younger brother Juan is 10 years old and has low self-esteem and sensitivity, and the younger sister Rita is 5. Aged stubborn naughty.
The instant family in the title refers to a family that is quickly formed by ready-made children and adults.
The male protagonist Pete and the female protagonist Ellie are interior decorators. The two are good at and love their jobs. After marriage, they continued to indulge in their work and missed the best time to have children.
One day Pete said casually, it is better to have a child now than to adopt a child. The husband and wife are both sweethearts. When they saw the photos and stories of the children to be adopted online, they were moved to tears, so they went to the adoption agency.
One of the highlights of "Instant Family" is to show us the perfect adoption system in the United States. Americans are more open to the concept of family and do not pay much attention to blood relationship. Therefore, the United States is a big adoption country and has a more mature adoption system than China.
This reminds me of the movie "The Law of Cider House". The children in the orphanage will show the most perfect and flattering smile when someone comes to adopt them, hoping that they can have a beautiful and warm family. It was America in the 1940s, and the family life that orphanage children yearned for was entirely dependent on the mercy of their adopters.
Up to now, parents who want to adopt a child must submit information first. After passing the qualification review, they must undergo several months of training and examinations to let parents know the problems they will encounter in adopting children and the countermeasures.
On matchmaking day, parents and children will meet at a big outdoor party to find their favorite child.
Younger children are the first choice for parents, and older children know they are not likable and are left alone in a corner. The male protagonist, Pete, insisted on saying hello to the lonely older children. As a result, he took a fancy to the smart, sensible and individual girl Liz, and Liz also has a younger brother and a younger sister. Their mother was in rehab for drug use, and they were in the adoption system.
After adopting a child, parents will conduct mutual aid activities every month, just like the Anonymous Alcohol and Drug Rehabilitation Mutual Aid Association that is often seen in American TV shows. They sat around and complained about the various problems and troubles they encountered after adopting a child. Learn from the stories of others, or gain strength to guide your own life. The person in charge of the adoption agency will also give guidance and help in various aspects.
After the parents and children get along and get along for a few months, the family court will hold a hearing to listen to the opinions of the parents and children, and after considering various factors, the final decision is made whether to let them become a family.
During this period, there were many exhausting moments. Pete and Ellie had no time and space for themselves. Once they almost wanted to give up. The two found a lot of reasons for themselves to give up the adoption. Do, we can't be so cruel.
15-year-old Liz has had too many experiences of being adopted and abandoned, so she can't believe other people's feelings, and she can't give her own. She has actually been touched by Pete and Ellie, but she doesn't allow herself to do so, deliberately responding to their love with rebellion and provocation.
Adopted children have been emotionally hurt, and they are sober and sensitive. Just like little Heidi in the movie "Heidi and Grandpa", at the beginning, her grandfather didn't want to take her in and let her go with her aunt. Heidi said sweetly and solemnly, but her aunt didn't want me either. A five- or six-year-old girl said such a sentence, and anyone's heart would tremble.
Another aspect of the film is trying to explain why people have children.
One writer said that unless you understand what it means for a child to wave to his parents at every turn on a merry-go-round, and the parents to wave to their children, you won't understand human nature.
Liz asked Ellie why did you adopt us? Ellie couldn't answer. If it was because of sympathy and impulsiveness at the beginning, the couple got to know more and more about the children as they spent more and more time together, and they could no longer let go of these three children. Especially when Juan and Rita call their mom and dad, the sense of accomplishment and fulfillment trumps everything else.
In the end Ellie's response was, "We wanted to adopt because we felt something was missing in our lives, but we didn't know what it was. But now we know, we're missing Juan, Rita, and Rei. Here. There is a cosmic link between us."
Why have children? I think the answer in the movie "Deadpool 2" is very good, because children make us better people. So Deadpool will save a child and find a reason for himself to live when he is most unlovable.
Pete and Ellie are also in this adoption relationship, gaining energy, making their humanity more complete, and making themselves better people.
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