After watching the first season of "Unforgettable" in one breath, the first thing that comes to mind is this title. Do you think your family can completely accept the real you because of love? ! Love is never unconditional. Even family members, parents and children, husbands and wives, are not always able to understand and fully accept each other.
Everyone has the experience of secret or unwilling to talk to others easily, but it is more extreme in the plot, involving a murder many years ago. Everyone is connected with old cases, and everyone is trying to cover up the past, thinking that as long as they hide and refuse to admit it, the darkness that has passed for a long time will not swallow up the existing good life. But Cassie and Sunny used all their investigative means to refuse to give up their pursuit of the truth, and they began to confess to their families little by little, telling them about their unbearable past, and personally shattering their current peaceful life to pieces or even to pieces. Life is full of lies. No matter how you live together every day closest to you, it doesn't mean that you fully understand the person around you.
When Beth, the wife of the football coach, really liked her eyes when she looked at black people, you and I are the same kind without distinction, the kind of calm and accepting that there is no difference in the heart. But when it was discovered that she was a former member of the National Front and supported the white supremacist, her husband obviously couldn't accept the fact that Beth said he was forced to participate in the violent marches and robberies, but other eyewitnesses said that the young Beth was obviously a positive Active member. Her husband asked her how she was being forced to participate, how she was being forced to do things she didn't want to do, and Beth was speechless. Was Beth, who left home at the age of 15, too young and unsupported, was her ex-boyfriend violent, she couldn't escape and had to protect herself, was she too naive when she was young and made the wrong decision and then realized that so Subconsciously make up for reform, what did she think 39 years ago, and whether she has changed now? Just this detail alone has many possibilities. As the audience, we can't make up our minds completely. But I always feel that she is the person who has the most self-reflection. She has lived her life as a knock on the door, and punished herself spiritually from the time she made a mistake. 39 years later, she lives as a black football coach and husband and wife, and works together every day. Why didn't this close relationship allow her to confess her past to her husband before the police investigation, and boldly and frankly ask for his forgiveness? What kind of intimacy can make a person let go of his guard and heart wall to talk about everything? If confession means hurt and loss, is it the truth that he is not tolerant enough to face her face-to-face, or does distance and concealment make a relationship more stable and long-lasting?
Father Robert had sex with minors as a young priest, often stealing money from his family and the community to support his illegitimate daughter. When he told the truth, his wife and children couldn't accept that he had concealed so much. His daughter asked him if he had killed someone. When Robert wanted to get close to her to clarify, the daughter subconsciously stepped back, and no longer wanted to have physical contact, the trust between relatives After the collapse, there is only doubt about what the person in front of him can do that he can't imagine. Father Robert's two daughters imagined him, or the expected father image was too different from his actual face, so it was neither accepted nor forgiven. One detail is his two daughters. The pregnant daughter can't accept the father's infidelity with the minors. Her mood as a mother makes her focus more on the minors, while the other daughter expresses understanding. , that no one is perfect is just a big mistake that my father made when he was young. But after that, more hidden things were exposed, and the daughter who was more accepting could no longer continue to trust and support her. Everyone has their own perspective of looking at a problem, and different positions have different ways of considering it, so it’s good to talk about heart-to-heart mutual understanding and not misunderstanding each other’s meaning. The real price is not being accepted. The real price is to let the relatives see the huge gap between the imagined self and the real self, and let the expectations fall. Robert was left alone outside the delivery room at the happiest moment.
The irony of the first season is that I never thought that the weak could be the perpetrator. Eric in a wheelchair was initially less likely to be listed as a suspect because of the wheelchair, but it was later found that he was still able to move freely 39 years ago. The police judged him to be violent towards homosexuality, when in fact he was gay himself. Claire's first impression is completely harmless, only Alzheimer's is more forgetful. In fact, she is the murderer who brutally killed two people. The mental illness has made her memory blurred, and she is unable to confess her guilt. Is there any guilt in her heart? Unable to know. Seemingly weak but in fact a perpetrator. Have they really accepted each other's true appearance, realized that they can't change each other, a homosexual can't change their sexual orientation, a mental problem can only continue to deteriorate without timely treatment, and they can see the unchangeable appearance of each other , so we buried the truth together. Humans are really delicate and complex animals, and it is impossible to look directly at them.
So after watching this drama, I just feel that "you think your family can accept the real you" is just an ideal dream, not realistic at all. Love is conditional. In the relationship between parents and children, whether it is sexual orientation, preference for a certain race, or even small to the career direction you want to pursue, your style of conduct, the concept of dressing and choosing a mate, all tastes are as long as If you deviate from your parents’ expectations, there will definitely be conflicts. Trying to reason with your parents is still unable to communicate with each other. Avoiding and ignoring conflicts and drawing boundaries are sometimes a good way to maintain peace. The same is true for wives and husbands. They are not blood-related family members, so their tolerance is even lower. If you choose one person, you should be prepared to be responsible for your own choice. It is really tiring to expect it to be set on others. The sense of distance and personal space Under the shackles of marriage is the source of creating beauty, expecting another person to fully accept the real you is the premise that you can fully accept that person too. Some secrets and too straightforward words are still reserved for yourself, after all, you are always the one who can accept yourself the most.
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