In the first half of the movie, I thought it was just a story about the parent-child relationship, but the more I went on, the more wrong I felt, especially in the last scene of the film, which seemed to be happy, but when I thought about it, it made me sad.
Recently, I was reading Wu Zhihong's books "Why Does Home Hurt People" and "Why Does Love Hurt People", both of which involve the concepts of "original family" and "new family", describing the connection and correspondence between parent-child relationship and intimate relationship. An important principle is put forward in this paper is that "the relationship between husband and wife is the core of the family, and the relationship between husband and wife is greater than that between parent and child".
In the family relationship, the wife wants to capture her husband out of loneliness, but the husband does not want to be captured by the wife, because it will make him relive the nightmare of his mother capturing him, so the emotional foundation between the husband and wife is very weak .
After having a child, the wife finally found that the child can make up for the emptiness in her heart to a great extent, so she began to catch the child. And, preferably, a son, then the son fills up not only the emotional void, but also the erotic void to a considerable extent. As a result, she gripped her son even tighter.
When her son is an adult, is about to get married, and has her own lover and life, the mother naturally refuses to let go. The son is the only "person who can be attached to her", and she must maintain the original relationship between her and her son at all costs. all costs.
In the film, we see the mother swallowing a small bun in a hurry, so that he can become one with herself, and the flesh and blood are inseparable. What a terrible maternal love, helpless and extreme. You must know that from the moment a mother gives birth, she is destined to be separated from her child, and in this world, it is inevitable for everyone to leave their original family and move towards self-independence. "
Fortunately, this mother was able to realize early on that even if her son has a new family, their ties with each other will not be severed. Otherwise, what we may see is what Chinese families often stage - the battle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law with son as the object of competition. .
In the last scene of the film, the mother, son and daughter-in-law make dumplings with He Meimei.
Perfect ending.
etc……
What is the father doing?
No one is competing for him, and no one is paying attention to him. He can't participate in this lively occasion, so he can only turn his head to the TV.
"As for the father-in-law, he has become a dispensable footnote in this family. No one is competing for him. Unless his life is broad and wonderful, he is a zero in the family."
The sons who were once contested in each round become unnecessary redundant people in the new family - redundant fathers.
So, it's important to be aware of how healthy family relationships should be, and to work hard to achieve them.
May there be no lonely people in the warm home.
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