Originally, it was my coursework on object relations, and I didn't take much of the lectures, but I watched the TV series in great detail, so I wrote it with care, and I had the urge to send it out and watch it. A bit sensational, not particularly rational, personal analysis, for reference only.
1. Childhood experience and early object relations.
The main theory of object relations psychoanalysis is that the object relations of an individual's childhood will reappear in future interpersonal relationships, and the current interpersonal relationships are affected by the relationships that have been formed in the past. Therefore, an individual's childhood experiences are a very important consideration in the treatment process.
Jake's father is a well-known professor who studies the Renaissance. At the age of 33, he obtained a tenured teaching position in a famous university. His mother is also engaged in education, and the whole family is an intellectual. But it's clear that Jake wasn't educated to be like them, he advocated anti-intellectualism, dropped out of high school, didn't have a high degree, wrote his own songs, sang in bars, worked a modest job for a living, and never did Seek help from your own parents.
It all stems from his early object relationship with his father. Jake's father is an excellent elite intellectual in his heart, but his father did not give him enough love and support. Jake's childhood was lonely, he often talked to himself, and he could not feel his father's love. Jake originally had a good talent, but he has always been affected by "self-fulfilling prophecy" (self-fulfilling prophecy), he was afraid of failing in front of his father, so he gave up his studies and did not try, because he always felt that his father had always held him A low-expectation attitude, and this projection is because he is full of inferiority and self-denial because of the lack of love and support.
But this is not the whole crux of Jake's heart. In the process of growing up, in order to overcome his inner inferiority complex, he became mean and full of aggression. He used violent words and deeds to show his strength to complete himself. inner compensation. Therefore, there is an ambivalence in Jake. On the one hand, he is a child who lacks love in his heart, longs to be loved and lacks trust in others; This ambivalence was carried out in his early object relationship with his father, in him and his wife, with the counselor, and in the whole counseling process.
The relationship with the consultant
At the beginning of the counseling, Jake was hostile and distrustful of the counselor. He questioned the competence of the counselor and suspected that the counseling was only destroying the relationship between him and his wife. He could not enter into a good counseling relationship because The counselor is highly educated and professionally trained, and like Jake's father is an authority in his field, and this similarity makes Jake empathize, transferring his own distrust and hostility toward his father to the counselor .
This empathy became evident as treatment progressed and Jake trusted the therapist more. In the episode of the power outage, Jake talked about how he drove to his father's house for four hours on a cold night but couldn't knock on the door, and then even tearfully told the counselor that he had no one to talk to and that he wanted help. At this time, Jake showed his predicament with his wife and father, and showed his helplessness in front of the counselor. This is because he is substituting the early object relationship with his father into the counseling relationship, so he hopes to receive love and affirmation from the counselor.
Third, the relationship with the wife.
Jake's attitude towards Amy is also full of suspicion and aggressiveness. He follows Amy's whereabouts, suspects that his wife is having an affair with his boss, and feels that Amy does not want to conceive his child. This lack of trust is largely due to his sense of inferiority. Amy has a high degree of education and a high salary, but he is not even able to pay off the consulting fee at one time. In addition, Amy keeps comparing him with her ex-husband and boss. , he always felt in his heart that Amy looked down on him and was afraid that Amy would leave him.
Correspondingly, he made a lot of extreme actions. He recorded Amy's angry words on a tape recorder and played it repeatedly to stimulate Amy. During sex, he threatened Amy that if Amy left him, he would kill Amy. Jake 's fear is transformed into control and possessiveness , fighting and hurting each other with Amy in their married life.
Jake's early object relationship with his father also had a great impact on his married life. Amy, like his father, is a very good person, and he has longed for Amy's love and affirmation in this intimate relationship, and uses it to repair his flawed early object relationship. So when Jake broke down, the real Jake showed, who was gentle, patient, and longing to love and be loved .
And when he knew that Amy slept with the boss in order to punish herself, he realized that Amy's feelings and attitude towards him were affected by Amy's psychological problems. . All he felt from their relationship was sadness and powerlessness, and looking at Amy's angelic sleeping face, he found it hard to kiss her. So he drove four hours late at night to his parents' house, to the house of his parents who wouldn't ask them for help even when he slept on the road, like a poor child, like a man wandering at the door of the house in the cold wind, but lost his knocks A child of courage.
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