Not too long ago, I did a series of live-action interviews about cheating, not wanting to embarrass my wife, so I cheated! , I heard a lot of stories of couples cheating on each other and cheating on each other. I couldn't help but think, instead of cheating each other like this, we might as well just have an open marriage. Built on not cheating!
Now everyone is talking about the future of the marriage system to die, because it is not in line with human nature, no one can guarantee to love a person for decades, and the hormonal passion can last for seven years. It is amazing. Moreover, the life expectancy of human beings in the future may be 150 or 60 years old or longer. Even if you get married at the age of 30, a marriage will last for a hundred years or so. It sounds a bit scary! After all, everyone is not the poet Marvel, who can spend a hundred years admiring a lover's eyes, two hundred years admiring each breast of his lover, and three hundred years admiring other places.
But is an open marriage that allows men and women not to suppress their natural instincts as beautiful as they imagined? The film "Colette" tore the mysterious and exciting veil of open marriage to shreds.
"Colette" is a biographical film about the famous French writer Cidone Gabriel Colette. Colette has published dozens of novels in her lifetime, and Nobel Prize winner Gide once praised her: "Writing from beginning to end without a single failure, without a single word, without a cliché." She is also the first French female writer to receive the honor of a state funeral. But what really made Colette famous was her open-minded approach to life.
"She used to be a stunning beauty, going in and out of the hippest ballrooms, flirting with hordes of men, and writing sultry erotica and serious classics.
She always pursues love, even between women. Wine, food, all the good things in life become unexpected and magical in her writing. Now she is seventy-five years old, but she has the most charming eyes in the world and the most charming little cat-like face. ” wrote Colette’s loyal fan, Beauvoir, a well-known feminist representative.
Colette was born in the French countryside in 1873, but she did not want to die there, so she moved with her first husband to the metropolis of Paris. She has experienced three marriages in total. During the second marriage, she had an affair with her husband's son. After the second marriage, she also got on with her second husband's ex-wife.
Colette didn't care what others thought of her, and she was a stage actress, playwright, war correspondent, and theater critic. When she was a stage actress, she showed her left breast and kissed her same-sex lover in public at the time. Her openness shocked the French who were still open at the time.
Most people say, as Beauvoir said, "I'm tired of living a chaste and depressed life, but I don't have the courage to live a depraved life." Colette is different, she lives like a beast, doesn't suppress her instincts, doesn't care Expose your desires.
The movie "Colette" tells the story of Colette's first marriage.
Colette's first husband was Willie, a well-known Parisian writer and a well-known playboy in Parisian social circles, 14 years older than her. Not long after the two were newly married, Colette discovered that Willie was hanging out with a prostitute. Willie plausibly said: "Men are like this, we are weak, not as strong as you women, we are slaves of desire. In this city, we are This behavior is tacitly tolerated.”
Colette told him to fuck off. He coaxed her: "All the women in Paris are not as important as you. My heart is scarred because of you."
Of course Colette didn't believe this. She had already seen Willie's heart clearly. His heart was as clearly visible as the first line of an eye chart. But she still accepted him, she thought, and she needed to get used to the marriage. As long as Willie promises her not to deceive her, it is acceptable to continue cheating. This was the beginning of their open marriage.
But the real reason this open marriage lasted more than a decade was business interests. Willie is not only a good woman but also a good gambler. He usually spends a lot of money. He never knows how to write the word “saving”, and he is always in the predicament of no money.
He discovered Colette's literary talent, and Willie, who was good at marketing, instructed Colette to add sensuality to his literary works. Sure enough, Colette's first book, "Crotina at School", became a Parisian as soon as it was published. A bestseller, though, the author's column for this book is by Wiley, not Colette. Since then, Colette has written three other novels in the "Crotina" series under Willy's pressure, and all three books are also signed by Willie.
Willie forced Colette to write in two ways. One was captivity. If Colette wrote less, he would lock her in the room, and if she wrote less than 4 hours, she would not be allowed to go out; the other It was inductive. He knew that Colette was an experiential writer. Without experience, there would be no inspiration for writing, so when he discovered that Colette had a potential homosexual complex, he induced her to engage in homosexuality. In order to turn Colette into a cash cow, Willie really does anything!
The young Colette was also addicted to this relationship. Willie shaped her and turned her into a Colette who could "do whatever she wanted." Her freedom, her same-sex lover said: "But you're not happy." She shot back: "Whose life is happy?"
In this marriage, the deepest bond between Colette and Willie is the huge benefit of the "Crotina" series of novels. Willie's marriage to Colette came to an end when Willie owed money and sold the exclusive rights to the Crotina novels to a publisher.
Colette felt that Willie was stupid enough to hand over all the money that the "Crotina" series of novels could make in the future for a small amount of money.
Willie said, you can write more, dear.
Colette turned her face, "Our marriage is nothing but a business decision. Am I not your best business investment? No dowry (Colette married Willie without a dowry), it's okay, she can write her own book."
Willie is also cheeky and said nonsense: "You are my ideal partner in this life, the only bond."
Willie's lifelong bond is nothing but money. How could clever Colette not understand, she didn't want to continue to be Willy's cash cow! So he resolutely divorced, and after the divorce, he also took back the authorship of the "Crotina" series of novels through legal channels. Since then, and Willie will never get along with each other.
After experiencing many lovers and countless sexual encounters, at the age of 52, Colette finally met the love of her life - her third husband and fellow journalist Maurice Goodkay. A happy marriage.
I guess the root of the happiness of this marriage is that Colette and Morris are not young anymore, and they don't want to toss anymore, they are willing to love the person in front of them exclusively, and accompany each other until they go to the grave.
You see, at the end of the writing, I found that the happiest relationship in the world is still "wish to win the heart of one person, and the white head will not be separated". It's a pity that when we were young, we were always unwilling to get only one person's heart, so naturally we couldn't get the happy ending that the white heads were inseparable.
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