The world is a bit cruel to adults, and those who say "the old man is not too young, let's fall in love" will also say to you one day, "what love is there when the old man is not too young". Others will advise you to be honest, "the same thing an 18-year-old calls cute, a 40-year-old is shameless", and you never try to convince them.
I watched a drama recently, the Chinese name is "Cleveland" and the English name is "Hot In Cleveland". This drama mainly revolves around a few older divorced women (the average age of the three is in their 50s, if the 90-year-old is The bits are also counted, and the average is 60+).
After Melanie's divorce, she met her friends Victoria and Joy to fly to Paris to find romance. As a result, the plane went out of control and made an emergency landing in Cleveland. The three women went to a bar to pass the time, but unexpectedly found that in Cleveland, men would court them when they were not young. Immediately, the feeling of youth and self-confidence returned. They decided to stay in Cleveland, and they grew up with hilarious stories, starting with Elka, a concierge that came with the house.
As several leading actors said in the tidbits, "We are not young, but in the end, we found that many young girls said that this show gave them strength." After watching this young woman, she said that it is so healing.
This show is not an older, funny version of Sex and the City. Almost all women in this show yearn for love, but they not only gained this in the process, but more importantly, they gained another growth.
Melanie has changed from a cowardly and incompetent old man who complains about marriage every day to a good man who bravely pursues happiness, dares to love and hate; Victoria has gradually become a narcissist who is willing to express her shortcomings and weaknesses from a narcissist who only lives in her own world Crazy devil; Joy has changed from a humorous woman with a lot of negative energy to a humorous woman who believes in love and herself.
They are age-sensitive and like to be called girl rather than the old-fashioned ma'am. They are mistakenly thought that in their thirties, they will be so happy that they forget that their belongings have just been stolen by others. This may be the reason why many women in mid-life crisis do not do it. One of the well-known psychological activities, exaggerated interpretation, but with a factual basis.
They are not always full of energy. They are also troubled by their children's actions, and they are also devastated by conflicts with their parents. They are looking forward to the bottoming out and success of their careers, and occasionally they have to face the body's non-violent non-cooperation. These unavoidable trivialities of life make their girlish mentality sparkle.
What is the girl mentality?
I personally think that I believe that I deserve better, and strive to pursue it.
Melanie calmly faced the problem of not wanting to have another child in her fifties, broke up with her expectant boyfriend, and became a popular radio host by coincidence, turning her chattering shortcomings into advantages; During the crisis, she actively looked for a job as a host, and tried her best to try film opportunities. She was narcissistic and even donated a precious kidney. In order to relieve Joy's embarrassment, Elka accompanied Joy in her 90s. Back to the university class; Joy finally began to resolve the conflict with his parents, successfully completed his studies and dreams, became a private detective, and discovered the reason why he was unwilling to find a good man, and finally found happiness.
When Melanie was a guest host on the radio, the veterinarian around her complained about her life, saying that her ideal in life was to be a doctor, not a pet doctor. Melanie said, then you can become a veterinarian, the veterinarian replied, it will take several years to study, and I will be 45 years old when I finish my studies, Melanie said, whether you study a doctor's course or not, you will be 45 years old in five years. .
In the process of watching the drama, I looked at my old-fashioned twenties from time to time, and thought carefully about the source. I don't like doing things in the name of chicken blood more and more, as if I feel that I can calm down and live my life in a down-to-earth manner. Those unrealistic dreams belong to eighteen years old.
And Burning Cleveland told me that bad things do exist right now, but better things will happen, you just need to believe that you are worth it and go for it, don't give up because of age.
Melanie, Joy, Victoria and even Elka, they have one thing in common, they will be sad and vent when they encounter unhappy things, but they will always be problem-solving oriented. Maybe this is what they want to say: we are nearly half a century old but we deserve better, so solve the problem at hand and continue to work hard. Of course Elka might say, I'm almost a hundred years old and there's nothing I can't solve, except Joy.
When you are gradually called an aunt, when you can't control the slowdown of your metabolism, when you are in a relationship at the age of forty, it is called a non-professional work, when you are forced to push those ugly so-called "old clothes" at the age of fifty, when you There are also ideals you want to achieve. You should first recognize yourself, maintain a girlish mentality, believe that you are worthy of better, actively solve problems, strive to pursue and do your best to grow. 90-year-old Elka also has to meet her 110-year-old mother-in-law. Obviously, 90 is not the age to give up solving problems.
I remember in the movie "The Perks of Being a Wallflower" Charlie saw that his sister and the people he liked were dating bad people, and asked Mr. Anderson "Why do nice people choose the wrong people to date (Why do nice people choose the wrong people to date?" People dating)?", Mr. Anderson thought for a while and said "We accept the love we think we deserve (we only dare to accept the love we think we deserve)". The boy asked again "Can we make them know they deserve more?", "We can try".
I think Burning Cleveland is trying to tell us that we deserve better relationships and better lives, and that age shouldn't be a hindrance to our dream journey.
I have a dream, one day we can tell those who are cynical about age: I am not young, but I still deserve better, help me get up and try.
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