Mikey: How can people know who they are?
Gordie: Well, they'll figure it out over time—
Everyone will find themselves, and then the world has to come to us.
A good movie worth rewatching and thinking about. The film just shows the ordinary family life in a relaxed and real tone. The relationship and dialogue between adults and three innocent and lovely children, but it is precisely in such ordinaryness that there are imperceptible thoughts on human nature and life. subject.
During the viewing process, I wanted to record too much information, and there were too many lines and clips that evoked thinking. The following is a brief analysis of the plot and dialogue arrangement of the film, involving spoilers, please read the film after watching the film (I am a psychology major, and will prefer to analyze the reasons for character building and plot arrangement):
The film begins with the family preparing to drive from London to their grandfather's house in Scotland to celebrate his 75th birthday. The lovely Jess wanted to bring the stones and coals he had collected, but his father Doug disagreed, so Jess made a gesture to hold his breath, in order to defy his father's authority.
Children are still young, but they also have many unique and autonomous ideas, but in the face of absolute authority, all they can do is shout and cry hard, just like all children will use to achieve their goals. , while little Jessie held her breath and made her stand: I'm going to do it!
We can also learn in the later films that if little Jesse does not agree with her thoughts and does not accept her request, she will hold her breath firmly until she faints and loses consciousness.
This is a stubborn little girl who has a strong desire to express her independent thoughts, and does this also mean that in daily life, parents may ignore and pay no attention to the children's expressions, so that the children have such actions to show their dissatisfaction .
The picture turns to Mikey, who is staring at the war on TV. Mikey is a smart boy who loves watching TV. He is curious about the world and has all kinds of weird ideas of his own.
When he was about to go out, his mother Abi couldn't find the keys to the house. At this time, the camera turned to Jess. From the later plot development, we can guess that little Jesse often hides the keys of his parents. What is it for? Maybe they want to attract the attention of their parents and show their existence, or they don't want them to leave the house and want them to spend more time with themselves, and if they can't find the key, they won't leave.
So don't guess the child's mind.
Parents cannot shirk their responsibility for any words and actions of children.
My parents got into a quarrel because of some things. At this time, Lottie appeared, a little girl with a meticulous dress and a sense of justice. She suggested to my parents to prepare a booklet to record all the lies, so that everyone could not deny it. what was said.
It can be seen that my father and mother often tell the eldest daughter Lottie some "well-intentioned" lies to perfunctory her obsession with the truth, but Lottie, who is good at observing words and expressions, may have understood the truth early on, and just wanted to get affirmation from her parents. answer.
Mom still couldn't find the key to the house, so Dad went to the neighbor's house across the street and explained why he wanted to borrow a spare key. At this time, the neighbor showed a suspicious and angry expression. After confirming what Dad said to the neighbor next to the car , the neighbor said to get the key.
Here we can judge that the parents have been living apart (before, the father said that his key was returned to the mother), and the father had a "conviction" of deceiving the neighbors to get the spare key.
The camera moves to the Scottish grandpa's house, who is fishing in the middle of the river, when his phone rings, but the grandpa turns it off angrily.
Then Uncle Gavin and Aunt Margaret drove to get the medicine for Grandpa to eat. It can be seen that grandpa's illness is very serious, and it will be dangerous to take medicine by mistake.
This also paved the way for the sudden departure of the grandfather on his birthday.
Uncle Gavin and Aunt Margaret are arranging guest seating in the kitchen. Uncle Gavin is about to call a jazz to invite him to Grandpa's birthday party. Aunt Margaret talks to him, but he doesn't wait for her words After speaking, he turned to leave and chatted with Jazz.
We can see the pattern of their getting along, which is a scene that often happens.
Uncle Gavin was a stern and selfish man who was very demanding and demanding of Aunt Margaret and her son. Living in a high-pressure environment for a long time, Aunt Margaret has emotional problems or even depression, so there are scenes of hitting bees many times in the film, as well as the existence of the video that beats people out of control in the supermarket.
Grandpa's birthday is coming, and he insists on driving the three siblings to the beach to play.
After arriving at the destination, Lottie said to grandpa, grandpa, your phone is off. Grandpa replied, I deliberately turned him off. The battery was dead, just to make sure.
A pun here, is it to shut down the phone more thoroughly, or to make my plan go more smoothly?
During the journey, the grandfather and the three siblings had frequent conversations about dealing with others, about death, and about memories.
He said to Lottie: Maybe your parents lied to you and just wanted to protect you. If your intentions are good, it's okay to lie sometimes.
When Mickey asked him: How do people know what they are?
He replied: Well, they gradually came to know that everyone will find themselves, and then the world has to come to us. (Well, they just kind of find out. We all find out eventually what we are. Then the world has to lump it.)
(But in fact, Mickey asked about lesbian topics at the time, and Grandpa didn't answer it directly, so I won't discuss it here :-P)
Grandpa's educational philosophy is reflected in the dialogue with the children. When Mickey proposed to go to the sea to catch fish and bake it, Grandpa went with him without any restraint, and asked Lottie, "Isn't there a sandwich in the car?" , answered her with "But we can't hunt sandwiches."
When little Jessie asked grandpa if the sea would be cold, grandpa did not directly tell the child like other parents that the sea is cold and you can't play.
Grandpa said that the sea water is not cold, and the children screamed in excitement after experiencing the cold sea water for themselves.
I can't tell you in advance how something goes through and how you feel, because that's all my experience, my feelings, it can never become yours, but your own thoughts, you need to experience it yourself. , to get the answer.
After analyzing the details of the film, I want to talk about education next. There are two complete families in the film (three little devils and Abby, Doug-A family; Uncle Gavin, Aunt Margaret and Kenneth- B family), the parents' personalities and the way they get along with their children are distinct and prominent in both families.
In family A, parents like to talk to their children, and at the same time respect their thoughts, and more importantly, they often express their deep love to their children.
In the restroom of the rest station, the couple tried to tell their children that they had problems with their relationship and chose to divorce, and told the children that their parents would love them forever.
When the children may have done the crazy act of burning the grandfather's body, they also choose to communicate with the children patiently, and want to get the development of things from the children's mouth, rather than assuming the facts and asking the children.
On the contrary, in the B family, Uncle Gavin will not listen to the voice of his wife and children, and will be arbitrary and arrogant when encountering things.
When his wife tried to talk to him about his emotional outburst at the supermarket, he cut her off rudely
Similarly, when Margaret was found crying loudly in the bathroom by her son Kenneth, Ken stopped her from speaking.
It can be imagined that in this family, a good communication bridge has not been established, mutual feelings cannot be communicated, and emotional needs cannot be responded to. Children who grow up in this environment are indifferent and habitually choose to ignore what happens around them.
The film asks everyone "what happened?" twice, which is the best proof.
The sorrows and joys of others have nothing to do with me, just because my sorrows and joys never get the attention of my parents (my significant others).
Fortunately, at the end of the film, Uncle Gavin held a simple and relaxed memorial service for his grandfather by the sea.
There is no mass media, no rambunctious socialites, no pompous clichés.
Everyone dances to the crazy violin music of Ken and his new girlfriend.
Just like Grandpa wanted.
Attached is a screenshot of the movie. If you have different thoughts and ideas after only watching the movie once and reading this review, you may wish to revisit the movie and leave a message.
thanks for reading: )
Finally, I will post a paragraph that Mickey said after grandpa left. He appreciates this brave, thoughtful, learning and adventurous boy very much. He is like the Nordic god he reveres: Odin, holding a sword, because he has yearning in his heart, like as free as the wind.
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