The story begins on Carter's ninth birthday. In Carter's favorite lakeside cottage when he was a child, accompanied by Carter's favorite friends, Carter, who was about to blow out candles, heard a quarrel not far away. Carter's father cheated and his parents were arguing fiercely, which was captured on camera forever, with his best friends beside him, and in front of him a delicious birthday cake with a nine-year-old candle, not far away As his parents got closer and the argument became more intense, Carter's mother had to call the police. This unforgettable birthday became an eternal pain in Carter's heart, and he never came to this place again for more than 20 years.
More than 20 years later, Carter's younger brother Trey is getting married. He wants his parents to show up at his wedding at the same time. After he told Carter about it, he was met with fierce opposition from Carter. For more than 20 years, their parents They never appeared at the same time, because once they appeared, the scene would be uncontrollable. Whether it's a holiday, a graduation ceremony, or a funeral. Trey said that only Carter can make his parents appear at the same time. The stronger Carter had to come forward to communicate with his parents for the wedding of his only younger brother.
After meeting with his parents one by one, Carter's inner defenses gradually collapsed one by one. For more than 20 years, he has been carefully maintaining contact with his parents. In order not to make one of them unhappy, Carter has never been on one side. Before mentioning the other party, he never even spent Thanksgiving with his family, for fear that one party would be dissatisfied. He thought that after more than 20 years, he would be stronger and not be influenced by his parents, but it seems that everything is not as easy as he imagined. He had to face the scene he had been avoiding for over two decades, and he felt like he couldn't take it. So in the frenzy of text messages from his parents, he remembered the person who understood him best in his childhood, and he had to find DR. Judith.
At the beginning, I was very happy to meet DR. Judith. From a cautious little boy more than 20 years ago to a successful man, Carter was very proud, but after talking with Judith, Carter's self-esteem suffered a great blow, It turned out that in Judith's eyes, Carter was just a part of the research that year, a data, and it was also an extremely negative data. He did not expect that in Judith's eyes, he was an introvert when he was a child, hiding in his hard shell. Boy, he understands him because of Judith, maybe Judith understands him, but Carter, who has a very strong self-esteem, is reluctant to face his childhood self. In order to prove that he is not an introverted autistic boy, Carter met with his parents and agreed that they should attend the wedding at the same time.
Soon after Judith found Carter again, Carter proudly stated that he had crossed the shadow of childhood, completely independent of his parents' influence, and even controlled the scene. Unexpectedly, Judith was very excited to tell Carter her decision to make a spanning twenty. Years of research, in order to erase the negative self in that year's research, Carter decided to continue to participate in Judith's research. At this moment, the phone rang, it was Carter's stepmother calling, asking about Carter's father's whereabouts. Carter went to his father's house by himself, but found out about his parents cheating in marriage. Carter was shocked and collapsed. He thought his parents hated each other, but how could the enemies be together when they met?
In addition to finding out that his parents were cheating, Carter also had to deal with the guilt of his stepfather and stepmother. The stepfather gave Trey a check to pay for the drinks at the wedding, and the stepmother of the same age rented the house to Carter at a cheap rent to open a restaurant. Carter couldn't tell them what happened or pretend he never ran into his parents cheating. When it came time to meet with Judith every week, Carter resisted acknowledging the influence of his parents on him.
When he cheated for the first time, there was a second time. Carter, who bumped into his parents cheating again, finally collapsed. Under the chaos, he made up his mind to fight back against what his parents did. He invited his father's ex-wife to the wedding, but Carter was caught Lauren's girlfriend, Lauren, found out that after the argument, Lauren said that Judith had contacted her and was saddened by Carter's concealment. The misunderstanding of his girlfriend, the funny stories about his childhood that his parents appeared at the same time when he was drinking tea with Trey's mother-in-law, made Carter very dissatisfied, Carter couldn't afford more, he angrily broke into Judith's house and put all the divorce related sent the paper to Judith and asked her to come forward and question her parents.
Carter finally told his younger brother about his parents' cheating, and the younger brother inadvertently leaked it to his stepmother. The stepmother and father divorced, and Carter's restaurant was taken back by the stepmother, but in the eyes of all the family, all the disasters in front of them were caused by Carter, and all the blame was directed at Carter.
Why does home only hurt people? Carter was resentful, finally disheartened, cut off caring from everyone and kicked his family out of his home.
Without his family and career, Carter, who was empty in his heart, wanted to hold on to something. Lauren had been waiting for Carter's marriage proposal. At this time, Carter finally remembered Lauren, like grabbing a life-saving straw, and got married in the 37 years of Lauren's parents. Propose to Lauren on the anniversary, but Lauren's eyes are not moved, but full of embarrassment. She understood that Carter didn't propose because she loved her, she rejected Carter's proposal. After being rejected, Carter finally had nothing, and Chengri hid at home playing with the drum kit that his father gave him when he was a child but was hidden by his mother. Judith approached him and asked him if he wanted to quit the study. Carter expressed anger because Judith couldn't help him, but Judith said that growing up was painful anyway, and to get rid of the chaos of childhood, Carter had to learn Face it all by yourself, not just with your disappointing parents, but with your past selves. Whether it is disappointment or pain or fear, if you can't learn to accept and face it, they are still garbage waiting to be dealt with in the back of your memory. This emotional trash can be ignored, but it's always there to affect you. Perhaps it was the communication with Judith that influenced Carter, who finally returned to his childhood hut on his ninth birthday, where he was ready to burn the pile of papers from his parents' divorce and the painful memories of his childhood. At this time, everyone appeared in the hut at the same time as agreed. The parents, brother and his wife came to the house party together. The stepfather came to fish. Everyone except him often came to the lake house, only he couldn't face the beauty because of the shadow of childhood.
After arguing with her father, the stepmother smoked outside the hut, and accidentally lit the paper that Carter had poured with gasoline but hadn't ignited. The flames ignited the entire house. Overnight, the hut was completely destroyed. Standing in front of the ruins, everyone was infinite Sigh. After the disaster, Carter faced the ruins alone, with tears in his eyes.
At Judith's book club, Lauren, who already understood Carter, reconnected with Carter.
At the end of the story, Carter's father, Carter and Carter's younger brother, father and son, entered the wedding hall together.
I think this movie is a good example of how parents who neglect their children hurt their own children. Carter has been a child with a strong sense of responsibility and self-esteem since he was a child. Facing a series of problems such as parental derailment, mutual slander and attack, domestic violence, emotional manipulation and strange family relationships, Carter has been deeply hurt and at the same time very well. He stood up by himself, his long-cherished hope was to grow up and leave such a family, he did it, he became a successful man, mature, tolerant, and he also protected his younger brother very well and made his own The younger brother is protected from harm, so Trey when he grows up is so carefree, innocent, innocent, impulsive, and dependent on his brother, living in his brother's garage but ready to meet the four months old. girl's wedding. Carter did protect his younger brother, but he was hurt a lot by his parents' failed marriage, and after 4 years with Lauren, he still couldn't believe in marriage. I think the final expression of the film is that Carter can finally face everything and walk into the wedding hall.
The movie's costumes and music are all in place, and Carter went from being a successful man in a suit and tie at the beginning, to a man who only wears casual clothes after losing the restaurant. And Carter's parents, always dressed up, and Carter's younger brother, always plain. The music is always on while Carter is contemplating.
This movie is not a very hilarious comedy, it is not very funny, but it is suitable for single parents or children who are hurt by their parents.
My understanding of the film is that if you can, please face it calmly, after all, Carter has spent twenty years telling us that waiting and running away do not solve problems.
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