It was very attractive at first, but I didn't expect it to be about old age. Although the filming is good and the soundtrack is good, I am not interested in old age issues, nor do I want to watch the famous movie "Love". Sometimes when I happen to see such a movie, I feel hopeless, really uninterested, and a little resisted. Anyway, I don't want to live to be so old that I don't have to think about those things. Old people are really pitiful and troublesome.
The movie starts very well, the man is telling someone their story and he says she asks if it would be fun for us to get married? When someone asked him what did you say, he said I picked her up. I can't leave her for a moment. She is the spark in my life. Then there is her young and beautiful face, which occupies the whole picture, smiling and touching. But the name of this movie is Away From Her. I don't know why the Chinese name is "The Willows and Flowers". After watching it, I don't think there is any reason for such a name.
There are some good episodes where they read books together, one to the other, and sometimes the book is so familiar that the other person picks up on it. And go play together and see those flowers. Fiona likes flowers very much, and once saw some big yellow flowers, she said: When I look elsewhere, I forget the meaning of yellow, but I can look back and look again, sometimes there are interesting things in the flowers. Imagine putting your hand in a curled petal and feeling its heat, I can't be sure, I can't be sure if I'm feeling the heat or if I'm imagining it. Heat attracts insects, and nature is never sloppy, always in heavy make-up. It is probably these readings and the plot of watching flowers that made me stick to it.
Unexpectedly, she has Alzheimer's disease, and can't remember many things. Gradually, she will probably forget everything, and she will also forget this man who has been with her for 44 years. She read books about Alzheimer's and found that as memory loss became more and more troublesome to her family, she decided to go to a nursing home. Grant disagreed, but she insisted. Out of love and respect for her, he had to compromise. He said repeatedly to Fiona, I don't think you'd like it there. But she said, I don't think we can go looking for what we like. I don't think we'll ever find out, and in the current situation, all we can hope for is to try to handle this as decently as possible.
Later, she had to take her to a sanatorium. She passed by the place where she had seen yellow flowers. She even remembered that they had come together the year before. Arrived at the nursing home, went to her room, he said again that it was not suitable for her and hoped she would change her mind. In order to allow patients to adapt to the environment and not be affected by their family members, it is stipulated that they can only visit after one month. Grant was distressed, and Fiona said thirty days was short for forty-four years.
She said: "There are things we never talk about that I still want to make clear. will you Love Me? You still have sex with me despite all the constraints around you. I want to have sex with you and then let you go, I'm here to stay, and your stay makes me feel even more unbearable. I might burst into tears and couldn't stop. Then they made love and she let him go. It seems that there is no such thing as having sex in the old age-themed movies that I have seen before. They've always been in love, and as passionate as young people, but the movie doesn't show desire, it just feels loving, which is better.
Life is full of variables. A month later, he brings precious flowers to visit Fiona, but he doesn't know him anymore, and what's worse is that she has fallen in love with another old man, Aubrey. She became terrified whenever he tried to get her to reminisce, she said with Aubrey, he didn't confuse her, not at all. Seeing the two of them being intimate together, Grant was heartbroken, but there was nothing he could do. He still went to see her every day, and when he saw her, he was in a very tormented mood.
One day he brought her a copy of Letters from Iceland, which he said they had said before that they would read it together.
- Where is Iceland?
- Iceland is an island country in the middle of the North Atlantic Ocean. The youngest country in the world is constantly entangled with volcanoes, earthquakes, always shaking.
- It's nice to be from a young country!
- He said, that's where you came from, and that's where your nation came from. They are immigrants from the eighteenth world here. That is your hometown. Fiona, I've taught, I've taught in the past, mythology there, Norse mythology.
- I must have been there. have i been there?
--no.
—Oh, I see. I'm not curious.
- very curious. You always say that there is a place in the world that you not only understand, but miss. Even dreaming about it, but never seen it.
-Did I say so?
—Yes, you said that.
When they talk like this, I really hope that she will be able to flash her mind and suddenly remember the past, and remember that the person in front of her is the person she loves deeply. But the miracle did not happen, she suddenly remembered Aubrey who was in love with him now, so she left Grant to find him.
Later, when he came to see her, he saw that she was wearing a tacky striped sweater. She had changed from the elegant and noble look before, and became as bloated and ordinary as the other patients. But she looked happy with Aubrey in that sweater. It's really sad to have a bloated back in someone else's sweater, pushing Aubrey's wheelchair away.
Once when he went to a nursing home, he met a very impatient girl who was visiting patients. He chatted with her, he said that the beautiful and elegant woman was his wife, and the girl asked why you didn't sit with her. He said she fell in love with the man next to her and forgot who he was. The girl asked what he was doing, and he said: just learning to give her more space, she fell in love with the man sitting with her, that's all I can do. Like coming to see her, to make sure she's okay, I think I must look pathetic.
To love someone is not to possess, but to make him happy and happy in the way he wants. A long time ago, I felt that what I could not get was going to be destroyed so that no one else could get it. Later, I gradually learned to be successful, so that although I am lost, I will not suffer. In fact, if you take a step back and think about it, you don't want that person so much, you are just angry because you can't get it, and you are unwilling. When you really get it, maybe everything becomes boring and you don't want it.
If the days continue like this, I don’t know what will happen, maybe it can be maintained. But there were too many variables, and the old man was taken back by his family. Without him, Fiona became miserable, depressed, getting worse, getting much older in an instant, and getting sicker. The elegant and beautiful old lady of the past was gone, and she became very sloppy, with disheveled hair and sickly, just like an ordinary old man.
To cheer her up, he went to the old man's wife, hoping to get him back to the nursing home and let them be together. The woman refused his request, saying that if she didn't take him back, she would lose the house, the house was very important to her, and she had only the house left. They talked about loneliness, and he said people do get lonely, especially when they can't see people they care about. Many scenes in this movie are set in winter, the roads and doors are almost blocked by white snow, and the cold sunshine has no temperature, which makes people doubly desolate. Watching him shoveling snow, then sighing and throwing down his tools, feels so lonely. Probably in cold places, people are more prone to sadness, loneliness, and despair. Love has become more important. Someone must love each other and snuggle to keep warm.
Sometimes, Grant would chat with a caregiver, and she said that in this job, she was used to seeing life and death every day, and her experience with death was that maybe death itself was not wrong. It's not too late to change yourself to be the other person you want to be. She said: "You know, nothing can take away what has happened to you. It was an unforgettable experience, at least that's what I thought. Even if somehow those disappear, you're still there, you're still the same you. He also told the nurse about their first love, saying that looking back on that time, everything was cruel, but in the end, he found that all those things were so superficial compared to the current ending.
Aubrey's wife also said: The only thing that distinguishes one kind of people from another is that some people burn with anger and others accept reality. When she told what happened to her, Grant said it was bad luck, but she didn't think so, just said it was life. This is life, what a sad sentence. Appointment, no more expectations, no more hope, just give up like that, and resign. Is life all about adapting, accepting what you don't want?
When they were very painful and helpless, they went to bed, but they couldn't comfort each other's pain and loneliness, everything was still very helpless. When people are in distress and suffering, it is best not to do anything casually, which may make everything uncontrollable, overwhelmed, and fall into an embarrassing situation. If you can face everything casually and don't feel troubled, just go ahead and do whatever you want.
Later, the woman was finally moved by Grant's affection and agreed that Grant would take Aubrey to the nursing home and let him meet Fiona. Grant told Fiona to give her a surprise, and asked her if she remembered Aubrey, and she said she seemed to remember such a person. At this time, what Grant had always hoped happened, Fiona threw into his arms like a child, and told him not to abandon her. I don't know if she remembered who he was, but I don't think she remembered, it was just that the memory of Aubrey faded and the pain went away. At the same time, Grant, who appeared by his side every day, developed trust, dependence, and a sense of security.
All this is not at all like the Chinese name of the movie "Liu Yin Hua Ming", and everything is not getting worse and worse. When life reaches its twilight years, it is inevitable that there will be all kinds of pain, physical pain, spiritual loneliness, and fear of death. I feel that I am about to be abandoned by life, everything will never come back, just step by step towards death, towards the unknown world. Even the memory will be lost, the comfort of the memory will not be able to enjoy. It's really pitiful and sad to be old, there is no hope, only despair.
Probably this movie, the love of that man, will make many people feel warm, feel that they are old, and see hope. But all of this, this movie, reinforces the idea of ending my life when I become unconscious and in control of it. But perhaps, at that time, people will not want to die and will be afraid. Therefore, from now on, you must consciously cultivate your own awareness. When you cannot enjoy the joy of life, you must never be greedy for life, and you cannot live without dignity, but to end it in time.
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