I like this drama so much, I have watched the treasure drama I found in BiliBili last night, twice in two days.
It is very strange that, as a daughter of a narcissistic mother, I have deep empathy for this narcissistic heroine. She almost completely embodies the qualities of a narcissist, such as self-concern, lack of empathy for others, ostentious outside yet coward inside, etc. Perhaps the plot is well shaped. During the course of more than ten episodes, the heroine has undergone significant changes. Under Henry's company, guidance and transformation, the heroine gradually established a relationship with people and had sincere interactions with the people around her. Real narcissists are never so prone to this kind of change. Similar rounds of attacking each other and refusing to admit after the wedding in the first episode have come several times. People around them have exhausted their narcissists in the process. mercy. But the heroine in the TV series sees obvious changes in every episode, and this unrealistic difference will not be investigated. The most important thing is that the heroine is very, very sincere. Every time she is uncomfortable, I feel her discomfort very deeply. Whether it's the pain of realizing that he has no friends, or the pain of being rejected by Henry every time. Especially after being rejected by Henry, Chandelier, the female lead singer, is really amazing. I searched QQ Music and couldn't find anyone who sang better than her.
Excluding reasons such as acting skills and changing mirrors, these kinds of performances closely describe the inner self of the narcissist. They may feel empty, lonely and vulnerable within themselves. In the deep down place, the heroine feels that she is ugly and will always be the ugliest girl in middle school. To this end, she made a lot of efforts and attempts, and finally made her appearance into a state of blingbling. She maintains her fitness routine, controls her diet, hones her makeup skills, buys a ton of clothes to adorn herself, and becomes a coordinating expert. In the transformation of herself, the heroine has put in a lot of effort. This power is really like Henry said, and it can't be successful if you use it. But even though she is now a glamorous beauty, she always remembers that at the core, she was a kid whose hair would be cut off when she went to a bully's house for the night in middle school. To a certain extent, the heroine adopts identification with the attacker to defend and protect herself. The heroine was bullied by the most popular girl in middle school. In order to defend herself, she chose to become such a girl, to become such a bright and beautiful person, who only cares about herself and not others, and pays attention to the empty praise. But the heroine is never that kind of person. In her heart, the heroine is still just a little girl who diligently seeks to protect herself. She thought that becoming perfect on the outside would protect her from being isolated and helpless, but after she became beautiful and exaggerated, she found that she still had no friends, and finally decided to make a change. What she didn't understand was that she had actually picked the wrong sample. The bullying narcissist is actually filled with emptiness, shame, fear, and cruelty. They learn too early about the sophistication of the world and decide to climb to the top of the sophistication hierarchy to maintain their thin shell. Never work on yourself. When Henry asked the heroine to look for the role model, how could such a bully really become a role model worthy of emulation. The wonderful thing about this show is that many years later, the heroine found that the girls who cut her hair and bullied her had to play her in the end to gain the worship and belief in the world. This design is like a mirror. The screenwriter uses this as a mirror to subtly capture the growth and strength that the heroine has gained over the years. I'm afraid the bullying girl didn't think that the girl who had been bullied would have such a day when she first wrote the book. The heroine really grew into a person with a super bright appearance and an excellent career. One of the things I like about the heroine is that her journey has not been easy, but she has taken the correct and most painful path step by step.
In addition to narcissism, the heroine also has some borderline qualities. (This may also be a trait of narcissism, I don't distinguish so clearly) The heroine is very afraid that it doesn't matter, every time she is abandoned is her most painful time. The heroine gives the feeling that there is no clear boundary between her and the outside world. She often does not know that her dress and some words and actions are inappropriate for the scene. At the same time, once she likes someone, for example, if she likes Henry and wants to give him a birthday party, she will break into the other person's house without any boundaries and hold it for him. This is definitely not an advantage in daily life, but this trait also makes me, watching her in front of TV, feel her pain so truly. I don't know if the actor's acting is too good, but every time she breaks her heart, I feel a strong empathy. I know I have recommended it, but that song Chandelier has to be recommended again, it was written for the heroine. She couldn't bear this kind of extreme and heartbreaking pain, so at the karaoke banquet, as soon as Henry left, the hostess picked up a bottle of wine and got herself drunk. She was very sincere and too emotional for that scene. Begin to sing revealingly, get drunk and go crazy, and have sex with people you shouldn't. These are the things that the heroine often does. I suspect that in her daily life, she may often feel the deep-rooted pain brought by loneliness. In order not to let this loneliness follow like a maggot on a bone, these actions are often used to get rid of pain and temporarily paralyze oneself. The heroine is actually a person without skin. In her daily life, she may easily feel that others do not accept her, and interpersonal non-acceptance is the most painful thing she has felt since middle school, so she must be superficial, self-concerned, and unreasonable. Heart, otherwise how can you protect yourself? She's a child who hasn't grown up yet and doesn't understand "Why do people still dislike me when I'm already so beautiful?"
It has been said that children who grow up in narcissistic homes tend to be somewhat narcissistic. Maybe this part of me empathizing with the heroine is empathizing with a part of myself. The heroine is not necessarily a complete narcissist, she has traces of neglect and narcissism trauma on her body. Paradoxically, she is both hurt by narcissism and someone who hurts others with narcissism. Therefore, such a person may exist by my side in reality and I will hate her, but when I see the most real part of her from a distance, I feel sympathy, pity, and even love her.
After the narcissism part, let's talk about the dress of the show. The heroine is too beautiful! It's not that her face is 100% beautiful, she looks a bit like an American cartoon I watched as a child, and the protagonist is an anthropomorphic mouse who runs a farm. But many of her outfits are just too good for her. Appearance, as she herself said, has Ariel's long reddish-brown hair (Ariel is the heroine of "The Little Mermaid"). The complexion is pure white, so it is suitable for colors with high saturation and strong contrast; colors that are not suitable for gray tones, such as Morandi or her wedding dress, will look haggard; it is also not suitable for light mixed with a lot of white. It doesn't matter if it's cool or warm. ⬇️The following are some of the combinations that I think are wonderful or bad.
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