After reading it, I still don't know how to write: It seems simple, the story of a girl who was drugged and sexually assaulted to get rid of her inner demon.
In fact, it wants to express far more than that.
Until recently, the news of Lin Shengbin's remarriage and having a daughter broke out. Four years ago, he lost his wife and children due to arson by his nanny. Although he didn't pay much attention to him, he still often heard about him: claiming compensation from a real estate company, opening an online store, and doing live broadcasts.
What remains unchanged is the image of the beloved wife: strong, affectionate, innocent.
Even when the current wife is about to give birth, she has to write a sentence "I will go to you after my life is over."
Life has been moving forward for a long time, and I can't put it down online. Thinking about it now, his image itself is worth scrutinizing.
Because it's too flat.
This is the most thought-provoking part of the British drama "I May Destory You":
A victim can be very multi-faceted, and some may even seem less sympathetic.
Victims may be morally vulnerable
Although it is not popular in China, it has won numerous awards in the British Oscar BAFTA. It discusses several hot topics in Europe and the United States - sexual assault, sexual openness, PTSD, and the extreme feminism we are more familiar with.
The story stems from the true experience of star and director/writer Mikaela Cole:
In her spare time writing the script for the second season of the sitcom Chewing Gum, she was once hanging out with friends and was sexually assaulted after drinking.
She stopped preparations for the third season for this, and it took her two and a half years to come out.
The same goes for the protagonist Arabella. The day after I came back from the bar, I found unidentified scars on my head:
The twisted face of a strange man when he orgasms, flashing back in his mind:
I don't know where the phone was broken.
I don't remember how I got out of the bar and who sent me home.
After piecing together the itinerary, she realized that someone had drugged her wine and sexually assaulted her.
It's been a painful experience, but the details I'll add next make things a little nuanced:
She went to the bar to play sex, regardless of the deadline for the next day's submission (and received a 1/4 deposit in advance).
She has a history of drug addiction, which was sold to her by a drug dealer she met while traveling in Italy.
And travel is still paid for by the publishing house.
Did you suddenly find that you are not as sympathetic as you thought?
This is the first shock to the audience. When Mikaela Cole created this character, she wanted to make her seem less sympathetic, so that the audience could reflect :
- Does rape happen to prostitutes?
- Can a liar accuse someone of cheating on him?
- Does a murderer have the right to have a lawyer defend him?
In many cases, our judgments have nothing to do with the law.
That is, the simple good is rewarded with good, and the evil is rewarded with evil.
What is good and what is evil, everyone's standards are different.
That's why so many people defend only the perfect victim, the only people who can meet the moral standards of all.
But there are no standards for morality, and there are standards for laws.
As long as something happens, it will violate the law, and there will be related victims and perpetrators.
After the sexual assault incident, Arabella met an Indian-American writer, and the two of them made eye contact, so they went to bed together.
As a result, the writer quietly took off the condom while she was not paying attention.
Sex against a woman's will without a condom is considered rape in the UK. In one case, he was sentenced to 12 years in prison, suspended for six years.
Although the writer is very gentle, after being discovered, he even said sorry "I thought you could feel it". But Sven doesn't cancel out that he's a rapist.
Likewise, flawed morality cannot offset the suffering of the victim.
Victim may be perpetrator
Kwame is Arabella's gay honey and a sea king.
Once he made an appointment with a buddy, the first time he was very happy, just when he wanted to leave, the other party suddenly pushed him down and forced him to come for the second time.
A major feature of this play is that the concept of "sexual permission" is dismantled in great detail . In addition to the previous halfway extraction and involuntary second behavior, there are also premeditated 3Ps that can be disguised as chance encounters and whether It's time to confess your sexuality before having sex...etc.
In the words of Mikaela Kerr: Before you undress, anything that makes you hesitate to continue is about sexual permission.
Non-consensual sex is not just about no one being attacked by strong men, the reality is complicated.
Speaking of Kwame, after this incident, he was very traumatized, and he was afraid of having sex with men.
So he changed his date to a woman... Of course, he didn't say he was gay.
As a result, the woman put her feet up and laughed at the gay guy afterwards. He couldn't hold back and said that I was actually too.
Just when the woman stormed him out, he was still arguing:
People develop psychiatric problems, anxiety, selective amnesia, and even aggressive behavior after major trauma.
The subconscious mind never has the motive to hurt itself, but when it does, it uses the wrong method.
Being hurt is real, and hurting others is also real.
After Arabella reported the case, the police searched for months and found nothing, and declared the case closed.
Depressed, she flew to Italy to find her drug lord and gunmate, without saying hello in advance, and entered the door with a spare key that was hidden outside the house. When the gun friend came home and saw her, he was almost scared to death.
She was locked out while she was going downstairs to get takeout.
The man drove the woman out, which sounded very unbecoming.
But think about it, isn't it scary to see your dewy marriage nine months ago in your living room.
If the gender is reversed, it will only be more terrifying.
Mikaela Kerr is also using this method to remind the audience: it is a matter of fact, one code is one code.
You were hurt on A, and I owe you justice in this matter.
If you hurt others on B, then you also owe others justice.
Victims speaking up is not necessarily for justice
After being kicked out by her gunmates, Arabella fell into a long low period. Empty, she keeps speaking on social media:
"I hate straight white people!"
"Men are childish to death"
"Be content with being a man, after all, you will never be raped in your life"
Much like extreme feminism, right?
I've thought about why extreme feminism is so malicious towards men (not one man, but all men).
It seems to say something to help men, and in their opinion, they can die.
In fact, the original hatred has specific targets, patriarchal fathers, ex-boyfriends who always abandon them, husbands who use themselves as nanny... And they can't do anything other than vent their anger.
To rationalize their anger, they expanded their attack groups.
One person is called Xianglinsao, and a group of people are called fighters.
The same goes for Arabella, who hides "I hate that rapist", "I hate him for not wearing a condom", "I hate him for kicking me out" behind "I hate men".
People who also have hatred but are not good at expressing will pay attention to her and resonate with her.
I read Lin Shengbin's previous Weibo, and I often confided to him the pain of losing the exclusive leader. This is also the effect of creating a soulful character.
Arabella's psychologist said a sentence:
Voice on social media comes at the cost of listening.
As a blogger, you can't just leave after talking, you have to accept the fans' emotions.
This is a very big test for the spirit, all kinds of people will meet, and new media is also an industry with a high incidence of depression.
Those who can persevere, either have a particularly strong desire to express, or want to realize it.
It is even more difficult to use the painful experience as the theme and repeatedly uncover the scars.
I remember a fable: the little monkey was injured, and every time he saw a friend, he would open the scar and say that he was injured, and finally died because of the wound infection.
Arabella is this little monkey. She couldn't stand the overwhelming messages and chose to quit the network.
She followed the 3Rs of counselors: rest, reflect, recover, enjoy the company of friends on days away from the Internet, finish her manuscript, and stand up again.
And those monkeys who have been showing their wounds gracefully may have healed long ago.
Most people are not cute when placed under a magnifying glass.
Nor will he become a saint because of misfortune.
Arabella's experience tells the audience: a real victim, is multi-faceted, contradictory, and even controversial.
Monotonous innocence, inspirational, full of justice, just shows that it is abnormal.
Those who are good at marketing will use our stereotypes of victims to create personas and profit from them.
And as stereotypes intensify, we also choose to ignore victims who don't seem so pleasing.
This is precisely a vicious circle that annihilates justice.
I hope this drama can give you a deeper understanding of human nature. When the next Lin Shengbin incident comes, ask yourself:
Is my solidarity and support for justice, or is it moved by people?
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