Married life is essentially about human nature. Even though I had all sorts of predictions about the story through spoilers before watching, I still have to admit that I overestimated myself after watching the opening sequence.
Bergman's undertones are so cold that only Haneke can compete with him. But the film with a cold background is not cold, and the marriage life is directly and rudely full of violence and pornography. As a film that is also built on dialogue, the scale of the conversation even makes adults feel horrified. Bergman shows no mercy. , tearing off the scab to see the scar below is what he is passionate about.
The first act to the end is enough to break the audiences who are addicted to the false peace. Only then did I find out that Ang Lee was taught by Bergman, and Bergman was more than capable of controlling his emotions. Watching the couple's reaction is like watching a documentary, it's not even a script, the two's reaction is life itself. Part of our construction of marriage as an image stems from an outsider's assumption of our marriage, and honesty beyond that assumption involves a matter of proportions. Frank, the more frank the stranger. The more you want to go overboard and break through a certain barrier, the more out of place it becomes. In the part about Bibby Anderson and her husband, I watched their expressions several times before I gradually noticed the subtlety. A single joke about him can destroy all the pretense and instantly shatter all the pretense. This is the fragility of marriage. But when the sword is drawn, the nostalgia can be calm and calm, which is the power of marriage. Marriage is a combination of filth and decency, a resistance of self and altruism. There are two forces fighting and weighing all the time. It is a tug of war, but because of playing Tai Chi and playing football, moral laziness and self-comfort these things that conform to human nature, so And become so strong that it is indestructible.
If we don't look at married life, we will feel that it is just marriage, and I can stand it. Tolerable and delaminated are two concepts. Those who persist in marriage will delaminate even if they die. Only the parties can understand the sense of collapse. The representative scenes selected by Bergman are that they give the actors a place to express themselves candidly in the gray area, which brings the whole gray area closer to black and white. What is possessiveness? What is libido? Why is sexual desire contrary to the soul? Why can't I be 100% honest with my lover? Why can't I have sex with someone I can be 100% honest with? Why can we keep convincing ourselves to get what we don't really want in our marriage? Why is sweetness the beginning of a new wave of boredom? Why do we have the most genuine love and hatred for a person? Can we accept these as side effects of our marriage relationship? Or are they the main theme of the marriage relationship? How do we confront human nature in marriage to achieve self-identity? Why can't we self-control sacrifice and self-move self-hypnosis?
The heroine is not the kind of woman that society sees today, she is not a feminist, she is docile and distressing, but she seems to understand the true meaning of love. She is sacrificing, she is working hard, she will be low to the dust, but she is not willing to give up tenderness to maintain self-esteem. In the 1970s, there was no emotional chicken soup, no emotional bloggers, and no tutorials. What held the two together was not skill but pure expression and instinct. The third act is the heroine's self-awakening, although she doesn't realize it at the moment. Presumably no one of us realizes what it means to us until it happens, and instinctive responses and hidden self-control tell us what our subconscious is really thinking. The female protagonist has always been in perfect self-control, and the male protagonist is even more willing to accompany her to play this rival scene with only two calm and carnival because of her perfect self-control. The play can go on and on, but the crush cannot. The heartbeat is the heartbeat, the unknown factor x appears, and all false peace is disrupted. Does marriage mean stability? Why do women break down? The whim of the woman is that the grudges of the man are deep. It turns out that a person can hide himself for a lifetime, and even the person next to him can't change anything. Marriage can create an illusion, love can create an illusion, sweetness can create an illusion, and boredom can create an illusion. Why should we be cruel to each other, why should we be sweet to each other, why should we be rough to each other, why should we be gentle to each other? Where do emotions come from? Is it from routine or obligation, from surprise or hypnosis? Is it from belief or reality? Is it from others or from the self?
The story is very simple again, love, don't love, hate, between love and not love, love again. What is the form of love's existence? Can marriage be the best container for love? What is the best if not the best? Because love is too ethereal, everyone constantly seeks evidence and self-evidence to find traces of love, "Do you love me? I think you have loved me."
There is nothing unacceptable in married life, as in any human relationship that requires a piece of paper as a carrier of meaning or a general equivalent. We just like fake things because they're safe; we just don't take things to the table because it's indecent. Decent is a by-product of human civilization, we can't even define its good or bad, we want to sit back and avoid it, we want too much and give too little, because human beings are fragile animals and even gender matters. This matter also becomes less important. Will we miss that time, when there was no civilization, we just put each other on the ground to have a fight, the sun rises and the sun sets, and there is no life and no worries. By accepting that pain is a necessity of life, we accept marriage, we accept relationships, and we accept ourselves. Swedes choose to divorce after watching this loveless marriage movie, but if you can't accept you as you after divorce, then you still can't accept you as you
Returning to the topic, Bergman is a movie in which married life has raised almost all marriage themes. After this Bible, every subsequent movie is just a snippet from it to enlarge. "45 years", "years of exile", in the end, marriage is not only a matter of loyalty and even morality, but also whether we can accept the black hole in human nature, whether we can accept the emotions that we think we don't have, how to deal with accidents and a series of questions. The strength of the people who maintain the marriage is not only that they have a backbone such as faith to guide everything, but that they give themselves to another person without reservation in their self-consciousness without knowing the future. Even unreserved means harm, violence, manipulation and loss of self. What is powerful about marriage is the deep bond between inquiry and someone who will never be 100% trusted or understood, the existence of tolerance and possibility, the acceptance of a shift of gravity that goes against human nature: I am no longer number one , but home is, marriage is, and I'm willing to give anything for these things, even if only on the surface. I am no longer me, but I am the new me again.
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