【Step by step sculpture】
In the play "It's Okay, It's Okay", the two protagonists have their own trauma and morbidity.
【Wen Jiangtai】
The male protagonist Wen Jiangtai was born to take care of his brother. His repression and restraint were shaped by the day after tomorrow. Morality, responsibility and emotion bound and carved him, making him a person centered on others. His ego is never satisfied, he longs to be cared for, and he supplies others as he desires. The attitude towards others is actually what he wishes he could get from others.
Ordinarily such a mentality should have a warm response to Julie. But his inner pattern is not "you give me love and I receive" but "I supply you and you need". His relationship with his brother was maintained for a long time under this model. This is what attracted him to the heroine in his childhood. He could feel the needs of the heroine and the emptiness in the heroine's heart. He wanted to supply her, but was scared away by the act of tearing the butterfly. Since then, he has been running away from this kind of fright. What he escaped is not the butterfly, but the panic brought about by the rejection of this feeding method.
【Gao Wenying】
The heroine Gao Wenying seems to be a high-energy anti-social borderline personality, low empathy, and difficult to understand others. But how much of this personality is spontaneous and how much is shaped?
Her mother played an important role in her upbringing. The mother molds her according to her own wishes, molds her into a witch, encourages and affirms her early antisocial behavior, and puts her in an inner disorder.
Her father is powerless to his wife, he does not like such a daughter and cannot understand her inner feelings. When he heard Gao Wenying's name, his first reaction was not anger but fear. This daughter is a monster in his eyes. His ability is not enough to understand her, and he is completely unable to catch her moves, so he wants to escape her, and when he cannot escape, he will destroy her.
This is Gao Wenying's pain. Her mother shapes her according to her own intentions, while her father refuses to shape her. This inner conflict gave her a desire for self-destruction. When she was strangled by the girl's father in the mental hospital, what she showed was not an instinctive resistance, but a death request.
When she told Julie that although her mother was dead, her soul was alive, what she expressed was not necessarily her nostalgia for her mother, but the despair that she could not get rid of her mother's control. Although her mother died, the perverted soul she created wandered and drifted in her body, controlling her life.
【Lost child】
This picture book story created by Gao Wenying touched Wen Jiangtai.
why?
As a writer, her self-substitution is the loss of a child, and she longs for hugs, warmth and love, but expresses her appetite.
The representative's description of her behavior is correct, beautiful and beautiful things, which cause possession, destruction and abandonment in her heart. How she treats herself is how she treats others and foreign objects. She doesn't necessarily find deep satisfaction in the process, but it has been shaped into her own behavioral patterns. Besides, she didn't know any other way to get along with herself and others. It also explains why she self-sabotages her future with all sorts of anti-social bizarre behaviors. She didn't know how to negotiate with herself, how to feed the hungry child inside.
And when Wen Jiangtai was reading this story, what he substituted for himself was not the zombie child, but the mother's body.
He was born as an extension of his mother's body.
From the moment he was born, his mother shaped this path of no choice for him.
He couldn't resist.
He is the body that the mother gave to the eldest son to feed the eldest son.
Day and night, his dreams, his aspirations, his future, were swallowed up.
And he was accustomed to being swallowed: swallowed by absurd fate, swallowed by injustice, swallowed by his brother's needs, swallowed by the patient's extraordinary behavior... He was in pain, but there was no way out.
Therefore, Gao Wenying's aggressiveness and aggressiveness made him disgusted on the one hand, but attracted him irresistibly on the other hand. He used years of professional experience to escape and resist, but such a fatal temptation made all struggles pale.
He let his heart adapt to the pain of being swallowed, and he suppressed his ego to the extreme. The body is full of visible scars, but who can see the pain of the soul?
【Two Desperate Hearts】
There are only four episodes in the series so far, and making the above analysis is obviously very risky.
According to the current story, it is not only Gao Wenying, but also Wen Jiangtai who needs to be healed.
He was the grey kid in the class. Quietly, not crying, not making trouble, his heart is not the landscape of the wasteland, but the body of the wasteland and weeds.
He longed for a burning, longing to be seen, longing for the existence of self to be confirmed. That's why he expressed envy to the congressman's son. He wants to regain the subjectivity of himself and not the caregiver of others.
Gao Wenying needs to reconcile with the self shaped by her mother;
Wen Jiangtai needs to draw a clear line with the self that his mother has created.
I really don't want this drama to end up cursing my mother. It doesn't seem ideal at the moment, and it's likely to be the future.
In a patriarchal family, a strong mother is actually a supplement to an absent and faulty father, which is secondary.
The real root cause of the disease is the father's inability to provide his family with love and the lack of healthy intimacy with his family.
This is also a chronic disease that patriarchy cannot heal itself.
What will happen next?
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