My dear mother, my fucking life

Ephraim 2022-09-28 16:36:24

The world has never been fair.

There are always people who are RMB players when they are born, and there are always people who are set to hard mode in their mother's womb.

Tonya Harding's life is obviously the latter. After all, she even carries "hard" in her name.

It's just that she seems to be lucky, and her extraordinary talent is like another window opened by God to make up for her.

Although this window did not become a shortcut for Tonya to upgrade and clear the level, it became her innate curse-the atypical female figure skater with a red neck background became the first in American history to complete the three on ice. Athlete of the week and a half, do you think the old man in the sky is kind or disgusting?

The truth of the beating incident has long become Rashomon, and no one dares to assert that the restoration of the movie is more or less real or fictional, so the Tonya discussed here is limited to movies.

Except for the tribute footage of waving a baseball bat, Margot Robbie does not see Harley Quinn in the film, and the performance is also very compatible with the movie's black comedy style.

Personally, I really like the style of the film and the choice in form, especially the part of the couple's life where Tonya and Jeff fall in love and kiss each other. With BGM, it has a Quentinian romantic meaning.

In the film, Tonya's family is unfortunate, her marriage is bad, and even the only proud skating is insulated from her for the rest of her life. Her three identities, daughter, wife, and athlete, all use a ridiculous and heart-wrenching way. , Announcing her total fucking life. But in the final analysis, there are probably two words that cannot escape: the original family.

The term "native family" has been mentioned more and more in recent years. A casual search for related issues will definitely open new doors to people's understanding of family affection.

Although it is not the only factor that affects a person's growth, the trauma of an unfortunate family to children will often accompany a lifetime.

Assholes will not cease to be assholes just because they become parents. In the movie, Tonya's mother, Lavona, is definitely one of the best assholes' mothers. This image reminds me of the mother of the horse boy PoJack for a few times.

Lavona is smart, indifferent, selfish, knows how to protect herself, and knows how to hurt others. She is full of swear words and rude behavior, which is the "white rubbish" despised by the elite, and those so-called elites are often ruthlessly mocked and counterattacked by her.

It's just that such a counterattack can only stay at the point of spitting into the milk and pulling a red rope at the door. Once it encounters reality, it has to surrender and surrender.

It's like the tape recorder in your pocket.

Supporting Tonya skating is one of Lavona's mother's most important things. But this is not purely out of love, but out of anticipation of Tonya's talent, or in other words, anticipation of oneself.

She believes that Tonya's talent is given by her, and Tonya's success means her own success to a certain extent.

Those little princesses who are pampered, noble and exquisite are still defeated by my daughter.

But Lavona was jealous of such a success.

Tonya's talent gave her a chance to jump out of the bottom and become a star that is highly anticipated. Lavona has never had such an opportunity.

Her so-called "Tonya slippery better when angry" is just an excuse for self-hypnosis. This excuse allows her to degrade and abuse Tonya with confidence, trample on her self-esteem and love, and speak loudly about Tonya's hatred of her. The necessary sacrifice of a mother".

It was a cruel and shameful joke.

She was proud of her education that made Tonya a champion, but did she really make Tonya the champion?

In Tonya's bones, there was a rebellious spirit that refused to admit defeat, and this spirit continued to increase under the daily blows of Lavona. Hard means not only difficulty, but also hard. Tonya is like a smelly and hard stone, slamming it in front of the elegant and dignified figure skating judges.

She is not a beautiful and well-behaved lady, she does not have a happy "American family", she does not follow the traditional style, insists on herself, and strives for authority and authority in order to be treated fairly. She trains day after day. Skating is the only career she loves. Every honor on the field is more difficult and heavier than others.

Such a setting, changing the script, can be an inspirational genius to create a new era of figure skating.

But the movie has to follow reality, and Tonya in reality is a genius who has been cut by fate.

Before that significant three and a half weeks of action, the mother in the movie hired someone to abuse Tonya frantically beside the stadium. Perhaps it was this fact that made Lavona even more convinced that the education method she chose was successful.

She deliberately ignored the decisive role played by Tonya's efforts and talent in this matter.

So as a mother, what influence did Lavona have on Tonya?

Tonya, who has never experienced maternal love, married the first hairy boy who praised her beauty, even if she was often beaten for no reason—it’s okay, doesn't her mother beat her father often.

I said earlier that Lavona is very smart and very accurate. She doesn't like Jeff, won't be with the person who beat her, won't marry a fool.

But does Tonya have a choice? The sporadic love Jeff handed over had never felt since her father left. Lavona’s sensible advice is like standing on the shore and shouting to someone who is about to drown, why are you so stupid? Straw can't save your life.

But that straw was the only thing Tonya could grasp.

As a wife and daughter, Tonya has never received the love she deserves. As an athlete, she became the favorite darling of the audience, and her self-awareness was completely awakened. She felt loved for the first time, and also for the first time. Realize that I deserve this kind of love.

That's why she separated from Jeff after the game, and the last time she reunited with a very purposeful purpose. Skating has become her only source of happiness and her only way to get love.

It's just that this only way was completely ruined.

Tonya's first 23 years of life was almost filled with the experience of constantly fighting and failing fucking, and her dear mother added a lot of color to this fucking life.

So I am willing to believe that the story has a happy ending at the end, and Tonya deserves such an ending.

If you do it again, my dear mother, please stop loving me.

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I, Tonya quotes

  • FBI Agent #1: It's just a formality. We're talking to everyone.

    Tonya: We don't know anything.

    FBI Agent #2: That must make life difficult.

  • [last lines]

    Tonya: [narrating] I was the second most known person, behind Bill Clinton, in the world. That meant something. People still wanted to see me. So I became a lady boxer. I mean, why not? Violence was always what I knew anyway. America, you know, they want someone to love - but they want someone to hate. And they want it easy. But what's easy?

    Tonya: The haters always say, "Tonya, just tell the truth." But there's no such thing as truth. It's bullshit. Everyone has their own truth. And life just does whatever the fuck it wants.

    Tonya: That's the story of my life... . And that's the fucking truth!