I have seen too many stories like this when I was young: most of the girls who grew up with low self-esteem came from the countryside or small towns. In the process of growing up, after my own hard work and various human relationships (including the blow of love), I became confident and smooth, and gained love and work. Become a contemporary "successful woman" and an inspirational model for our girls. This kind of story is around us. Our parents often talk about which distant relatives are like this. In the movies and TVs we have seen, this kind of plot emerges endlessly. It seems that the process of girls growing up is caused by children who don’t know anything about inferiority. , Grow up to be a savvy and experienced strong woman all the way. For me, the trajectory of growth is roughly like this. One year ago, I was still a very low self-esteem girl who had been living in a small county. I was afraid to try on beautiful clothes for fear that they did not fit my model; when I was walking on the road, others thought that I was too fat. ; Fear of being scorned by bad grades; others' unintentional jokes can make oneself "aftertaste" for a long time...To sum up, it is too sensitive and low self-esteem, because of self-deficiency and lack of self-confidence, resulting in low self-esteem. Inferiority is derived from the evaluation of themselves from the outside world. People who are inferior will become more inferior and dare not face the malice that comes from life. After I went to university last year, my life changed a lot. In unfamiliar cities and streets, it may be difficult for a person to move an inch. I touched on books, and they changed me from the inside out. After more than ten years of test-oriented education, I began to come into contact with real "knowledge". I read the works of outstanding Chinese and foreign writers, and understood how rich and vast the world is, how small and small the circle I have been in contact with before, and the real world needs a broad To experience. I slowly let go of my inferiority complex and feel good and evil with a tolerant heart. The outside world is wonderful. There is a saying that there is always one between reading and traveling on the road. I have developed a good habit of reading, making me feel that I am traveling every day and learning different knowledge along the way. The angle of view of the problem has also spread a lot. In the same incident, I may have become pessimistic and silently endured grief, but now, everything is lightly open, and if you need to work hard, then work hard to complete it. Become a person full of positive energy. There is a sentence in the idol's Weibo: If you can't stay away from the negative person around you, then treat him as a joke. After reading this sentence, I have a deep feeling. I used to be a complaining person full of negative energy. I always felt that I was bearing the strange look of others. No wonder it was like this. Maybe people had already regarded me as a joke. Because I found self-confidence and eliminated inferiority, I became a positive energy person. After I woke up, I began to analyze the causes of inferiority complex. Therefore, I have the following views: 1. Childhood shadows-I was scolded by my parents as "stupid" since childhood. Parents may not really think that their children are stupid, but that this is a way to educate their children so that they can learn to be smart. But I don't know that their actions actually hurt the children's hearts deeply. What children need is to be encouraged, not to "excitement". The younger the wings, the easier it is to break. Energy should be added instead of learning eagles to throw newborn children off the cliff so that they can learn to fly. We are not eagles, we are just children who need to be cared for. Now more and more intellectual parents have realized that China's beating and scolding education will cause a spiritual shadow on their children. And children of our generation are beaten and scolded by their parents, and some will use sticks. These childhood fragments may give children a lifetime shadow. 2. Lack of real education—exam-oriented education irrigated by parents and teachers. Before going to university, our students had only two places to stay-school and home. In school, the knowledge we learn is not actually called knowledge. It is called test-oriented education. If it can be called knowledge, then it is narrow knowledge, and it is least knowledge of how to be a human being. Students are purely lackeys in exams. We were led by the nose by the teacher, from unit 1 to definite integral, from gravity to universal gravitation, from abc to a long list of words that we always forgot, from cytology to genetic diseases between generations...At home, We are the continuation of the puppets in the school, endless homework, endless "knowledge", and our parents, as the second professional teachers second only to the school teachers, supervise the rest of our time. Parents and teachers, they teach us to talk, eat, go to the bathroom, good grades are good students, and good children are good children when they listen to adults. What else have they taught us? What I want to know is, spiritually, what do they teach us? Our time is filled with "college entrance exams". Haven't they taught us how to be human? Have they taught us to go out and feel the world? Have they taught us to be confident? The most important thing is not to study but to live a life. Happy? We lack the real education from the people closest to us, not to mention that they are very "close" to us, close at hand, far away. Without the most basic spiritual education, it is normal to become any kind of person. 3. Inferiority and become a habitual offender-unwilling to change. In the beginning of the story, the little girl who was sensitive and inferior and had never seen the world grew up. In the process, we don’t know how she changes, but we know that it must be very difficult. , The most painful. When you leave your hometown and embark on an unfamiliar journey, don’t you want to change everything that is bad in the past? In a new environment, everything is fresh, and everything in the past can be completely changed here that is not as expected. Some people take this opportunity to "re-behave" in college, be positive, willing to be in touch with new things, socialize with a group of like-minded friends, and live a positive life. Some people stand still and are still immersed in their own small world, afraid of being hurt when they go out, afraid of being remarked, and gradually making people reluctant to approach. Many people are introverted, but do you really distinguish between introversion and low self-esteem? Are you sure you are introverted and not inferior? People who are dissatisfied with their surroundings and unwilling to change for fear of becoming worse, in the final analysis are that they are too weak and sensitive to inferiority complex will always accompany them. This will only get worse, the correct approach is: Open your heart and accept the embrace from the outside world! Women need to be confident and can do anything. "Pretty Women in Law", a 2001 movie, I didn't watch until today, a female inspirational movie. In order to save her boyfriend, Al went to be the "serious girl" he called, gave up fashion design and studied law at Harvard University. He studied law all the time and obtained excellent grades. During the period, his ex-boyfriend and the ugly girl in his class were engaged. After being sexually hinted by the professor, he finally strengthened his determination and walked bravely all the way. The scumbag came to seek reconciliation, but was wisely rejected by Al. He was ashamed and met his true prince charming. In the whole movie, what I admire most is not the heroine's determination to test Harvard in order to save the scumbag, nor her keen observation of the details of the case, but her self-confidence. She is full of confidence no matter when she is, and has always been a heroine full of positive energy. When she was admitted to Harvard, she made every effort to ensure that she could be admitted; when she was deliberately tricked by Vivira into wearing a strange and sexy costume for her makeup party, she was able to walk confidently in the party instead of looking for it. A crack in the door slipped away, if I changed to an ordinary person, I would have escaped long ago. The positive energy of the heroine comes from her self-confidence. A confident woman is the most beautiful. She is full of passion, hard work and action all over her body. She speaks affirmatively, does things generously and neatly, and can immediately enter the correct way of thinking when things happen. She is not only youthful and lively, stylish and moving, but also more intelligent Great, how can such a woman be disliked? It was self-confidence that made her move forward. At the end of the film, in her graduation speech, she also reaffirmed the importance of self-confidence. For your dearest self, you must be confident. Sister, go forward boldly! It was looking for a crack in the door to slip away. If you were an ordinary person, you would have escaped long ago. The positive energy of the heroine comes from her self-confidence. A confident woman is the most beautiful. She is full of passion, hard work and action all over her body. She speaks affirmatively, does things generously and neatly, and can immediately enter the correct way of thinking when things happen. She is not only youthful and lively, stylish and moving, but also more intelligent Great, how can such a woman be disliked? It was self-confidence that made her move forward. At the end of the film, in her graduation speech, she also reaffirmed the importance of self-confidence. For your dearest self, you must be confident. Sister, go forward boldly! It was looking for a crack in the door to slip away. If you were an ordinary person, you would have escaped long ago. The positive energy of the heroine comes from her self-confidence. A confident woman is the most beautiful. She is full of passion, hard work and action all over her body. She speaks affirmatively, does things generously and neatly, and can immediately enter the correct way of thinking when things happen. She is not only youthful and lively, stylish and moving, but also more intelligent Great, how can such a woman be disliked? It was self-confidence that made her move forward. At the end of the film, in her graduation speech, she also reaffirmed the importance of self-confidence. For your dearest self, you must be confident. Sister, go forward boldly!
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