"Why not?"
"I mean there can be no real friendship between men and women, because sex is always involved."
"That's not true."
"No man can. Befriend a woman he finds charming. He always wants to have a relationship with her."
"Then what if they don't want to have a relationship with him?"
"There is no difference, because sex already exists, so the friendship is destined to be broken. This is the story. The ending."
"Then I think it's impossible for us to be friends."
"I don't think so." The
above is the core of the whole movie. Harry met Sally, and Harry thought Sally was a charming woman, so there could be no real friendship between them. Sally disagreed, feeling that there is pure friendship between men and women. Maybe it was because the two people had experienced other people many years later, maybe they had exposed everything in their hearts, in short, after the third meeting, they really became friends who talked everything.
They eat together, watch TV together, move the Christmas tree home together, discuss their previous failed relationship, evaluate each other's date, and every day before going to bed, they always say goodnight to each other on the phone.
But the later relationship has some subtleties. There was a bit of ambiguity in the meeting of eyes. When Sally and Harry were dating another person, they both gave very harsh comments. All the friends around want them to be together, but they are not willing. Why? Maybe it was because of the judgment back then that they had to allow real friendship between men and women to happen to them.
But in the end it was still unsuccessful. Sally's ex-boyfriend has been reluctant to marry her, and they finally broke up because of this. He suddenly told Sally that he was going to marry a girl he had just met. Sally cried with rain, "I thought he didn't want to get married, so he didn't want to marry me, he doesn't love me..." In this situation, Harry hugged her to comfort him, but it was theirs the next day. The relationship has changed substantially.
Sally never looked at Harry again. Because she understood that Harry's words came true, there was a sexual element in their friendship. So even if she knew she loved Harry as much, she didn't want to admit it. They didn't kiss until Harry ran to Sally on New Year's Eve and said his love aloud. There is a saying that Harry said very romantic, "When you know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to begin as soon as possible." The
story is over, what is the answer? Is there really no non-complex friendship between men and women? Of course, this premise is that among normal adults, the childhood sweethearts of the two little no guesses are naturally not counted. Otherwise, if the little brothers and sisters who are still staggering on foot are thinking about sex, our future will be worrying.
I believe that many people also insist on the existence of pure friendship between men and women, because some people experience it firsthand. But Harry's premise was that it was impossible for a man to maintain a mere friendship with a woman he found charming. In other words, when you see a person of the opposite sex who is very attractive to you, will you be content to only be friends with him?
Maybe it really can't. At least I failed. But then I thought, love and friendship are not contradictory. Lovers are often the closest partners and friends of the other party. It does not mean that you are no longer friends if you are dating and having a relationship. It can only be said that the end of a pure friendship, not that you have no other identity in the eyes of each other except your boyfriend and girlfriend. Thinking about it this way, Sally's obsession is actually unnecessary.
And it feels good to have a friend of the opposite sex. You can know a lot of the truth that you can't hear in the topic of gender, and you can find someone to accompany you when you are alone. In fact, it is ambiguous to put it bluntly. In fact, I still like ambiguous things, at least I don't have to bear anything, at most, it's just that the other day will be sad if the other party has other serious relationships and no longer chooses to be ambiguous. Harry and Sally have agreed to be each other’s dance partners when they don’t have a partner. Many men and women have this idea, eating together when there is no one to eat, and going together when they want to watch a movie but can’t find a partner, and , When there is no suitable person at a certain age, we get married.
In fact, if there is a newcomer, the old agreement still doesn't count. In fact, even if the person is willing to continue to perform, he has to consider the opinions of the people around him, and if he is acquainted on the other side, he will not mention this problem again. But this kind of comfort is also very good, at least when you are lonely, you can tell yourself that there is actually a person still there-although it is actually not sure whether he will come or not.
However, in the film I watched, basically men and women like this finally come together, whether it is Monica and Chandler, or Sally and Harry, I am very pleased.
Harry would be a good boyfriend and a good husband, he felt that way. And Sally, she is capricious but very likable. They will live a romantic life, as the saying says, what is romance, romance is to destroy friendship to build love. But as long as you build the relationship you like, what to destroy and what to build, the important thing is whether you think this romance is what you want, and whether the person next to you is the one you hope for.
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