The life of the movie protagonist David has been busy for promotion, enduring the emotional exploitation of his boss. He brought tea and water to the boss, he was pleased, and in the end he didn't say anything even if his work was stolen. I dare not kiss my girlfriend in public. She has a gentle personality and never gets angry. It makes people feel that this person is kind and pitiful. He didn't really be himself, and he considered the feelings of others too much. Such a person is weak and unreal. A real person should know how to express anger appropriately. , Know how to control your emotions.
David was lucky because he met Buddy. Buddy is very good at observing people, and designed many scenes based on David’s weak personality traits, constantly torturing him, inspiring him, and finally let David learn how to express anger, and also taught us audiences a wonderful lesson, although in the play David went to court three times, but I think it's worth it for him.
I remember that in David’s first anger management class, Buddy asked him such a question, who you are? This not only reminds me of my first psychology class in my first year of high school. At that time, like David, I didn’t understand my heart. , So it is only my occupation, age, personality, etc. which seem to be particularly superficial answers. However, such an answer is not satisfactory. Buddy also learned about David’s character weakness from his hesitation and hesitation, and he gave targeted treatment to make him and another emotional person in the treatment facility. A group of patients who frequently lose control is like the two extremes of ice and fire, allowing them to infect each other, inspiring David to express his anger, and at the same time calming the patient's anger. However, the movie focuses on David. Whether the other patient can suppress his anger is unknown, but when David dared to kiss his girlfriend in public outside the Yankee team, we knew that Buddy's treatment was successful.
In addition, Buddy took David to the temple to resolve some of the previous hatreds. Before leaving, Buddy took out a pistol from the car (thought it was real at first, but later found out it was a water gun), and then kept stirring up troubles and provocations, and finally aroused a conflict between the two people. He picked up the water gun and pointed at it. When the discouraged monks talked about GO GO GO, people thought this old man was really funny. At the same time, it also shows from another angle that it is difficult to change a person’s personality traits. In response to the old saying, "The country is hard to change, the nature is hard to change." As in the past, revealing his own nature.
There are also some clips, such as asking David to seduce beautiful women, David holding back tears and saying things that he would never say his whole life, and at the peak of work, David, who was obviously about to be late, was forced to sing praises by Buddy. These taught us how to manage anger. Method: First, when a person is irritable, start to unblock yourself, whether it is through music or those things that interest you, divert your attention so that you are not disturbed by the outside world. First, let your own The heart is quiet and comfortable; second, expressing one's inner feelings is the need of normal people, there is no need to suppress it.
Attach a reading clip:
"Dear child:
Remember-my dear, there is no one outside, only you.
All people and things are projections inside you, reflecting your inside like a mirror. When something outside touches you, remember and look inside. Look at where the old wounds have been touched again, and see what shadows you have that haven't been sorted out yet. Don't waste energy on things that are external, unchangeable, and irresistible. First do a reconciliation on the inner level, and then concentrate on dealing with the parts that can be changed on the outside.
Remember, every event that happens to you is a gift, but some gift packaging is ugly, making us feel resentful or fearful. So it can be a disaster or a gift. If you can take it with confidence, give it some time, patiently and carefully unpack this horrible shell, you will enjoy the richness and beauty in it, and it is a gift that is carefully tailored for you.
Bless you, child. "
——Excerpt from Zhang Defen's "Meeting the Unknown Self"
Therefore, a person who knows how to manage anger is happy, not because he is not angry, but because he knows how to regulate himself so that he will always be at the level of happiness. People who are lucky or not, I believe, are also lucky, because lucky or unlucky depends on their own heart.
Finally, from the content point of view, this film is really good. At least the content is quite suitable. The existing education tells us to Calm down is to suppress your emotions, so many people in real life will not get angry. However, how to get angry and how much should get angry are the essence of anger management.
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