Buddy said "Guri Flava", in his heart or mouth when he was impulsively angry or expressed emotions Recite it silently to ease the emotions, calm down, calm the mind, and then restore the work of the rational areas of the cerebral cortex. Although it has nothing to do with it, I actually think of the "Hakuna Matata" in the Adventures of Punpong Dingman. It is simple and happy, which translates to "don't worry". It is a way to cultivate positive emotions. It’s good to practice repetitive experiences and develop a habit.
In Dave's first anger management class, Buddy asked Dave a question: "Who you are". Dave's answer did not satisfy Buddy, and Buddy probably learned from Dave's hesitation and hesitation about his character weaknesses and obstacles to understanding me. This question is quite good. The last time I encountered it was when I was reading a book, the book discussed this question like this:
—— "M is just your name, a code name."
—— "If you change jobs, The content of this'who are you' is not going to be changed?"
——"Your story is very sympathetic, but this is an identity of you, a point of view of yourself. This is not the real you."
——"You are very good, but this is another kind of identity for you, not the real you."
|I tell you this to help you recognize some things, because the root of all our suffering comes from I don't know who I am, but blindly cling to and pursue things that don't represent us! |
Q1:|What exactly are we pursuing? What is what everyone in the world wants? |
——"Wealth, rights, health, love, happiness?"
——"Love, joy, peace."
&& Happiness is caused by external things. Its prerequisite is that there must be something that makes us happy, so its process is from outside to inside. One problem is that since happiness depends on external things, once the mood or thing that makes you happy does not exist, your happiness will disappear. And joy is different, it blooms from the inside out, and it comes from the depths of your heart spontaneously. So once you have it, the outside world cannot take it away.
%%The love mentioned here is true love, unconditional, without expectation of return...unconditional love.
——"How can we get love, joy and peace? Why is almost everyone in vain"
——"You have lost the real Myself."
Q2:|Who are we? What is it that prevents us from seeing who we are. Remember, death comes, it will not represent all the real things we swept, but the real you, not with time, and even death and change, |
- "Our small to large, there is a Consciousness, that consciousness has been "existing" since you remembered when you were a child, accompanying you to school, reading, getting married, and doing things. So there is one thing that has not changed in us. Although our body, feelings, feelings, knowledge, and experience are constantly changing, we still retain a basic sense of inner self. "
—The true self) peace, love, joy, thought, emotion, body) role-playing identity [arranged electronically from the inner circle to the outer circle]
&&Any identity that can discard one's false identity, and is not affected by one's own thoughts, emotions, and People with physical limitations and obstacles can show the characteristics of true self.
%%Character tendency X External environment X Various education X Life events X Past life karma (if you believe it) = Life model
Q3: | How to find Back to the connection with the body?|
——"Talk to your body and listen to your body’s messages. "
Skip to the end:
" Dear child:
Remember-my dear, there is no one outside, only you.
All people and things are projections inside you, reflecting your inside like a mirror. When something outside touches you, remember and look inside. Look at where the old wounds have been touched again, and see what shadows you have that haven't been sorted out yet. Don't waste energy on things that are external, unchangeable, and irresistible. First do a reconciliation on the inner level, and then concentrate on dealing with the parts that can be changed on the outside.
Remember, every event that happens to you is a gift, but some gift packaging is ugly, making us feel resentful or fearful. So it can be a disaster or a gift. If you can take it with confidence, give it some time, patiently and carefully unpack this horrible shell, you will enjoy the richness and beauty in it, and it is a gift that is carefully tailored for you.
Bless you, child. "
——Excerpted from Zhang Defen's "Meeting the Unknown Self"
Ha, I took this opportunity to review the book again. It is very well written, and I am reading the book "Things to Be Made". I want to come to these fragments and exercises. The method should be repeated, repeated exercises and experiences, and miraculous effects can be seen. Caring about your inner self, although you still don’t know or have not fully explored your inner self, it is a course worth thinking about.
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In addition, Buddy and Dave went to the temple to solve some of the previous issues. Dave was in public The occasion is unable to be angry with others, or produce angry emotions, but secretly angry with his own cowardice or timidity, so Buddy is fanning the flames, the expression is very interesting, and the water gun... during GO Go Go. People have a tacit understanding.
In the busy traffic, Buddy forced the car to stop, recite poems, and sing hymns. At first, he was very reluctant, like a few words squeezed out between his teeth. Then suddenly he calmed down. The higher you sing, even when you are in a very important situation, or when you have troublesome moments, you can stop immediately, concentrate, think about your own business, or sing?
Buddy is very interesting. He is very good at observing people. He often observes people's mental activities and thoughts and emotions. He was very good at it. Later, he thought of old foreign teachers, as if they were a similar type of people. Maybe they had exchanged too many ideas or personal problems with the old foreign teachers in the university, and then they could always get unexpected replies from the old foreign teachers. , Or suggestion or suggestion, how to do it will be more appropriate and appropriate, etc. Like Dave, sometimes it looks like a dumb kid. Although the entire anger treatment process is pre-arranged, everyone's efforts have indeed helped Dave overcome some psychological obstacles or difficulties, treat his emotions and problems correctly, and care about what he wants in his heart.
Well, I almost thought of so much.
Next time you think about it, review it again.
:-)
By Emily
Dec.7th, 2011
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