The film mentions that many women in love don’t know what they’ve done wrong and where the problem lies. In my opinion, they may not really know. There are quite a few women when things are not happening to them and can think calmly and rationally. They are often bystanders clear and arguable, but once they become the heroine, it is not the same at all. Either you turn into a super fool with zero IQ as soon as you fall in love, and all the things you once said about lobbying, comforting, and accusing others are thrown into the Atlantic Ocean, or you knowingly commit a crime under the banner of love, which sounds great and moving. , Kind of wronged. I always hear such words, love is beautiful, love is crazy, love is sad, but I always forget one more sentence-love is tacky.
Tacky love is the love of most people, and the tacky movie ending is just the ending written lazily by the screenwriter. From the very beginning, they were acting, attracting each other, pretending to be deeply attracted by each other, falling in love, and then one to do what they liked, the other to hate, and start a bloodless battle of love. So, do they really love each other? I have reservations about this.
A bean friend said it well, from a man's point of view, this movie is a very successful teaching material for chasing girls. Yes, Ben’s performance almost satisfies all women’s fantasies about Prince Charming-handsome and handsome, successful in business, extraordinary cooking, gentle and considerate, romantic and funny, tolerant and generous, as well as common interests and hobbies. The most important thing is that he can It is perfect for a woman to feel that she is valued and loved and moved by it. Where can I find such a superb man? If it is me, I will put him in his arms without hesitation. But dreaming is dreaming. In real life, if I treat a man like Andie, and this man is obedient, he seems to never have a temper. Even if I get angry occasionally, I will whisper and coax me back. I don’t think this It’s an expression of love, not convinced that he loves me, but will think of Songzi (the protagonist of "The Life of the Disgusted Songzi"), a poor and hateful love-hungry patient, a nasty masochist, maybe I It will feel abhorred, and maybe it will feel horrible, that's another superb.
Andie may fall in love with Ben because of Ben's very good conditions and treat her too well. On the contrary, Ben fell in love with Andie very reluctantly. Andie is unreasonable, unreasonable, unreasonable, self-centered, always self-assertive, suspicious, emotional and neurotic, puts on a posture of the greatest love, always makes demands, but never gets satisfied, I It is a woman who thinks it is too much, let alone a man, how could it be able to stand it? From a woman's point of view, this film should be a very successful teaching material for men. Unfortunately, this game not only failed to kick the man out, but also transformed the playboy into an obsessive man, which is really unconvincing. I have always believed that a normal relationship should be a relatively equal relationship. There are independent spaces, but they are connected and supplied with each other. They can irrigate each other like a gurgling stream, or they can burst into passionate turbulence. Judging from the various performances of Andie and Ben before the truth is exposed, their relationship is similar to the subordination relationship between the owner and the pet or the host and the parasite. Then, Ben's love for Andie is a bit inexplicable, even a bit perverted. Or is Andie's sexy and charming appearance playing a decisive factor, and can even offset all other dissatisfaction and disgust?
The Chinese translation of the title was changed to the "Ten Day Dating Manual" according to the plot, and I think as a woman, it is better to search for the hidden "Dating Taboo Manual" in the film. To love a person is not only how to, but also not to. This does not mean that you have to fall in love with trembling and walking on thin ice, so as not to commit love taboos, but to consciously improve your love quotient and learn to be more mature and more mature. Love him positively and appropriately, learn to be loved by him more engaged, more enjoyable, and more worthwhile, learn to find his own reasons and remedy them when the relationship encounters conflicts and bottlenecks.
But before that, remember first of all, never expect your man to be succumbing and reluctant like in the movie. What is your man? Okay, but I won't congratulate you, let alone be jealous. Although the best man is a rare animal on the verge of extinction, the probability of encountering it is no greater than the probability of winning the 5 million prize.
So the second thing to remember is, even if you are lucky enough to be such a superb man, never try to touch his bottom line and challenge his limit. Don’t think that he is desperate for you, loves you madly, you can get into your feet, become more vigorous, stick to him, watch him, enslaved him, play with him, behave arrogantly, get angry at will, even abuse your hands, and hurt his self-esteem. No matter how docile people are, they also have seven emotions and desires. They will be sad and angry, but they are usually resolved or hidden through other methods such as psychological hints, but it is difficult to guarantee that one day these negative emotions will not erupt in silence and turn into hysterical violence It’s not alarmist, there are cases to follow), and it’s hard to keep thinking about leaving you one day, and once you get to this point, the decision to break up and the way it is implemented are likely to be more decisive than ordinary people.
There is another possibility, that is, before he completely collapses, you have already dumped him or formed a new love. Modern women's requirements for men are much higher than before, and when this man is already in the bag, the requirements will only be more, not less, and it is only natural to think that loving you will meet all your requirements. thing. When you interact with the best man for longer and longer, you will continue to make new requirements to him, and these new requirements include the advantages that you thought at the beginning of the relationship but have now become shortcomings. For example, you like him for You follow your advice, but you feel that you are too dependent and have no independent thinking. For example, you like him to take care of all the housework, but you feel that he spends too much time on housework and is not enterprising and enterprising enough. As a result, you gradually become bored, tired, and full of disgust and contempt for him who fails to meet the requirements. Later, you will try your best to get rid of him, or hit it off with another man who is completely different from him. In the end, you finally lost the superb man who was once proud of.
Finally, remember: if he loves you, appreciates your advantages, and tolerates your shortcomings, then thank him and cherish him; if you love him, then learn how to and not to.
In the above, the same conclusion is established when "man" and "woman" are interchanged, and "he" and "she" are interchanged.
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