The cruelty of love is not lost on the battlefield. Any friend who has experienced heartbreak, the feeling of rebirth after death when he recovers from emotional wounds, should somewhat agree with this sentence. On the battlefield, either you kill me, or I kill you; on the field of love, either you hurt me or I hurt you, and it is rare to be smooth along the way. Different from friendship, the exclusivity of love is like a sharp blade. When it is necessary to make a choice among objects, it can only be described as cruel to the loser, because it is a multiple-choice question that cannot be bargained for. A heart has only one belonging. . When the love scene is smooth, it seems to be able to withstand all the wind and rain, guarding the unique two-person world; but when the relationship is turbulent, the lover's bad words stabbed into the chest, killing people without blood. Love is not a port that comes in and out at will.
Re-watch the 1995 film "Legends of the Fall", translated into Chinese as "True Love" or "The Years of Love", which tells the story of the heroine Susannah and the three sons of a retired general. The wild beauty of Brad Pitt, who plays the second child, Triston, is a big selling point. It's just that when I rewatched this film many years later, my opinion was completely different from before!
Triston, who used to be fascinated by the wild beauty all over his body, thought that was "true", loyal to himself and worthy of himself. Looking at it now, I feel that this is very selfish. Whoever falls in love with him will suffer!
Of course, knowing everything means forgiving everything. Everyone has their own limitations, the weaknesses of personality powerlessness. Like Triston, he can't control the wild horse (or beast) in his heart, he can't heal the huge trauma of losing his brother, and he can't climb this dark valley. He was actually covered in mud and worries, not the handsome and unruly as he appeared to be. With such a big hole in his heart, how could he love someone well? This is also doomed that at that time, he must hurt the woman who loves him. He healed by self-exile. When only embers of enthusiasm remain, those who are waiting will suffer the most.
Triston drifted at sea for many years, and the heroine finally married Triston's eldest brother, but her heart had been given to Triston many years ago. When Triston reappeared in front of her, Susannah's suppressed emotions could not be suppressed from her voice and expression, which was unbearable to hear. I think the title of the film is translated as "True Love Forever", which is really a great irony for the male protagonist. It is more appropriate to translate it into "The Years of Burning Love", because his love when he was young is like a raging fire. What made the heroine fall in love with him like a moth to a flame was his unbridled enthusiasm to occupy and cover her whole being.
When a person truly matures, he realizes that he has caused others big and small harm intentionally or unintentionally. It is really a long bumpy journey, and it takes a lot of pain of oneself and others in exchange for growth. Sometimes we are just too lazy to pay attention, as long as we think a little more about others, we can save many thorns in others and forgive ourselves a lot of regrets in the future.
If in a relationship, before even thinking about whether to invest in a relationship, you can think about what I can give the other person, not what I can get from the other person, the world should be able to shed a lot less tears. There is a saying, "True love is like a ghost." Everyone has heard it, but no one has seen it. But I believe even more that "Love is built, not found." A relationship that is not managed well will not be beautiful, and it will be in vain to show up. And in the most difficult time to get along, 0.5+0.5=1, both parties must learn to be considerate and give in, the less selfishness, the greater the happiness that belongs to them!
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