A lot of comments mention how unfilial the children of Emilio and other elderly people are, and in my opinion they could have done better, but it's not too bad.
When Emilio's son chose a nursing home, he deliberately chose one with a swimming pool; Emilio's daughter-in-law did not show any dislike for him, and even blocked his son a little when he wanted to send him to the nursing home.
It reminds me of my grandma. Since 12 years of cerebral infarction, it has been bedridden for 6 years. My grandmother was very awake all the time. I watched that old man who was vigorous, swearing, and energetic back then became thin and weak, and was bullied by the nanny. This year my dad beat up the nanny who took care of my grandma the longest and couldn't hire the right person anymore.
The paths we have chosen during this period are:
1. Let my aunt take care of me because she is the only one of my grandma's three children who is retired. However, because my second aunt had good grades and my father was a boy, both parents were more concerned. My aunt was the least popular since childhood, which led to their poor relationship. As soon as I take care of it, I quarrel every day. Later, when my aunt's daughter gave birth, she took care of her.
2. Let my grandma live in my house and ask a nanny to come to my house. My grandmother always likes to scold my mother, and when they quarrel with my father, she doesn't care. In the end, because I want to take the college entrance examination, the quarrel is so unbearable, and it is over.
3. Let my grandma live at my second aunt's house. My second aunt was out of town, and she was a leader. In addition, she divorced and remarried. My grandmother liked to worry and asked questions. My second aunt’s daughter and my grandmother still couldn’t understand the language. After living there for a while, she came back.
4. Let grandma live in her own home and ask a nanny to take care of her. This is also the longest-lasting option. Because of my grandmother's personality and dialect, I changed countless babysitters during this period. My grandma felt that the babysitter should listen to everything when she received the money, and the babysitters are not very good, and they always quarrel. Every time I go to see my grandma, she must scold the nanny.
5. My father took care of my grandmother for a few days after working leisurely. Because my grandmother always had to go to the toilet in the middle of the night, my father was not in good health, and he was sick again. Plus my dad is impatient and doesn't know how to take care of people, it's really embarrassing.
6. Living in a nursing home. However, the nursing homes in this third-tier city are not even half as good in the movie. The facilities are poor and the quality of nursing staff is low.
7. My mother also retired later, but she still didn't take care of my grandma. But she said that if it really doesn't work, she still has to take care of it. But I think of my grandmother's appearance as a daughter-in-law who wants to serve herself and her husband. My mother grew up in a family where sons are less important, and my father never takes children or does housework. The marriage has lasted until now. It is not easy, all kinds of incompatibility, can not bear to recall. We all want them to calm down a bit.
8. Now my aunt is taking care of my grandma again. I don't know how long it can last. My aunt is also older (over 60), and her health is not necessarily very good.
When I took care of my grandma, I couldn't go out for a long time. I often got up in the middle of the night, and I had to help her go to the toilet and take a bath.
As soon as I was on vacation, my dad always asked me to see my grandma (at least once every other day), and scolded me for being unfilial if I didn't. You can't go in the afternoon, you have to get up early in the morning. (I live in the city, my grandma lives in the town) And it's better not to see my grandma, and it can't be for a long time, because my grandma is a grandma, and my grandma is in good health. No matter if I want to study or not, if I have made an appointment for a year and see a rare friend.
My father also called my mother unfilial, my two aunts unfilial, and the whole family except him.
In all fairness, I think my dad did his best. He had so many fights with the babysitter, and finally the police came because he beat the babysitter.
Grandma also tried her best, and now she has a better temper. Back then, it was perfectly fine for her to scold for four or five hours by herself.
I also tried my best. When I went to see my grandmother, she kept letting me eat, and she didn’t listen to what I said. She just kept saying what’s wrong with the babysitter. The things I cared about were only related to my boyfriend. I did my best to get her.
I told my parents that I won’t go to work after graduation. Would you hire me to take care of my grandma? Just give me a computer with internet access. My parents said how could I do this job for the rest of my life. Besides, they have no money, and I have to get married, so I can't stay out of the house every day.
The most fearful thing is that when my parents were old, I was still very poor, and I didn't even have the cost of nursing care. My grandmother has three children, and everyone is exhausted. I'm still an only child, and my father is also a straight male in the late stage of cancer. He is extremely stubborn and violent. What should I do?
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