Saw this 2004 movie in 2019. Japan 15 years ago was just as materialistic and lonely as China is today.
In recent years, I have sometimes been an office worker, and sometimes I have been working at home. The wife is basically always at home, whether or not she takes on some projects.
My hobby is to buy limited edition electronics. Note, limited edition electronics. In other words, it has basically no collectible value.
My wife's preferences, skin care products, good things, cooking utensils, buy me delicious food, etc. Ah, I recently started buying Lego, but I didn't do much work, I saved up a dozen boxes. I like watching my wife fight.
The wife in the movie, the only thing left is the fun of shopping.
How much material does a person need in a lifetime? Or in other words, if a person's life outside the body is certain, then how would you distribute these things?
The answer given by the film, the wife collapsed and committed suicide after her husband suggested whether to buy so many clothes. That is to say, her whole life's clothes have been bought in the first half of her life. Assuming that the husband does not object to the non-stop shopping, then there will only be one result: the house is full of clothing, shoes and hats, and sooner or later, the family cannot afford these clothes, whether it is space or people. That said, collapse is a matter of time.
At this moment, she may not be able to hold it herself. why? Her current buying and buying is beyond rational and is a pathological condition. The so-called uncontrollable behavior is a pathological condition. If she continues to buy, buy, buy, her condition will gradually deepen, and she can't imagine how crazy she is in the end. Now it's just her husband making a suggestion, just saying whether she needs so much, and she has collapsed, obviously not very ill. If it is like this for another ten years, who can help her? Who can say move her?
Well, there are two ways:
1. Continue to make her sick, never talk about it for the rest of your life, just appreciate it, take her to see better clothes, buy better designs, participate in Milan Fashion Week, and buy customized models. In this way, more money may be spent, but the amount will be reduced. There will also be less pressure in the cloakroom. At the same time, increase her communication with designers, broaden her horizons and communication, and keep her state in a relatively positive and reasonable category. You can even start creating your own ideas.
2. Healing. Healing means that one has to leave the existing environment, and then a new and equal level of interest is added to the void, such as settling in the countryside, etc. To put it simply, if the husband wants her to change, the one who needs to change the most is the husband himself. The one who is bored and has no interest in anything other than work is the husband himself. If you want your wife to change, you must change it together. The husband needs to give up the illustration and take his wife to open up wasteland and open up a new life together. The two of them work hard to learn new things together, so that they can recover. Otherwise, the husband would only condescend and ask his wife to buy less clothes, which would be too inhumane and too unfair. If you want your wife to give up your favorite, you have to give it up too. If you can't do it yourself, don't ask others, and you can't criticize others from a moral height alone.
Not only buying, buying, but also learning about children, showing respect for the elderly, and raising demands and demands on colleagues, superiors, and subordinates. In all things, can you give up on yourself first, and treat yourself first if you think you are sick? If you can, then you can do whatever you want afterwards. If you can't, accept your fate and don't try to just change others.
This movie brings a lot of thought. I really like a way of expression in movies, narration + monologue of the people in the play. Some friends think this method is very playful. This is how I understand it: in life and memory, people sometimes stand up and comment on their current/current life. This way of expression is a magical way of expressing this kind of self-reflection and subtext.
The film also introduces a little knowledge from another side. The person you want, do you love her/him more, or do you actually love what you love more?
The video finally gives the answer.
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