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On July 23, an unnamed girl issued a long article accusing Lei Chuang, a well-known charity person and founder of "Yiyou Charity", of sexually assaulting herself. On the 23rd, Lei Chuang issued a statement in his personal circle of friends, acknowledging allegations of sexual assault, willing to bear relevant legal responsibilities, and will no longer serve as the person in charge of the public welfare platform "Yiyou Charity" created.
Lei Chuang, who is keen on public welfare, defends social justice, and is full of positive energy, declared war on "hepatitis B discrimination" and obtained the first health certificate in the province and even the country to engage in the food industry, and challenged officials to disclose wages and property..., when we After covering him with layers of "public welfare halo" with his thumb, he did not expect that there was a filthy soul hidden underneath.
What went wrong? Is public welfare wrong or we are wrong? Or the "public welfare" we have seen before are not real public welfare at all?
If there is sin in the world, it must be "ignorance"! Buddhism says that the fundamental meaning of practice is to cultivate wisdom, and only wisdom can give us life. Not only that, but wisdom can also allow us to see dirt and recognize what is good and what is show.
I think of a movie called "The Blind Side". The English name "blind side" refers to the blind side of the quarterback in football. The movie is based on Michael Lewis' original book "The Blind Side: Evolution of the Game." the Game), based on the extraordinary experience of the 2009 National Football League draft pick Michael Och.
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All people are created equal, but some lives are always humble.
The protagonist of the film, Mike Oh, grew up in a slum populated by blacks. When his mother was pregnant with him, his IQ was less than 80 after he was born because he was pregnant with cocaine. He barely passed the first and second grades after two years. He has changed 11 schools. At school, before the age of 16, his parents transferred him to several foster families, and he was once on the streets. A slum is a place where evil breeds. Whether you want to admit it or not, this is the truth. Poverty is a swamp with no heads in sight. Once it gets in, it is almost impossible to climb out. Therefore, what is darker than this black child is their future, and they want to change their destiny unless there is a miracle.
However, the design of the social system does not feel hopeless: the government is responsible for supervision, schools are responsible for teaching, foster families are responsible for taking care of them, and charitable organizations frequently donate... The children in these slums seem to have a bright future. However, in fact, what the managers have to do is to classify the data, and all the philanthropists have to do is donate some money, and they will not set foot in these slums. The destiny of the poor is destined to fend for themselves in the dark. No one really cares whether they have emotions or needs, even though the Bible and the Constitution both say: All men are created equal.
The teenager Mike Auch is nothing different. No one knows his identity, because no one cares about it. Everyone calls him Big Mike, and he doesn't even know his real name. However, he knew that he didn't like others calling him "Big Mike", but so what, no one asked him what he liked.
Slums are the "weaknesses" (or blind spots) of society because people always turn a blind eye to them. The rich can sign a check in the fundraiser to express their "compassion" and "great love."
Some people will say that donating is always positive no matter what the result is. Is it necessary to let people not lend a helping hand in the face of hardship? Of course not. Good deeds are meaningful no matter how big or small, but we could have done better.
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Charity is easy, really rare
The Tao Xi family is a wealthy class in the white world. They are devout Christians and often initiate and participate in social charity activities. When Mr. Taosi saw Mike Oh sleeping in the laundry room and picking up leftover popcorn in the gym to satisfy his hunger, his eyes were very sad. On the way home one night, Mrs. Taosi saw that Mike Auch was hungry and cold and had nowhere to go, so she decided to take him home. Providing this child with one night's accommodation was a decision made by Tao Xi and his wife out of compassion.
The Taoxis are not saints. After taking Mike Auch home, they also had some regrets. After all, this "black boy" was uncomfortably large. Besides, according to their consistent perception, black people often represent negative impressions such as violence, theft, and drug use, so Mrs. Tao Xi will ask her husband nervously: You don't think he will steal our things. At this point, Mr. Tao Xi was very calm: "I will know tomorrow."
Before going downstairs the next morning, Mrs. Tao Xi told her husband that if she heard her yelling, she should immediately report for insurance: She was ready to be ransacked.... However, what she saw was neatly folded quilts! She realized that she had misunderstood the child, which made her very ashamed, so she ran out to find Mike Auch and invited him to spend Thanksgiving together, and later decided to adopt him. At this time, Mrs. Taosi’s decision was more out of maternal love. .
Mike Och was adopted by many people before, but he was abandoned again in the end. Why? Because he eats too much and is not smart, everyone regards him as a burden. Adoption, for some people, is just out of morality, compassion, or for their own reputation as a "good person". Naturally, no one will treat him as a family member, let alone care for and love him. For these families, the adopted Mike Auch is the "weakness".
It is not too difficult to provide a porridge and a meal or directly donate some money to the children of poor families, but it is not easy to accept children from poor families to live in and adopt them. Charity, the most rare thing is a sincere heart, money is bound to be flawless. However, some people will always ask the recipients to pose for photos during the charity process, guide them to say thank you to the camera, and add sensational music, how to make it miserable.
Charity activities have become a show: the sponsors show the existence, the government shows the achievements, but no one thinks about the feelings of the recipients. Remember the "Xiangfan Incident" that happened? The host asked a poor child to introduce himself by name. The boy moved two steps and sat down abruptly. Under the stunned gaze of the audience, the boy burst into tears. Only the mother of the child knows: "The baby's pants have been worn for too long, and the crotch has exploded." After the meeting, the child pounced on his mother and said: "Mom, it's too bad to be a poor person"! Like this boy, the common feelings of the poor students present are "embarrassment, low self-esteem, and even humiliation".
If it is not true, charity will inevitably become a tool for showmaking. The feelings of the recipients are the “weaknesses” of charity.
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Equality is the foundation of kindness
When Mike Auch first arrived at this home, Mrs. Taosi saw Mike Auch sitting alone at the table for dinner, so she immediately turned off the TV and ordered the whole family to sit at the table and let everyone hold hands. Pray together. Although the eldest daughter Collins was a little reluctant, she reached out to Mike Auch. Mr. Taosi talked to Coach Kirton and learned that Mike Och’s performance has improved a lot and he can participate in the spring rugby match in March. He was very happy and took the whole family to a big restaurant to celebrate. Mrs. Tawsi took Mike Auch to buy clothes, and no matter what he asked, Mike Auch remained silent. Finally Mrs. Tao Xi said: Then, please tell me one thing I can know. ——Taussi’s attitude towards Mike Auch is as natural, equal, and respectful as a family. In this attitude, you can see what real upbringing, morality, and kindness are.
Sean (SJ) has always regarded Mike Auch as his own brother. When he saw the girls hiding from Mike in the school, he said to him: "You have to laugh and let them know that you are their friend." He helped Mike develop training plans and accompany him in training, just like a real coach; he accompanies Mike to learn, demonstrates and learns game skills with kitchen bottles and cans; he videotapes the whole process of Mike's game in order to improve his tactics in the future.
Although Sean's sister Collins heard a lot of negative rumors and felt a little pressure, when her mother asked her for advice on adopting Mike Auch, she even enlightened her mother that she should not care about other people's opinions. In the self-study room of the school, seeing her classmates look strange at Mike, she sat directly next to Mike - she carefully defended Mike's self-esteem in her own way. To her, Mike is family.
The teachers in the school did not discriminate against the black "stupid child". They even discussed the child's study. One teacher actually pulled out an essay written by Mike Auch from the trash can to prove it. This kid is "not that he doesn't understand the teacher's lesson", "he is working hard", "not stupid". Later, with the efforts of all the teachers, Mike Auch graduated successfully.
Equality is easier said than done. A major weakness of human nature is arrogance, especially those who have some fame and fortune, are more prone to arrogance. I thought there would be constant conflicts between the characters in this movie: brothers and sisters should not be accepted, there should be discrimination against blacks in white schools, and husbands and wives would quarrel fiercely because of disagreements about whether to accept or not... But until At the end of the movie, there are no such conflicts!
Regarding Mike Auch’s future choice, Mrs. Tao Xi said: You should choose the university you like. I hope you can do what you are willing to do, because this is your choice and your life. Mike Ohm looked at her silently and asked: What if I choose to do something lowly? She hesitated for a while and said: This is your choice, your life.
What a trust and respect this is! Do we have such wisdom? Let’s not talk about whether the children’s opinions can be listened to in the trivial matters of daily life. How many parents can fully consider the opinions and thoughts of the person concerned, even for major life events such as school, work, marriage, and childbirth? Our cultural traditions seem to be more accustomed to acting on behalf of others. If children dare not listen to us, or dare to say "If I choose to do something lowly" and so on, we will "break his dogleg" or will Scolding them for "disobedience and unfilial piety"?
If you think that equality is respect and not arrogance, that's not enough. True equality should also include the recipient's right to accept and reject. Is the person who accepts charity qualified to think about accepting or rejecting? They give food and drink to separate beds and rooms, and even help to participate in rugby training. In order to improve academic performance, they also hire tutors. If you want a driver's license, you will not only try to satisfy you, but also give away a car. Is there anything to be picky about this? If this happened to us, I guess you just had the idea of "think about it," and people's spit stars could drown you. However, Mike Auch has been carefully observing everyone since entering this house, carefully judging everyone's attitude and eyes towards him, and he must confirm whether the Taoxi family really loves him.
Equality is the "weakness" of human nature. For those high-profile charities, such as donation news, you can't wait for "Global Channel Live", the RMB code is higher than the wall... I don't agree with it. Doing charity like an advertisement is no longer charity. The true charity is not that I give you a lot of material, nor is my attitude towards you trying to hide mercy and charity, but that I can look into your eyes and bear the pain you are experiencing, and even accept your rejection and ungratefulness .
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Love is mutual achievement, not just "giving" and "giving"
We always think that giving willingly is "love". In fact, love is never a crutch that supports one person's weight. When you use love to achieve another life, you must be receiving the teaching and nourishment from others. True love is mutual achievement.
When Mrs. Taosi was cleaning up the room for Mike Auch, Mike Auch said: I have never. Mrs. Tao Xi asked: What? Mike O'Hell said: bed. Mrs. Tao Xi said: Then you have it now. While saying these words, Mrs. Tao Xi looked solemn and turned her face quietly, avoiding her. At that moment, she had already realized the suffering the child experienced, which was not given to her by the charities she had done. In the end, charity with a small amount of effort has become a number of projects, funds, and numbers. It often turns both the giver and the receiver into a symbol at the same time. Only when you truly face the suffering of life can you inspire compassion in human nature. Therefore, Mrs. Tao Xi said: He helped me.
Mike Och never thought about his future, in fact he never thought about his future. However, with the help of the Taosi couple, he displayed his expertise and was favored by many college teams. This was a breakthrough in personal ability; under the induction of NCCA law enforcement officers, Mike Och thought Mrs. Taosi I was using him from the beginning, so I chose to leave. Mike Auch at this time did not understand the difference between "utilization" and "love". After communicating with his childhood friends in the slum, he was deeply aware that he and the family had accepted each other, so he called Mrs. Tao Xi and called "Mother". At this time, Mike Auch made a breakthrough in his understanding of human nature.
Some people will say that a movie is a movie. I gave all my love to that person in my life, but in the end it was riddled with defects. Why is it not me that makes him? In fact, have you ever wondered why this person you met was just met by you? Why would you do this to him? Why did you choose to escape and compromise when he hurt you? You know, all your encounters are the mirror of your own character. When you choose to escape and ease when it's time to grow, don't blame the other party for not giving you achievements.
Love is never a kind of generosity. What "Weakness" wants to express is that giving and receiving can be blessed at the same time-whether it is giving or receiving, it is like two sides of a coin, no two.
The title of the film "Weaknesses" is also very meaningful. There are always blind spots in the perspective of human beings. This seems to be the "weakness" of all life, but my "weakness" is just within your sight! In this sense, you and I are not two, "weak" and "not weak" are not two.
At the end of the movie, there is a monologue that mentions the story of another black teenager, and tries to tell the audience that Mike Auch is just a lucky accident, and there are many teenagers like Mike Auch that need more attention and help. . In fact, there are many things worth thinking about in life, such as: Does this world really have "weaknesses"? If so, why did Mike Auch meet the Taosi family? If not, why are so many people and things "turned aside"? Is it a "weakness" to possess unique skills and talents? If so, why can Mike Ohhe become the No. 1 pick in the National Football League? If not, is there only one Mike Auch in those slums who is a "genius"?
The gate of Wingate Christian School is engraved: Human beings are limited, and God is omnipotent. It seems that God has no "weakness", but the human life, old age, sickness, and death seem to be powerless. Although you and I are mortals with "weaknesses", they may also be able to surpass God. But, next, should you and I face each other or back to back?
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