Watched this movie with my husband.
Husband said: This Miss Bird is too much, I will not like such a girl.
I didn't say anything, but what I thought in my mind was, superficial men, do you think girls are well-behaved and sensible since childhood, grow up with gentleness and peace in their hearts, and then automatically come to you and become your perfect wife?
Girls' puberty is never calmer than boys'.
I understand Miss Bird, or rather, Christine very well.
Miss Bird, the name Christine gave herself.
I don't like my name either. After all, my parents didn't discuss it with me when they named it, but I have to carry this name for the rest of my life.
It's fine if you like it, but if your parents have a special taste, for example, they name you "Liu Furong", this name can't be seen as a superstar, so you have to change it to "Andy Lau" to be like a king Well.
In those days, who didn't have a screen name or a pseudonym? What "wandering poets like wind, water, seaside"...isn't each more fancy and non-mainstream? So it's nothing to laugh at.
When Kristin introduces himself to others, he always puts on a confident expression "I'm Ms bird."
Miss Bird has an ideal life of her own imagination.
In an ideal life, she should not be born in an ordinary or even poor family, but should live in a spacious and bright blue house with a huge lawn and garden at the door; she should not live in a closed and old-fashioned small Going to school in town, she should be exposed to the latest trends and culture in New York; she should not only have one friend, but become sisters with the most popular girl in the school and become the popular king on campus; she should not be Christine, It should be Miss Bird.
Who hasn't had such a fantasy? The heart is higher than the sky and longing for the distance is inevitable in adolescence. If you happily accept everything that fate has arranged for you when you are young, what is youth worthy of?
In order to become friends with Jenna, the popular queen of the campus, Miss Bird boasted that she lived in a wealthy area and made up her home address (actually it was her boyfriend's grandmother's house). She and her mother went to a cheap clothing store to carefully select a piece that looked valuable. dress and hang out with rich friends, but no one respects her opinion. In fact, her meticulously gregarious and arrogant performance has long been revealed, and it has become the material for rich friends to joke in private, so she embarrassedly got off the bus, walked out of the world that did not belong to her, and returned to her real good friend Julie.
When we are young, we are always passionate, hoping to have a bigger circle of friends and a more handsome boyfriend, wearing inappropriate makeup, stepping on inappropriate high heels, and trying to get closer to a world that may not belong to us. Too anxious to give up what you have, too clumsy to strive for something higher and farther, the most common thing in adolescence is this kind of embarrassment and embarrassment. But fortunately, after all, it is adolescence, we have a lot of time to waste, toss, and to blush.
The relationship between Miss Bird and her mother is the core clue of the whole film. They never seem to be able to communicate normally for more than three sentences. The mother always picks on her and picks on her, so the war between mother and daughter Always on the verge of breaking out, for the gentleness and peace of my father, my mother always seems particularly sturdy and difficult to approach.
The biggest conflict between the two broke out. Miss Bird wanted to go to New York to go to university, but her mother thought that New York university was far away from home and the tuition was expensive. Instead, it was better to go to a local public university.
When we were in high school, when we filled out college volunteers, didn’t we desperately wanted to leave the province or go to a big city? My parents were also worried about the same thing—the distance was too long and the cost was too high.
So Miss Bird interpreted this objection as her mother's selfishness, unwillingness to pay, and unwillingness to achieve her dream. But in fact, my mother just couldn't say "I'm reluctant to let you go that far", so she could only use the family's financial situation as the only excuse for blocking: "Do you know how much it cost us to raise you so big?" Miss Bird picked up the book and pen angrily: "Tell me a number, how much did you spend on raising me? When I earn enough money, I will give you back the interest!" Then the two sides fell into breathless silence.
With the support and help of her father, Miss Bird finally went to college in New York as she wished. On the way to drive her daughter to the airport, the mother said nothing. When Dad proposed to take Bird on the plane together, Mom refused: "Your dad can just take you in, and the parking fee here is expensive." But when Byrd and Dad entered the airport gate and their backs gradually disappeared, Mom couldn't hold back any longer. She cried like a helpless child, took off all her majesty and armor, and rushed towards the airport entrance in a panic Drive past, but saw the arc of the plane has taken off.
At that moment, we knew that the mother didn't feel bad about money, but just didn't want her daughter. She loved her daughter very much, but she couldn't say it.
One of the scenes that left a deep impression is that, as usual, Miss Bird went shopping with her mother, and her mother was waiting at the door of the fitting room. When Bird wore a red dress that she thought was beautiful and came out for her mother to see. , Mom hesitated for a while, and said, "emm, don't you think it's too red?" Bird said in a dejected tone: Why can't you praise me? even once? "Mom was stunned: "Don't I want to make you better? I want you to be a better version of yourself. "What if this is the best of me?" ' Bird said.
Chinese parents especially believe in "failure education", and are always stingy with praise and diligent in criticizing their children.
So we have lived in the shadow of "other people's children" since childhood. When I was a child, I was good at homework, but I just didn’t like to do housework, so my mother was always nagging me for being lazy, always saying: Look at other people’s family, how sensible they are, and they can do any housework”, and so on.
But for my good grades, my mother rarely praised me positively. She always stared at me where I was not good enough. Later, I tried my best, but even if I improved, it was still not as hard-working and capable as other children. (After all, the organization of other people’s children is too large. You have surpassed A, and there is a more capable B. The object of your comparison is a variable, how do you compare?), so I became numb later, and simply gave up, not It is much easier to expect mother's satisfaction and approval, but God knows how painful and difficult this process is for a child.
Love is not watching fire from the other side, love is accompanying each other. Love is not that you always referee with your hands behind your back, but that you run with me, even if you run slower. Love is not condescending criticism and correction from any party, love is mutual acceptance.
Miss Bird's reconciliation with her mother happened after she went to New York to study, and her father secretly stuffed a few letters in her luggage that had been crumpled and thrown into the trash by her mother. Dad said, "It's all written by your mother to you. She didn't show it to you because she was afraid that you would dislike her grammar mistakes."
It turned out that the mother also longed for her daughter's approval, and she was also cautious.
If I go back in time, I may put a letter in the drawer: Mom, I will never be the perfect child in your mind, please accept this? If you see my efforts, please let me know that you are satisfied. Mom, I know you've worked hard enough to give me better, I love you. "
May we love each other and love each other.
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