Willing to allow others, but also allow myself.
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The title named the goal and process of the whole film, that is, if people start to explore themselves, they will change the conventional point of view.
What seems to be an approval to the other half is actually an approval to oneself - this is a process from the outside to the inside.
So why do we need permission to ourselves ?
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The whole film does not unfold, but only revolves around one point of view: true love is not the only one.
But this is actually just a shell, and it is also the place where everyone criticizes. The film actually follows the story of love to explore self-awakening. At the beginning of the chapter, the 30-year-old place has a question, which is not particularly obvious.
That is to say, a person's love has a lot to do with what he/she wants, the ideal self, and the ideal life.
A love object can be said to be a mirror relationship. So when you see it, everyone will feel inexplicable.
This is clearly mentioned in the two couples, especially the male-male couple, Hale wants children, but the reason he finally refused to be together is that the other party does not want it. That's what the film assumes: true love isn't the only one. Think of it as a hypothetical experiment for this idea, in real life the situation is much more complicated.
And the whole film is in many places, especially at the beginning (maybe the director was tired XD later), using the stage play and the setting of the characters chasing the light. If we can unify this practice-theatrical presentation, it may get more appreciation or recognition. But the director is more greedy and wants to add the authenticity of life.
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Closer to home.
Since it is permission to oneself, it is necessary to talk about the ideal self. This is actually a process of dialogue with traditional viewpoints.
It is not necessary to like what is good at having, and not necessarily to do what you like. Build a thing of value and say it's not what I want. Doing so may lead to hatred of the rich...
In this film, what men and women want to break through is the traditional view that true love is the only one. Men and men are the opposite. In the end, true love is not the only thing, but it has reversed the traditional view that there must be children. (This can be said to be based on the actual situation of the special group of gays, which is more chaotic and non-secular.) This kind of setting is also criticized by many audiences. In fact, it is a reverse processing of non-mainstream people. It is also a kind of self-awakening, that is, although the sexual orientation is non-mainstream, the values are mainstream. It is also a kind of self-awakening.
Allow yourself to be the special one in the group, to tear apart that well-prepared pretend life to find your true self.
So the focus of the entire film is mentioned twice every family , women and bearded men Rees Reece (husband care of the household reality), as spectators face, point out each other's play - this is the double meaning, 1 Too idealistic 2 actually refers to the ideals instilled in the secular (mainstream population).
The whole film is symbolized by the renovated new house. The symbolic meaning of the characters, or the design traces, is also particularly important.
Everything the male protagonist does is not necessarily what he wants to do, but for the female protagonist, for their "ideal" life. Male partner Reece pointed out that he is only an amateur.
The heroine also changed her professional direction for practical reasons and studied music history, but this may not be what he wanted.
The male protagonist is the auxiliary party, and the main purpose is to release. Mainly with behavioral spit, redo braces, fire sawing wood, and swearing in front of the final house. This hints at the male protagonist's SM tendencies. Led out by his cheating object - a mature woman, but the mature woman is an M angle to him, and she is an S after leaving him. No discussion here.
The heroine is the leader, and the theme is resonance. A contrast between classical and modern music is used. Mainly used, the heroine was the lead singer of the derailed object, and played Bach's French suites with a synthesizer. The thesis was said by the instructor to be like a performer from a scholar, and finally performed in a concert hall. It can be seen as a collision between tradition and the present. Rethinking value.
One has been searching in the air, and the other has been landing. One person finds what he wants, and one person can't live for the other person. Both groups of couples are in this pattern.
Both groups mentioned growth in succession . They realize their new selves and give up all their previous efforts. Much of this effort is in life, making them an effort toward an ideal life. After struggling, they finally allowed their new selves to abandon their old selves. This change, in turn, affects love—actually relationships, not relationships.
This is the same as in life. Usually people's life changes are accompanied by changes in their feelings. The problem is that it's hard to know when we'll discover our new selves. One of the failures of this film is that the gimmicks that allow the other party to cheat are not played, and the scope is too narrow; and the impact of life on them is too little.
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An assumption can be made here. If it is a biography of a carpenter, in theory, a carpenter can also make the rhythm of a musician. It is very likely that the male protagonist does not want to be a carpenter. This is just a reflection of his value. And the heroine may have given up playing because of courage or talent. These two people are at odds with the life they seek, and two people who love their lives are not.
Moreover, the director had ulterior motives, asking the instructor to say that the heroine is actually very scholarly, which increased her original value and made her not care. This is consistent with her having a good life and not caring.
At the beginning of the story, it was mentioned that the male protagonist's disdain for the female protagonist's old lover, he does not recognize the other party, reflects his lack of attention to what the female protagonist wants from an angle, because he may not even want what he wants. Knowing nothing, according to himself, following his partner/roommate as an example. And very subtle, he recognized the female protagonist's later cheating object.
Here, the director deliberately set up a character. The big cousin is a vase. He has a good heart and is traditional, but he can't bear the simplicity of his thinking. The heroine may not be absolutely beautiful, but she is better in her temperament and heart, and sometimes becomes idealized.
It seems that the Facebook setting of workers + female college students is very common. Wait, didn't the female college student take a fancy to the delicious body of the worker? No, this body is even more deceptive. This wood is not the other wood, and it is unknown whether the director has skinned it or not.
It can be said that one is pursuing real life and needs entities. One is the pursuit of spiritual life and needs ideals. Two people may be different from each other, but they are attracted to each other because of this. But because the entire human civilization, art, including movies, are based on spiritual pursuits, so...
From this, I think of the story of Avanti, which is probably like this: The king asked Avanti, wisdom and wealth, what do you want? Avanti said I want money. King I am different, I want wisdom. Avanti: People want what they want. king:……
So to be more serious, it is actually because the heroine wants an ideal, but does not have the courage to realize it. And the male protagonist said, I want the best house, but I lack some higher needs. Originally, it is good to have one team leader and one perform this kind of collocation. When people want to change their lives, they usually do not start with themselves, but with feelings. But this is also the theme of this film, the rebirth of self, even if we are 30 years old, we are still naive and confused. ...Equally interesting is Sunset Love. It suddenly occurred to me that if it is changed to a domestic drama, the male protagonist should make a piano for the female protagonist, which is a perfect ending. There are thousands of women out there who want a body and a house, but you like this ideal school girl. Thinking about it this way, both of them are quite simple, which is also in line with the setting of first love. In life, there are too many examples of this kind of good or bad because of different desires, or one love for several years.
This film is built on a relatively mature issue: the pursuit of the life you want is more important than the pursuit of the feelings you want. The former is the foundation of the latter, and if the former makes a compromise, the latter will not be complete. The good life of two people is first of all two good lives, which should be a relatively modern point of view. But it is quite difficult to do.
It can be like this: 1+1 mom-and-pop shop, one is the head and the other is the hand, the two open a piano shop, the male lead chooses wood to make the piano and go to study, the female lead plays the piano and performs, and the male lead who doesn't understand should not dislike others.
2+2, two groups of people, namely the partner, the heroine + younger brother, and the musician gardening shop. Male lead + roommate, furniture store. Men and women give birth to children opposite each other. In the same way, the male lead can also find a ideological partner, and the female lead can find an executive partner, separate life and family, and satisfy personal values.
But this result is directly given by us. All they want is a try for themselves. In life, perhaps what you need is a process of self-control and self-exploration.
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The basis of the ending of this film can be said to be based on this point of view: I am looking for people who pursue the same life as me (three views are consistent), not people who have changed for me and exist. Even if we have what most people value, even if we give everything.
This can be said to be the biggest conflict with the audience's perception.
Maybe it's good to have enough to eat in life, and you're still discussing what to eat there, which is a bit inferior to eating minced meat.
Whether it is good or not, the most powerful performance in the whole film can be said that the heroine accepts the proposal, stops outside the house, and changes her mind. Many people may not understand why they don't want to live a particularly happy life, such as the two big temptations of marriage proposal and house.
The heroine said that if you stay, it will be forever. But is that because there is no hope for such a life? I think it's the other way around, because the heroine now knows what hope is. So she can't continue to play house.
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This makes me think that at some point in life, even the most deviant people will want to have their own ordinary life. But because he still has to go his own way, he can only give up. This is a very reluctant, but must make choice. Sometimes you don't want to choose, others will help you choose.
Here, by the way, the shortcomings of this film. This kind of mixed content, it is best to have a solid literary foundation. The director also serves as the screenwriter, and this kind of author's film is usually abstract and symbolic. If there is not enough material in life, the unspeakable and thought-provoking taste will be reduced by two points.
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Thinking about life, parents, friends, some people may allow themselves, life may be completely different. But if you want to come back, if a person doesn't want to know more, just wants to live in the old life and live for others, it seems that he can't say that he is not good.
There is only so much energy, you can see for yourself where you want to use it.
Licensing is a free switch. Allow others to be bad and allow yourself to be lazy. The purpose is too strong and sometimes it is not clear. But it is also easy to confuse with connivance, connivance of indulgence, connivance of derailment.
Think of the environment in which we grew up. There is always a love-hate relationship possible for permission, we yearn for freedom, but gradually lose our vitality in this unfree environment, and hate mistakes and failures. Fight for freedom with the previous generation, and impose judgment and restrictions on the next generation.
In this circumstance where public space and personal behavior are limited, people use emotional freedom as their last resort, but they deeply hate their behavior. How to change from hate to love. How to change from dictatorship to freedom. It is not entirely an external problem, an environmental problem, but often an internal problem, a psychological problem.
But how can it not be born from the heart, but from the heart, not only to pursue out of love, to fight against those who do not agree, but also how not to be devoured by one's own past, not to be hated, it is one's turn to do it, It seems that he can't react at once.
Willing to allow others, but also allow myself.
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