Good things should be shared by everyone, and I recommend Miss Bird to the people around, but not many people like it. Some friends say that listening to the theme is a bit cliche; some friends can't stop reading half of it; family members take the time to look at it and say they don't understand. Watching a movie is sometimes the same as eating. It sounds more interesting when there are many people, but in fact, it is more comfortable to watch each.
Jin Shengtan commented on the Water Margin, saying that the 108 generals are nothing more than "human feelings". "The state of the world" is also a favorite theme of American literary and artistic films, and it is a favorite for Oscar winners. In mass entertainment, peeling off all kinds of grand or dazzling themes--belief, suspense, politics, history, science fiction--the core that the audience can resonate most with is the word "humanity": human nature, emotion, and the relationship between people Interactions -- family, love, friendship, growth, hurt, warmth, redemption and destruction of the self -- nothing more than that.
Popular American dramas have their own way of talking about human feelings: one-way sublimation of human feelings -- no matter how violent the conflict or how out of step two people are, they can both quarrel and hurt each other by putting on other people's shoes, digging out their hearts and lungs, and cutting their livers and gallbladders. , and finally reached an understanding. Emotions are refined and elevated in the spiral upward process of conflict-reconciliation-understanding-acceptance, sublimating from liking (sometimes even disgust) to love-the love that embraces and accepts everything.
Not so with Miss Bird. The plot of the whole film can be simply summarized as a high school girl in the year of applying for college and the people around her continue to have various conflicts: the main conflict exists between her and her mother, and these conflicts are at the end of the film. There is no real reconciliation, and almost every scene can be summed up as follows: the quarrel never started and ended without knowing why.
The first scene is that the mother and daughter start to quarrel after talking. I don't know why, and there is no result. There is no winning or losing, and there is no reconciliation--unless you count one of them jumping out of the car and committing suicide. a reasonable result. In this tug-of-war between the girl and the whole world, no one wins, no one loses, or even a draw. A confused account, it is not clear who is right and who is wrong, it just makes the people in the play despair and those who watch the play sad. I like this unconventional structure and narrative, because it is closer to the truth of life as I know it.
Lonely. One of the sources of loneliness is estrangement, you don't know me, I don't know you, you are you and I are me, and what lies between you and me is your hard and stubborn self. Parenting experts say that the most important thing in a parent-child relationship is empathy, but if your path is completely different from mine, how can you empathize? Miss Bird asked her mother, "What would you think of your mother doing this to you?" Her mother said flatly: "My mother is an abusive alcoholic." The middle-aged man warns the young that you will find out when you grow up ;The elderly warn the middle-aged: You will know when you are old--but I am not my mother, and my mother is not her mother, this equation cannot be passed. In three different eras, three different women, the only constant is change itself. Comparing one's heart with one's heart is particularly difficult to handle in the bumpy journey of life.
support system. Miss Bird's mum asks her patient: Do you have a support system? What the patient said about the support system. She said it's someone you can listen to when you're in trouble. The patient shook his head. Miss Bird's mother was thoughtful and silent. In fact, Miss Bird's mother doesn't either. She is a woman who stands above the ground, the pillar of the family, a woman who illuminates everyone around her with light and heat, and she also has no support system. This little plot, which does not seem to be directly related to Miss Bird, seems to be an annotation for the theme of the whole film--people are born alone, no matter how great your love is, how much you have a great heart.
dislike. The young girl disliked everyone around her, including herself. This is not allowed, especially because her father, who is broad-minded, honest and honest, is despised. However, TVB's classic lines say it well: "Emotions cannot be forced." When we all use a sincere attitude to deal with our own hearts, who dares to say that they have never disliked one or two people who should not be disliked? Being unthankful is the original sin of teenagers, and parents' efforts cannot be measured in money; self-righteous love is the original sin of parents, you say you are good for me, but how do you know what kind of good I want? Emotions are not right or wrong, disgust is just an emotion, but when disgust is written on the face to hurt other people's emotions, it is wrong - so the fault of the girl is not that she dislikes someone, but that she has not learned to hide her dislike.
One side is disgust, the other side is maintenance. The girl Bird defends her father in front of her mother; she defends her mother in front of others -- "she has a big heart"; she defends her new friend in front of old friends; she defends old friends in front of new friends. She's not a heartless child, she's just more tangled.
self. The most hurtful quotes between relatives: 1) I love you but I don't like you; 2) it is not all about you; 3) you are not that important; 4) what if this is my best self. The last sentence was said by Miss Bird, and it made me cry when I thought about it -- that's all I can do, do you still like me? She kept apologizing to her mother, not so much an apology as she was angry. Her mother doesn't eat this set at all, and the quarrel with Maimandi is endless. Miss Bird said: "I am sorry I want more...". What more? More college tuition? more attention? More compliments? more love? I'm not ungrateful, I just want more. I guess what she really wanted to say was: I'm sorry I'm not your ideal child--seek the childhood shadow area of people who are older and better siblings.
Originally I was going to recommend this film to all my parents, especially parents with girls, but after thinking about it, forget it. It is not a parenting book, that is, there is no answer, and there is nothing to learn from. To put it badly, everyone in the film is a loser, and talented people will not be too entangled in loneliness, disgust, and self... Literary films are more willful, they don't ask themselves questions, and they can't be like life. The tutors cook the chicken soup for successful learning of 100,000 yuan like that. Maybe every middle-aged woman has a teenage Bird who longs for love and recognition, and I like this waywardness. If I want to say what life lessons this film taught me, I think it may be that love can be unconditional, but liking is conditional. Love but do not like, such love is likely to become hurt. In order to love and be loved well, try to be more likeable.
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