Recently, there is a hot word called "empathy", which is explained in Baidu Encyclopedia: empathy, also known as empathy, empathy, and empathy is also translated as sympathy, empathy, and affection. Concepts articulated by Rogers, the founder of humanism, are increasingly appearing in the writings of modern psychoanalysts. The two theoretical schools, which seem to be extremely opposite, whether it is the view of human nature or the theory and treatment of psychological disorders, have gradually converged on the understanding and application of empathy. Empathy seems to provide a bridge for the fusion of modern psychoanalysis and humanism.
However, this official explanation cannot explain the feelings in our hearts that we can only comprehend and cannot express. When watching "The Invisible Guest", all I could think about was the "Jiang Ge case" that was very popular recently.
If there is any connection between this movie and this real case, I think it was Adrian who reminded me of Liu Xin, and what they have in common is: no empathy for others, no empathy for others . They reminded me of a concept "giant baby" proposed by Mr. Wu Zhihong.
In the lawyer's note, it was written: coward, liar, conceit, etc. In fact, to some extent, the commonality of such giant babies, conceit - is a very important feature, Adrian in the movie, thinks to himself He is a smart person, and he thinks that he can use his ingenuity to trick all the people around - but we can't deny his smartness. The most typical example is that he realized that he was designed by Laura in the hotel, and immediately committed murder. If it was a murder of passion, it wouldn't explain his immediate thought of throwing the pot at Thomas within a short time of the police's arrival - although he hadn't figured out how to do it yet, among the works of art I've seen, only Littlefinger's murder of Elsa and immediately throwing the pot to the singer is comparable, but Adrian is not as good as Littlefinger, who is strategizing. Going back to Adrian, conceit is a big characteristic. This is not difficult to explain, obviously it was just a traffic accident, how did Adrian ruin his life to such a field step by step.
I think that in Adrian's life in his thirties, his cleverness has succeeded again and again, just like Littlefinger has succeeded again and again. He thinks that the derailment is unknowing, but when he finds that it affects his life and may suffer losses, he brakes in time. The reason is "this is a mistake", "we will hurt others" and other high-sounding reasons; High, low starting point, just like Littlefinger, but he is so conceited about his intelligence that he thinks everyone can play around with applause, even if he doesn't think of a way for a while, he will always think of a way-money, power, personality, It's all his way. Because of conceit, simple things are complicated, and things that can be handled by the insurance company obviously lead to the end of murder.
why?
The lawyer's notes also had a word - coward. What is a coward? A coward is a person who is afraid of everything and does not dare to face everything. The real coward is the shadow on the hanger who also thinks it is a ghost, but never has the courage to walk over to confirm whether it is a ghost or not. They live in their shadow. Adrian was conceited because he was a coward. The reason why he is a coward is because he is conceited that he can be a liar, and all three are indispensable. A conceited person has a hard time facing failure, or even the slightest flaw, because the coward's worst fear is to open his eyes, and his life becomes a hoax. Come to think of it, Adrian has done it countless times here, opportunistically fooling the mistake, and there are more and more elephants in the room, and finally there are so many lice that it doesn't itch. But this is human life, just like you can fool the whole world but not your own heart. Like you, he is qualified to live in this world, even if the quality of life is not as good as you, it is a living life.
Therefore, the small details in life seem to be related to the whole life as a small drop of water falling into the ocean, but the vibrating wings of butterflies can also cause tsunamis and hurricanes. After all, there is nothing strange about this incident. Place, but a giant baby, will eventually go to such a fate.
In our Chinese words, it is probably that good and evil will be rewarded in the end, but the movie is just an interception of the protagonist's life. If it unfolds slowly, God knows what "good" things this Adrian has done.
Then we talked about Liu Xin. I don't think she was indifferent to Jiang Ge's death, she probably also had serious mental problems. In addition, whether you believe in the "Law of Attraction" or not, people are indeed "clustered by like". The exact extent of the conflict between her and her ex-boyfriend cannot be guessed by others, but she knows it well in her heart. It is very likely that she has lived in a nightmare for a while in the past, and of course this dream was not given by others, but made by herself. And Jiang Ge's desire to protect Liu Xin goes beyond the boundaries of ordinary friends. Even though she has already realized that Liu Xin is "selfish" and "loving to take advantage of small things", she still can't get rid of her. Except for the need for friends in a foreign country, it is very likely that she is a good-natured personality who will not reject others.
All of this seems to be an accident, but if the Virgin Heart can't cut off the giant baby's extortion quickly, it will not be the burden of this or the suffering of the other. What Jiang Ge loses is life. And the giant baby thinks that the world will be peaceful after letting others wipe their butts - everything will be left to time.
Many times, when we discuss the indifference of people like Adrian and Liu Xin, the indifference to the pain of others—or the pain caused by themselves, but the extreme grievance and anger that society requires them to be responsible for, we feel Anger and incomprehension, because it is precisely the empathy they lack, which we have. We can experience the pain and helplessness of a mother who has lost a child, as well as people's refusal to demand justice.
To put it aside, giant babies like Adrian and Liu Xin must not know how much determination and perseverance a mother has, because although the former has children, it is obvious that she has not entered the role of father. Parenting is precisely a way for selfish people to reconcile with the world. You can only experience the true meaning of love by loving someone unconditionally. Giant babies love themselves, but giant babies are not without a future, some giant babies have grown up, and some are just standing still. Ten years old, twenty years old, thirty years old, until eighty years old, a giant baby is a giant baby. No matter what kind of body, if you only curl up in the soul of a baby, it will not grow up.
That's why there are so many people who go home and cry to their parents when they have a problem, and find the top bag to find the adult who complains after a big disaster. It's the parents' fault, the family's fault, the teacher's fault, the boss's fault, and the society's fault. , even your dog is wrong, but they are innocent white rabbits. Making mistakes is to protect the family, killing is for the peace of the world - however, the order of this world is not like this. Although you have no feelings for the innocent people you hurt, there are still thousands of people in this world.
If there is no empathy, the Holocaust and Auschwitz can only become those personal sufferings, and all this, human beings do not need to reflect, anyway, it has nothing to do with us, one day, society and history will have no empathy, art also withered. The reason why tragedy has made us cry for generations is because people have empathy. Only with that empathy can people love and be soft, and outside the rules of society, we can live a more quality life.
We condemn giant babies, but are these conceited cowards living in their own deceptions really doing well? Can they really live a good life when they have escaped the law in their own way?
This question is actually explained to us by the movie, but it is not as well explained, because the inner world of the characters cannot be captured in Gao Ming’s photo album, and their pain is self-inflicted and worthless in the eyes of others, but all the pain is not worth mentioning. Pain, even the pain of giant babies, cannot be made non-pain because of what they did to cause others' pain.
So, leave everything to time. On that piece of paper, a mother who is also a lawyer and an actor wrote: Justice!
At this time, we also need empathy, and the positive meaning of empathy for such pain may be how an adult can always admit mistakes, accept them, and change them into mistakes, adults.
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