The story takes place in Monterey, a beautiful seaside town in western California, and revolves around three families. Handsome Perry and his beautiful and graceful wife Celeste have twin sons; passionate and scrappy Medline raises two daughters with her engineer husband Ed; new-to-town single parent Mom Jane with her son Ziggy. On the first day of freshmen at Otter Bay Primary School, many families gathered at the school, mothers were busy socializing, and children froliced together. Unfortunately, a little girl from one of the richest families in the area was strangled. The teacher asked the gloomy-looking little girl to identify who was hurting her, and she pointed at Zig in full view. Although Ziger denied on the spot that it was not him, the strong Renata, the mother of the little girl, still believed that it was him who did it, and was unwilling to let it go.
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So the Celeste
story unfolds, the school bullying continues, and the mothers’ family life isn’t all smooth sailing. Perry and Celeste, who seem incomparably loving in front of everyone, are actually in a distorted relationship between the sexes. The beautiful and intelligent Celeste turned out to be a lawyer and became a stay-at-home mother at Perry's request after marriage. After multiple miscarriages, she finally got pregnant and gave birth to twin sons prematurely. Appearing to be gentle and polite, Perry actually has a strong desire for control and a serious tendency to violence. Frequent business trips at work limited the time he spends with his family, and the distance exacerbated his inner unease and anxiety. So whenever Celeste showed disobedience, Perry would break out on the spot and start domestic violence. Although Celeste would fight back, he was not an opponent. Domestic violence often ends in a frenzy of sex. For a while after that, Perry would be sweet and docile, but then again as the bruises on Celeste faded.
Celeste thought about leaving, but thinking of Perry's usual doting on her, the tender care of her when she was pregnant and giving birth, and being a good father in front of his sons made her hesitate again. Perry also knew his own problems and repeatedly said he would change it, but the opposite was true. As the conflict intensified, the pair went to see a marriage counselor. Although the two kept secret and wanted to talk about it, the old-fashioned marriage counselor still saw the existence of domestic violence at a glance. She alone tells Celeste to let her prepare a separate home for herself and her children in case of emergency, and encourages Celeste to leave Perry as soon as possible.
After another serious domestic violence incident, Celeste finally rented the house. It was the school's fundraiser dinner that night, and when the two were getting dressed and heading out, Perry discovered the secret through Celeste's cell phone text messages. He mentioned it casually, and Celeste couldn't help falling into a deep fear. The two drove to the school, and Perry did not stop and drove straight to the distance. He admits that it's all his fault, and asks Celeste to give him another chance. Celeste, reluctant to agree, told Perry that it was one of their twin sons who was bullying the little girl at school, and that he was imitating a scene of domestic violence that he stumbled upon.
Just when Perry knew there was no hope of recovery and prevented Celeste from getting out of the car, another couple came to say hello. Celeste took the opportunity to get out of the car and panicked to join the flow of people at the dinner party. After calming down, she called and asked the nanny to take the child to the house she rented immediately. By the time Perry chased after him, Celeste had already found several mothers he knew. Perry asks Celeste to go back to the car with him, but Celeste refuses. So Perry began to beat Celeste violently in front of everyone, and everyone else stepped forward to dissuade them, but Perry roughly pushed them away. At this time, Jane discovered that Perry was the one who violently raped her six years ago. As everyone was at a loss, Bonnie, a young hippie mom from a distance, saw it all, and she rushed forward and pushed Perry down the steps.
Afterwards, several mothers were unanimous in the face of the police's questioning, claiming that Perry accidentally fell down the steps. At the end of the film, mothers take their children on a picnic by the sea. The children laughed and chased, the haze was like footprints on the beach being swept away by the waves, and all the grievances and grievances were blown away by the sea breeze. Several women guarded the common and different secrets deep in their hearts.
Medlin
This is the main line of the whole film - domestic violence. In addition, all kinds of marriage life are also presented in the film one by one. After Medlin and his ex-husband divorced, he found Ed, a "tech man" who was richer and better for himself. The two live in a large house with sea views and have a lovely daughter, Chloe, with whom they also live with their daughter from their ex-husband. Ed undertakes website construction and earns a lot of money, and he is also responsible for household chores such as cooking in addition to working from home. Although her husband has a strong sense of responsibility and is full of warmth towards Medellin, Mei still feels that life is not satisfactory.
In the eyes of Medlin, who has a clear grievance, ex-husband Nathan should be punished for his irresponsible behavior in the past. When she sees Nathan and his young and sexy wife Bonnie leading a light and simple life, old things that have been let down come to her mind. The eldest daughter, who was raised by herself, was an upright and rebellious adolescent. She was disobedient at home but got along very well with her ex-husband's family. She also highly praised Bonnie's hippie life philosophy. The grievances of the year have not been released, and new troubles have emerged. Resentment and anxiety kept tearing her heart, causing her to do all kinds of extreme behaviors, just to anger Nathan and Bonnie.
On the other hand, due to the unremarkable life with Ed, she was unwilling to be lonely and sparked a spark with the drama director when she volunteered at the community theater. Both were married, or risked being found out for three months while taking advantage of their jobs. After the passion faded, Medlin wanted to end it, but the director claimed to have fallen in love with her. The director's wife found out about their affair and confronted Medlin. Although the generous Ed did not have the keen intuition of a woman, he also noticed Medlin's abnormality. But he loves Mei deeply, and although he is lost, he does not ask why.
Ed sang affectionately at the dinner party, and a piece of Elvis' "The Wonder of You" fully expressed his heart. After so much, Medlin suddenly realized that he was wrong. The person who was destined was already arranged by God for a long time, but he has been neglecting and not cherishing it. Fortunately, everything is still in time.
Simple
single mother six years ago after being raped Jane has been living in the shadow of violence lingering in. Nightmarish hallucinations occur from time to time, and he sleeps with a gun under his pillow. On the one hand, she planned to raise her son Zig independently, but on the other hand, she couldn't help but want to find Zig's biological father. She was carrying a gun. As for whether to shoot after finding it, she hadn't decided yet. Although in her mind, she has hit that rapist countless times.
The son is well-behaved and kind, but Jane can't help but worry that the violent DNA lurking in her blood will suddenly explode one day. So when the child psychologist told her that based on her own experience, Ziger would never do anything to bully little girls, the constant questioning and self-doubt from the outside world for a long time finally got a just answer, Jane couldn't calm down her excitement, Tears came out of the door.
At the end of the film, the owner of the cafe where the three frequent, a gentle and righteous big boy finally asks her out. So she took off her usual shirt and hoodie, dressed up for the first time, and attended the dinner with red lips and black dress. She was shocked and horrified when she found out at the dinner that Perry was the one who violated her. Faced with yet another brutality by Perry, she bravely stepped forward, but to no avail. Would she have shot without Bonnie?
These are the outlines of the story. The life of a middle-class family is either mundane or turbulent, ranging from single mother Jane looking for part-time jobs, to hysterical hysteria of successful working mother Renata. The behavior of parents influences children's behavior, and children's interactions at school, in turn, influence their interactions with parents, mainly mothers.
I haven't read "Don't Talk to Strangers", "A Little Farewell" and "Desperate Housewives". Why is this show so good? I think it is because of the rich depiction of reality and the profound display of human nature. Medline's story is common in real life. The blandness is true, even so, there are a few people who can understand. No matter how good you are, if your enemy is also doing well, your happiness seems to be compromised. Doing so is undoubtedly punishing yourself with the faults of others, not to mention past faults. Whether or not he made a mistake in the first place is out of consideration. Loved it, missed it, "meeting each other with a smile and ignoring enmity and hatred" may be really difficult, but letting go of others and letting go of yourself is the best choice.
There may not be many unmarried single mothers like Jane in China, but more single-parent families after divorce. Fortunately, Medellin remarried and had children again, and both her daughter and her ex-husband were living in harmony. There are single-parent families who grow up, but they are closely connected with their fathers, and there is no lack of fatherly love. Of course, there are also those who have little contact and no father image in life. In China, fathers are often absent from parenting, and mothers and children are overly close. This makes it difficult for children to live independently from their original family after they become adults.
Although Jane is easily nervous, she is a qualified single mother. She trusted her son and gave him full encouragement and respect. Although the issue involving the father is very sensitive, he patiently explained it to the son. Zig wanted to know who his father was, and wanted to have a father in his life. So he was excited to see the cafe owner appearing in his mother's life for the first time because she was happy. Children are sensitive by nature and are most susceptible to changes around them.
As for Celeste's repressed and forbearing life for the sake of children and face, I think it is also very common. Domestic violence is not only reflected in physical movements, but also in verbal attacks or non-verbal cold violence. Conflicts caused by different living habits and three views may be resolved through communication. However, severe violent tendencies like Perry's require medical intervention. That's why the marriage counselor advised Celeste to leave Perry in the first place. Because in her experience, they won't change, and maybe they don't have the ability to change themselves. What did they experience growing up? Apparently the same scenario. The pattern of quelling anger and gaining control through violence is deeply imprinted in their personality.
In contrast, verbal violence may be more difficult to define, but the damage accumulated over time cannot be underestimated. Both husbands and wives may play such roles in order to gain the upper hand in family life and have a voice. No matter how high or low, you must win in quarrels and quarrels, and even in all trivial matters, you must distinguish right from wrong. He is picky and critical of all kinds of things, swearing at every turn, and swearing. When things go wrong, they get furious and violent. Women's more performance is probably nagging and broken thoughts. And just like Perry, he didn't care about it afterwards, thinking it was part of normal family life. They also experienced nothing more than a grumpy father and a picky mother. It's just that on days like this, grievances and grievances are flowing, and it is equally unbearable.
What is a good married life like? There are a few couples around, maybe it can be regarded as a model. Love each other, love their children, and have an interesting life pattern. Behind this is the two people's similar views, mutual understanding and tolerance, and the selfless dedication of their parents. The children who grew up in such a warm family are lucky.
Now I am a full-time housewife at home, which is completely unthinkable before. But after thinking about it, it seems that there is no better solution. Take my son to school every day, prepare three meals a day, and take care of all household chores. In your spare time, do something you love. Is this road easy to go and how far can I go? I don't know. Because I am not the only one who can decide. Some friends will ask how her husband's attitude is, do you support it? I honestly don't know either. But sometimes I feel that the answer doesn't really matter. I love to cook, and I also love to be alone. The days when I calm down go by slowly and quickly. Just know that if one day, if you want to live alone, or take your son alone, you will also have the ability to live a good life, that's enough.
There should be love in life, but marriage is really not the standard.
In addition, seeing the beautiful body of Nicole who plays Celeste, can you believe that she is 50 years old this year?
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