I graduated from graduate school four years ago and moved to the East Coast from Chicago in the middle to start my first full-time job. At that time, my best friend lived in Queens, and I had to take a train to New Jersey every day for work. I occasionally took him to the train station on the way. One day he suddenly mentioned a movie and told me to watch like star on earth, by the way. Gave me his netflix account. As a person, I have a natural fear of things that require a lot of emotional investment. So the more well-received the movie, the less prepared I was to be emotionally involved, to take the time to watch it - and in the end I didn't even get his netflix.
Not long after the same year, I met my current fiancé, and one day I suddenly mentioned this movie, and he said that it was about him; and we had all kinds of weird schedules at the time, and we kept putting it off. Let's watch it together - last night after four years, I finally finished watching this subtitled every child is special movie.
In many ways, my fiancé and I have very similar backgrounds - but we are fundamentally different people.
For example, we are all born in science. I studied physics; he studied physics and chemistry. I like numbers, from a young age to the kind that I used to create random problems in my head and solve them. One of my favorite things to do at work is when people come to me and ask me why a report differs from report to report. I will have an inexplicable excitement from the bottom of my heart, find the most detailed numbers, find the reasons, and then send an e-mail and CC all relevant people, explain the difference, and occasionally mock people who come to ask questions with provocation— - My mood when I see such a question is probably the same as when a hamster sees things rubbing their palms.
But he is not. He only likes chemistry (I was not good at chemistry since I was a child, because I hated memorizing things, and I copied all my chemistry homework from high school to college), because he would sing all the organic and inorganic things and remember them. He had a headache when he saw the numbers. The only math teacher who was good to him in the past told his dad that his brain is just not wired for maths. Compared to how easy my own boyhood was, I can probably imagine how painful his boyhood was. I also grew up in Asia, where logic is more important than writing. Watching people around me easily calculate and draw small sliders and small magnets, that kind of psychological pressure, I probably couldn’t bear it at all.
Another example is that we all started our careers in the pharmaceutical industry. What I do is business intelligence, and I also deal with numbers first, and finally make ppt; what he does is compliance and pricing, and he has to find the best pricing model against SOP. I loved my job so much from the beginning that I never understood why people around me were so unhappy about it. But every time he saw the SOP, he wanted to sleep. He heard others discuss unbundling in a meeting, just like Isshan when he thought of opening a spaceship to unlock the planet. What he wants most is creative work, he's the best joke teller I've ever known in real life, and he can easily imitate different people's accents. Such a comparison, in fact, I have been living a relaxed and boring life. I dread being asked to tell a random story, and I only suddenly switch to speaking English when I'm nervous. We all love children - but I don't have the patience for a child at all, but he can understand the softest heart of a three-year-old.
Our family background is similar. Both parents caught up with good fortune when they were studying. After decades of hard work, they became a relatively calm middle-class, but our parenting methods are completely different. All my school expenses were borne by my family, and it was only after my parents bought a car for me that I started to rely on myself. I solved it myself, so I worked from morning to night to earn money to complete my studies. So his favorite scene was when Isshan's dad went to find Aamir Khan. Aamir Kahn said, I'm glad that you think you care. But care doesn't stop after "understanding dyslexia", it tells the other person that I'm here no matter what. Because he grew up in hard mode, he never heard "I'm here no matter what".
But I said so much, not to say "ah this is really a good movie", "ah we should be full of tolerance and love for children", "ah every child is special and should stimulate their true potential. ".
What I want to say is that no matter how moving this movie is, and the hope that "every child is special, they just need love and time", I still hope weakly that we are not that special.
Because I am very tired. Most of the special kids lived their lives outside of the movies - their lives without Aamir Khan.
The year I took my psychologist license, I realized that the power of any outside intervention is actually minimal. Most of the psychological problems are caused by "feeling uncomfortable" - and the reason why I feel uncomfortable is that my inner self and performance are inconsistent with the social norms generally accepted by most people. So it's not because what I did or what I thought was wrong at all, but just because it was different. This is the most frustrating and frustrating thing for me in the consulting field.
I was never able to be a creative person. I am still a person who is not interesting, but meets the expectations of society. This is an important basis for me to live happily every day without too many worries. In this way, I haven't been able to pick up more courage after all, and I only hope that you and I are not so special.
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