"I'm 26 and still don't know who I am. I didn't even think about it until I lost my job. I think nine times out of ten I'm going to marry Patrick, have a few kids, live with My house is only a few blocks away." - Lou Clark
This is a particularly tear-jerking but very sweet movie. After watching it, the movie will be memorable for a long time. Under the framework of a love story, the movie is sweet and romantic with bitterness and laughter. It also involves love, death, A discussion of themes such as parting.
During the epidemic, I revisited it again, and I have some insights and thoughts that I want to share with you.
The film is composed of "Dragon Mother" Emilia Clarke (played by Lou Clark, hereinafter referred to as Clark) in "Game of Thrones" and Sam Claflin (played by "Pirates of the Caribbean" and "The Hunger Games") Will) performed together.
The film's original book of the same name "Before I Met You" is also very popular, and it is said that the score on the Internet even exceeds that of "Silent Confession" and "Island Bookstore". Basically, one person tells another person excitedly after watching it, and one person tells another person about the state.
As the famous American women's monthly magazine "Oprah Magazine" commented, "A love that seems impossible, reading this book is as heartbreaking as eating candy and crying."
1 They will never meet, but six months of meeting is enough to change a life
At the beginning of the movie, I was giggled a few times by Clark. Will's indifferent expression and unsmiling humor also made people laugh.
These two people, the contrast is so huge, the contrast is so strong.
But Clark never gave up, and he never took a hit.
Every day, she still wears a different but quirky outfit, with a sweet, warm, cute and bright smile on her face, standing at Will's door, greeting lively "Good morning."
Before she knew it, little by little she was opening Will's closed cold and sad heart.
Will could no longer scoff at the girl, ignore her existence.
Their first friendly interaction should have been on that rainy day, the two of them watching a disc together.
After reading it, for the first time, Will took the initiative to chat with her.
And I offered to say that the weather was sunny outside, and we went out to change the air.
For the first time, Will smiled. Have a good laugh.
This may be the first time he's laughing out loud since he's a quadriplegic and in a wheelchair. For the first time, Will took the initiative to speak a lot.
This girl accidentally broke into Will's world, tearing a crack in Will's closed, sad, dark world, and the sun began to shine in.
She knocked on the door of Will's lonely and desperate heart unknowingly, awakened Will's corpse-like body, and felt the love and warmth in life again.
Margaret Duras once said, "Love to me is not a vegetable and a meal, a skin-to-skin relationship, an immortal desire, a heroic dream in a decadent life."
Love is indeed the most beautiful and pure feeling in the world. The germination of love may be love at first sight, or it may be the mutual love after getting along slowly.
Inadvertently, the two hearts began to approach unknowingly, and there was inevitability in coincidence, romantic feelings were born in this way, yes, love happened in this way.
"One is a waitress in a tea room, with low self-esteem and liveliness, living in a closed town all her life; the other was a financial elite, her daily job in a trading company, and her spare time was rock climbing over Mount Kilimanjaro and canyons. She was reckless and stubborn. Eagle in the sky."
Yes, two people with such huge differences are in love.
Aman and Margaret in "La Traviata", Ozu and Renee in "The Elegance of the Hedgehog", Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai in "The Liang Zhu"... We have seen the same touching love.
That's what love is. On the scale of love, we are all equal.
Love knows no identity, status, achievement or borders.
Every one of you is very precious. In front of love, you don't have to feel inferior. You have to believe that there will be a "gear" in this world that fits with you to meet you in your destiny.
2 I love you, you are free! About love and loss, directly to the torture of the soul
However, everything slowly enveloped an air of sadness.
Everyone began to tacitly know that Will's days in this world were not far away.
Will agreed to an additional six-month deadline.
Then he was ready to leave this world by euthanasia.
This is his decision, and no one can change his decision.
Once, he was a promising young man. He was smart and reliable. He had a beautiful girlfriend who everyone envied. He was from a wealthy background and his career was booming.
In the past, he loved life and was an athlete. There was nothing he dared not try, and it would not be an exaggeration to describe it as colorful and different in 365 days. He can confidently say that no one has a better life than him.
Everything seems to be in order.
But because of an accident, everything changed.
He became a paralyzed man with only head movement.
He has to take all kinds of medicines, and there is no possibility of recovery. If he suffers from a lung disease, it may kill him.
He couldn't bear to continue living like this. If you can't stretch your life freely, if you can't do what you want to do anymore, maybe it's better to end it. Since it's better to die than life, then you can have a good time without burdening your loved ones.
Clark would never allow something like this to happen, she didn't want to see someone end their life in their own way.
She thought of all kinds of ways, all kinds of ways to play, and wanted Will to love life again, leave nostalgia for life, and rekindle hope for life and faith in living.
For the last time, they went on a trip together. This is a romantic and warm trip.
The two who had mutual affection finally confessed their hearts to each other during the trip, and expressed their hearts to each other.
Maybe this trip is also Will's farewell to the world. After the trip, Will will leave this world.
Clark felt disheartened and heartbroken. He saw with his own eyes that his beloved left this world, but he couldn't do anything. At this time, Lu, how sad.
If according to the "conventional" and "normal" plot, Will will rekindle hope and confidence in life because of the person he loves, because of love, and give up the idea of ending his life.
But Will is gone.
Clark and Will saw each other for the last time, and my eyes couldn't help but get wet as I watched the two lovers who were about to be separated from each other.
It turns out that the screenwriter's "smart" and good intentions are hidden in the story.
"Death, this black hole that we used all our strength to run in the opposite direction of it, Will took the initiative to move forward, facing the sympathetic, angry, compassionate eyes of everyone around him, even the love of his family and Clark. ."
In the process of chasing a black hole, death is the lightest, and the heaviest is saying goodbye to a loved one.
"I took Will's hand and I suddenly felt that I could never be as strongly connected to the world, to another person, as I am now."
- Lou Clark
Choosing to end his life by euthanasia was Will's decision and his choice.
Love is a kind of companionship and protection, but also a kind of respect and fulfillment. I don't want to use the name of love to bind and bind you, and I don't want to see you live in pain.
I love you but you are free.
Just like Wang Xiaobo's love letter to Li Yinhe, "I love you, I love you when I see it. I love you to the point of being unselfish.
Like a dove flying away in a man's hand, he wishes the dove's flight from his heart. You can fly too. I will be sad and happy, but I don't know what will happen. "
"I never tried to kill my son. I'm going to give my son something to appreciate, and I'm going to whisper to him that the seasons change, everything fades, but life goes on. We are all part of a great cycle, only Only God can understand the principle."
- Will's mother
"I want him to live, if he wants to. If he doesn't want to, force him to go on, you, I - no matter how much we love him - we'll just be another scumbag and take away his right to make his own decisions. ."
─Nurse Nathan
Will chooses to leave this world with dignity.
The one who survives and loves him is the one to suffer.
In the face of death and parting, sadness is the lightest emotion.
If experiencing loss hurts so much, why love?
As human beings, we need to love and be loved, and love makes our lives whole and realizes the meaning and value of life.
In a survey of dying people, when people were asked what they regretted or what they would like to do again if they had the chance, the top five regrets they mentioned were:
I want to be able to have the courage to live my true self instead of living according to other people's expectations.
I wish I didn't work so hard.
I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
I wish I could keep in touch with my friends.
I hope to make myself happier.
One day, we will suddenly realize that what is truly important and cherished in our lives is the love and sincerity that comes from the heart; the moments we spend with our family and loved ones; our precious kindness and conscience; The happiness of neglect; the warm bowl of noodles after get off work; the light that lights up for you late at night.
As said in the movie "Wu Wen Xi Dong", "I wonder if you will still care about the things that the world wants you to care about, such as how much you possess, in order to be more honored, and what you have in order to be loved.
When you grow up, you will be delighted when green shoots emerge from the ground, you will cheer and jump to the rising sun, and you will give kindness and warmth to others. "
I hope this day doesn't come too late. Because life cannot afford to be wasted.
Death and loss are life issues that we must face. When this moment comes to our life, we understand the weight of love and life.
Losing makes us more aware of the meaning of life, how to cherish, and the true meaning of love.
During this epidemic, we have experienced many touching and heartbreaking moments, and we have felt the impermanence of life, and let us understand the beauty and preciousness of those routines that we are accustomed to.
Those who have passed away have gone to heaven, and those who are alive should cherish them even more and live well.
3 True love is to make each other love yourself more than before; it is the bridge to the depths of the soul
Clark sat in a Paris café, reading Will's letter to her, which is where Will said he wanted to do it again.
"Clark, it should have been a few weeks by the time you read this letter. If you followed the directions, you should be in Paris by now. Sitting on those sidewalks that are never level.
I hope the weather is clear and across the bridge on the right you will see Artisan Perfume. Go and try the "Butterfly Ultimate" fragrance, which I've always thought would suit you.
There is so much I want to say, but I can't say it. Because you'll get emotional and won't let me finish. "
There were tears in Clark's eyes, but the corner of her mouth raised a sweet smile, and her smile was still so bright and brilliant.
"Don't miss me too often. I don't want to make you sad, as long as you're fine."
"As long as you live. I will accompany you through every step of your life."
"Love you Will."
True love is to make two people love themselves more than before, to make each other discover a better self, to discover a brighter inner self, and to become better and stronger.
Before meeting Clark, Will was a man who was immersed in a world of darkness, struggling with death every day, and shutting himself up with indifference.
His world was his little room, and he was in a wheelchair every day.
He lives in pain every day.
There is no sunlight in his room.
There was no sunshine in his life.
Before meeting him, Clark had just lost his job after his former employer's cafe closed.
The family is waiting for her to quickly find a job to support the family.
After he and her met, their lives slowly changed.
six months.
Clark didn't change Will's decision to leave this world.
But she gave him the most joy after being paralyzed, the most laughter, the most precious and extravagant true love in the world.
And Clark, with this love, will continue to live well in this world.
Will said to Clark, "Live boldly, Clark."
Clark finally bravely left the family that held her down before, out of their home town and out into the world.
Will said to Clark, live with our love, hope, and conviction. Clark, you should broaden your horizons and try things you haven't done before. You only have one life.
Yes, the vast world can make a difference!
Will would also be relieved to see Clark's confident and beautiful smile.
Christopher Meng said in "Intimacy" that "the search for sincere and eternal intimacy is actually the search for oneself".
One of the best things about intimacy is when you're all doubting yourself, denying yourself, disbelieving yourself, and your partner says to you, darling, don't pretend you don't know you can do it, just be yourself ,You are really great!
In the film, Will and Clark go to the concert together. Clark, who has always been dressed in fancy clothes, bravely put on a red dress. This red dress surprised not only Will, but also us in front of the screen.
Clark's self-confidence and charisma filled Will's heart, and her brilliance kept the audience from looking away.
Rather than saying that the red dress is Clark's armor and shirt, it is better to say that at that moment, Clark "sees" himself and discovers himself. It turns out that he can be so confident and attractive.
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Zhang Defen said, "Your intimate relationship partner is here to help you know yourself better, heal your wounds, and finally find your true self. Therefore, intimacy is the bridge to our soul."
When you set out to find true love, you embark on a journey of self-discovery.
May your journey, as the ancient Greek Cavafy wrote in the opening line of the poem "Ithaca", "When you set out for Ithaca, may your road be long, full of wonders, full of Find."
Finally, also through Will's encouragement to Clark, I say to you dear:
You only have one life, explore the possibilities!
While there is still time in life, let's love bravely!
Go and deal with all kinds of brilliance and failure!
Because it is never someone else who limits your life possibilities, only yourself.
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