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Amy 2022-03-03 08:01:03

Suanne Bier's films always try to talk about what's missing from human nature and what people contradict it. Although she did not give a clear answer, the humanistic care revealed in her films always makes people hopeful for a fragmented life.

A man abandoned by his life, after losing the only friend in the world who cared about him, began to try to change. The film doesn't seem to address the issue of redemption. Jerry is an addict, he doesn't know how to focus on life. Brian was the only person in the world who cared about him. He remembers his birthday. He would drive to see Jerry in the dilapidated apartment late at night regardless of his wife's insistence. He accompanies this abandoned man in the supermarket to buy daily necessities, and accompany him to dinner at the restaurant on the street. Perhaps the only thing Jerry can remember is the Fed raising interest rates, because that's in the interest of his best friend. For Jerry, Brian means everything in his life.

You have to know that there will always be someone walking by your side when the world is far away from you.

Brian's unexpected death changed his wife's life. She couldn't accept the sudden departure of someone who had been so important to her. She once said to Jerry, Why wasn't it you, Jerry? Why wasn't it you? We've all been knocked down by despair, but never by it.
Jerry comes into Audrey's life. Director Suanne Bier tries to bring these two bruised people to comfort each other and bring them back to life. It's not through love.

When Audrey's kids asked Jerry why he wasn't their father, he just said blandly, it's like your father was never in my life. Here, friendship means not only helping each other, but also respect. Respect beyond life. This is what our lives lack.

Accept the good. This is Jerry's last words to Audrey. In the end, he chose to live his own life. I think Audrey also understands how to proceed.

Suanne Bier likes to communicate her beliefs with simple, powerful stories. This is also her charm.

The things we lost in the fire.

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  • Alivia 2022-03-26 09:01:13

    3.5 is slightly better than expected.

  • Pearlie 2022-03-15 09:01:10

    A very warm movie, but loneliness cannot be the reason for love. "The past is like smoke", this translation is very good.

Things We Lost in the Fire quotes

  • Audrey Burke: How'd you know about the movies?

    Jerry Sunborne: Brian told me.

    Audrey Burke: Hm. So how the fuck did you know about it and I didn't?

    Jerry Sunborne: I don't know.

    [pause]

    Jerry Sunborne: Maybe he knew if you did, you wouldn't let him do it again.

    [says questionably]

    Jerry Sunborne: Just don't take it out on her, okay? It's not her fault.

  • Jerry Sunborne: Hi, my name is Jerry and I'm an addict. I've been clean for 89 days. My mind is clearer, and... I think it's getting better. Every day, a little bit. But I wanna talk about this dream I keep having. It always starts with me stealing silverware. Then I go sell it to this guy who I used to know who owned a catering service. Then with the money, I go to this place where I used to buy my drug of choice, and... he's not around. So I go to other spots, right, but for some reason, no one is around. All of Seattle is dry, and then I get that feeling... the dread... and I panic. And I start running, and it's raining, and it gets dark. And then I'm in my old apartment, and I'm thrashing right through it, looking for something I might have stashed away. And I think I'm having a seizure. And then I find a balloon hidden in my suitcase. So there I am... with a bag of junk in one hand, and the money for my next fix in the other... and I feel at total, utter peace. And I wake up. One day at a time. One day at a time. One day at a time. One day at a time. Thank you.