how lucky i am to have this love

Tyler 2022-10-19 14:23:40

I remember the topic of a debate in "Qi Hua Shuo": If your partner has changed gender, should you continue to be with him/her. The defense supporting together said: Love exists beyond everything, and you love this person and all of him/her. The person who has just changed gender must need your encouragement and help at this time, so he should continue to be with his partner. The opponent said: Even if you love him/her again, this love is not enough to deal with a series of chain reactions in psychology, behavior, etc. after your partner's gender changes. Your partner is changing, maybe now he/she needs another life and should let him/her go free.

Both arguments have their merits, so should you still be with your partner? This really varies from person to person and depends on the situation. After all, this is a very open-minded debate, and everyone is talking about it in a hypothetical situation. "The Danish Girl" is based on real events from the 1920s. This film happens to be a ensemble of this debate, but life is never a debate, and it's not black or white. One side's argument always wins.

A couple of painters who are "strong women and weak men" have good affection. Because of the inadvertent naughty encouragement of the wife, after letting the husband try on women's clothes as his model, they actually aroused another gender hidden in the husband's heart. Her husband's new identity, Lily, has inspired his wife to paint, and occasional outfit changes make their lives more interesting. But as her husband became more and more identified with Lily, and even wanted to be a real woman, they started a confrontation with Lily, but finally compromised. With the uncompromising support of his wife, the husband gained the woman's body through surgery, and also lost his life because of the surgery.

When her husband completely identified himself as a woman, when he saw him wearing women's clothes and dating other men, when the couple was no longer married, Gerda did not lose his mind. Even when almost all doctors decided that Aina was insane, Gerda stood firmly by her husband's side, encouraging him and supporting him.

"I feel that I am a woman at heart."
"I also feel that 'he' is a woman."
When facing the doctor's question, Gerda said firmly while clasping Aina's hand.

Yes, Gerda was firm, but the corners of her mouth kept shaking when she said this. I was wondering, did Gerda ever regret it? If I hadn't encouraged my husband to wear a ballet tutu, and hadn't made him wear women's clothes to a party for novelty and excitement, would they still be a pair of beautiful couples who are the envy of others? Her own push has completely awakened Lily. Does Gerda feel any remorse for this? The ending of the story is nothing but completeness and fragmentation, sadness and joy, but the cause and process of the story, as well as those hidden in people's hearts, are always elusive and unpredictable.

"How lucky I am to have this love..." When Aina finally did not undergo the second operation, he said these words to the heroine with a pale face. Then he closed his eyes and became Lily forever. In another world, Aina's body no longer needs to be repaired by surgery, and she no longer has to fear the eyes of the world. Just like the silk scarf that was blown into the sky by the wind, she can finally take all the love of her lover and be her freely. myself.

Eddie Redmayne, the actor "Little Freckles", played by the actor Aina, won the Golden Globe Award for Best Actor in a Drama Series as early as 2015 with "The Theory of Everything", and won the 87th Academy Award on February 23 of the same year. Best Actor Award. "The Danish Girl" once again proved his superb acting skills and was once again nominated for Best Actor at the 88th Academy Awards, and "Where are the Fantastic Beasts", which was just released, swept the global box office.

If his acting skills in "The Theory of Everything" can be described as realistic, then "The Danish Girl" is moving. When he was Aina, he was a good husband who was thoughtful, patient, and emotional. When he first became Lily, his horror and surprise all gathered in the corners of his quivering mouth, in the nervous blinking of his eyes. With the recognition of Lily, she became a charming, a little shy and charming woman. In the process of Aina's exploration of her true gender, these little changes permeate and change in the characters' speech and behavior, without the slightest sense of incongruity and abruptness.

My favorite scene in the movie is when Aina agrees to model for his wife in order to placate her. When Aina put on the ballet shoes that didn't fit her feet, she put her feet up obediently, and the expression on her face was like the excitement and shyness of a little girl when she stole her mother's high heels. The body under the skirt As if telling a long-lost story. When he wrapped the ballet skirt around his chest, the shyness between his eyebrows gradually faded, his hands began to rub the skirt uncontrollably, his breathing began to tighten, and the corners of his mouth began to tremble with joy. , with shyness, with enjoyment, Lily began to wake up.

Lily's appearance is not abrupt and accidental, in fact, at the beginning of the film, everything has been vaguely found. For example, when Aina visited a friend in the dance studio, he slipped the hanger of women's clothes with his fingers inadvertently; he leaned against the door and watched his wife put on lipstick with admiration and envy; .

Due to the outstanding role of the male lead, people have more or less ignored the performance of the heroine Alicia Vikander. She also played the glamorous, pitiful and indifferent robot in "Ex Machina". . The costumes of the characters in the film and the layout of the scenes are very artistic. In addition, the scene was shot in Copenhagen, which is full of literary and artistic atmosphere, so that every shot of the whole film can be frozen as a painting. Although "The Danish Girl" is not a commercial film, I don't think it is a niche literary film, it is more like a colorful documentary and drama. This is a legendary story with a beginning and an end. After watching the movie, you will realize that there is nothing more satisfying than "being yourself" in this life.

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The Danish Girl quotes

  • Dr. Hexler: Tell me about Lili... Where did she come from?

    Einar Wegener: Inside of me.

  • Gerda Wegener: It's hard for a man to be looked at by a woman. Women are used to it, of course, but for a man to submit to a woman's gaze - it's unsettling. Although I believe there's some pleasure to be had from it, once you yield.