We will find that the film amplifies the differences in how men and women deal with emotions. When I see a lot of places, I always pause subconsciously to digest the discomfort caused by resonance. In the dialogue, we can know that the male protagonist has worked hard to catch up with the female protagonist, and for the past 45 years, he has been running their marriage with love. Although the male protagonist has a rather perverse personality, he has an excessive enthusiasm for many things, he is willing to pour everything into the things he likes, and it is difficult to deal with the things he disdains. The taste of life and the skills of flirting with girls, the premise is as long as he wants. Facing the heroine, I believe that he loves with heart, but the premise is love that has nothing to do with the past, and the love for Charlotte exists in the present and the future. So when that letter broke their peaceful life, he slowly fell into a grudge for the past, and he was already out of the time and space of the present and the future, so the male protagonist we saw was indifferent, insensitive, reflective The arc is long, slow, low, depressed, absent-minded, always seems to be a vague existence, as if everything has nothing to do with him, only him and her Katia are frozen in the Swiss glacier Among them, it was the same as it was decades ago, watching the hidden slides in the attic day and night, as if nothing had changed in the light and dark, and when Charlotte appeared beside him, he began to stagnate, I don't know why, I can only lie and deal with it instinctively, and if necessary, add some emergency flirting skills, such as the casual pas de deux that night, the passion of that night, such as early morning tea and prepared breakfast, such as the gorgeous memorial day. necklace. What you can't deny is that his love for Charlotte belongs only to the present and the future, and you can't ignore his affectionate love for Katya that belongs to the past, which will never be forgotten. This stupid man asked him in Charlotte if you would go to Italy, if Katia hadn't died, would you marry her, he said almost unresponsively. Some people say that 45 years of marriage has brought such a cruel answer, but do you hope to get back a sentence of consolation after 45 years of marriage? The contradiction in life is that you don't know which result is what you really want, you We can only accept and comfort ourselves. Maybe the other is worse. We still have to continue our lives. No one will pay for your sadness and helplessness. He remembered all the details, the wooden ring, the dark hair color, the scene of that day, the boy who led the way, the sensitive jealousy that only belonged to the youth, the low voice when the accident happened, the violet of the glacier, he also wanted to break through All of this went to Switzerland to see her unchanged face. What he couldn't let go of was the romance, and what he couldn't let go of was his self-confidence. own youth. Years passed, and the passion to rekindle life was all in vain, and this irritability caused by the unsuccessful struggle made him lose his patience with life, so he could only seek a moment of peace in cigarettes, and only hope that a person can be alone in peace. Empty the benches, don't bother anyone in the name of caring, he's tired of telling everyone, I'm fine, I just need to get some air.
In the heroine, more or less will see their own shadow, and the inherent sensitivity endowed by gender makes it impossible for many girls to pretend that something has never happened. At the beginning, the heroine enjoyed the satisfaction brought by the dull marriage, the early morning walk, the company of the big dog, the upcoming anniversary party, the slightly dull but still warm partner, it seems that it is a rare thing to live like this. Happiness. However, the later heroine stepped into emotional confusion and despair step by step. The first time was in the sluggish expression of the male protagonist reading the letter, when he heard my Katya from the male protagonist's mouth, the female protagonist had a slightly surprised expression on her face. However, due to women's natural motherhood and the tendency to avoid conflict, the heroine did not immediately stop the male lead's emotions, but gave him the opportunity and space to recover, not to disturb such old thoughts, and even to be pleasant. Listen to their stories carefully. On the one hand, it is people's curiosity, especially girls' curiosity about feelings. You will find that a question that many girls like to ask in life is what kind of person is your ex-girlfriend? There is no special story, and boys will refuse at first. The more they refuse the girl, the more they feel that there is nothing to say, or that you have not forgotten her, the more you want to know, or stalking, or Investigate by yourself, as long as women become sensitive, they are generally born detectives, while boys are poor suspects. Usually when the girl promises not to get angry and promise not to mind, some dull boys will tell some previous stories, and the male protagonist is one of them. We will find that when he talks about their stories, there will be a slight smile, and his eyes will change from the usual dullness to warm, shiny, and his words are calm and joyful. It seems that that accident has never happened, and His bedside is just a listener with whom he is willing to share all his stories. And the female protagonist at the beginning, like all the girls who listened to their ex's stories, didn't mind her lover confiding in his thoughts about another woman, and even listened with relish without any discomfort, provided that we all thought we were the one The most profound object, and all this is but a remnant of the past. Our over-the-top confidence leads us to believe that we can withstand the coursing of the truth by spying on others, and often we don't stop there. When this feeling of doubt slowly invades your life, you will find yourself gradually in an atmosphere of uncertainty, and your emotions are easily controlled by the surrounding environment. For example, the male protagonist starts smoking again, the male protagonist begins to read books on climate change, the male protagonist refuses to attend work parties, the male protagonist disappears in the middle of the night, all these will accumulate in her heart. , even if some of it has nothing to do with Katya, it will be considered a related emotional recovery. What I have to say is that women in this situation tend to be outsiders, the more you try to get into their circle, the more counterproductive you will be, and you can't stop wanting to take over a world that belongs only to them and be Violently blocked the door. It's like the male protagonist is talking about their desperate bravery, but the female protagonist thinks it's just the excess of youthful energy, the male protagonist's smiling face slowly becomes expressionless, just saying that you don't know her, and then saying I'm tired , leaving only the unwilling eyes of the heroine in the dark. Before this, it was just a vague pain, but what finally broke the female lead was her decision to invade the male lead's private space - the attic. At this time, the dog kept barking beside him, as if this little creature knew what was going to happen next. And when the heroine turned on the slide projector, the pictures were breaking her psychological defense line one by one, and the final picture fell on Katia's slightly bulging belly. This important information that was deliberately ignored made the heroine completely lose confidence. with trust. Who would accept this seemingly unrelated fact, maybe we all want to believe that it's time to be different, people are changing, maybe he just doesn't like taking pictures, maybe he just doesn't want children, maybe he just wants to be safe with me Stay quietly, don't do those crazy things, and all this must have nothing to do with her, and it has nothing to do with the past memories. So when the heroine sat hesitantly in the square where people came and went, only the sound of a lonely bell accompanied her to regain her senses. It's time to be different, people are changing, maybe he just doesn't like taking pictures, maybe he just doesn't want kids, maybe he just wants to stay with me in peace and not do crazy things, and it's all for sure It has nothing to do with her, nothing to do with the past memories. So when the heroine sat hesitantly in the square where people came and went, only the sound of a lonely bell accompanied her to regain her senses. It's time to be different, people are changing, maybe he just doesn't like taking pictures, maybe he just doesn't want kids, maybe he just wants to stay with me in peace and not do crazy things, and it's all for sure It has nothing to do with her, nothing to do with the past memories. So when the heroine sat hesitantly in the square where people came and went, only the sound of a lonely bell accompanied her to regain her senses.
The director has been magnifying this difference, starting from the fact that the male and female protagonists in the shot are empty and real, starting with the warm tones of the female protagonist, the cold tones of the male protagonist, the light and shade of the light, the appropriateness of the female protagonist and the dullness of the male protagonist, the easy-going female protagonist and the male protagonist. Alienation, until they had a conversation in the kitchen on the eve of the anniversary, we found that the heroine was placed in a cool color, and the hero was changed to a warm tone. Maybe after so long, the hero has slowly cleaned up and returned to life. With the anniversary In the mood of arriving and preparing for the speech, I found that perhaps Charlotte, who is by my side, is the lover who should be cherished and treated well. The little bits and pieces of 45 years have once again occupied his soft heart. At the end of the day, the affection of the past needs an end, and life has to continue. When you relax, it is like a dream of youth, giving a response to the past. Everything passes away with Katya sleeping in the glacier. I'm still the husband who loves Charlotte so much. But unfortunately, the heroine's emotions have just begun, and may never stop, and life will never return to the calm before the letter. All of this is depicted in the blue lights of the first dance at the party, the male protagonist dotingly hugs the stiff female protagonist, and the female protagonist becomes increasingly embarrassed in the music, full of thoughts, and at the end In the ending, the male protagonist broke free, and the suppressed anger could no longer be hidden, gushing out, and the picture came to an abrupt end. We all know that everything is still the same, but everything is different. Some things are true, and some things are really incomparable.
I watched the whole film with a nervous mood, for fear of missing any detail, as if I was always too sensitive to the people and things around me, or it was an act, but I still thought it was an attitude towards life. It is better to feel the ups and downs in subtleties than to live in a daze. This movie seems to be plain, but in fact it is ups and downs, and the story is imprinted in everyone's ordinary life. Each of us is trying to be strong, to be optimistic, to make things look quite happy and to be at peace with each other, but there are many hidden emotions and secrets in our personal world, and no one knows when they will come out and devour everything. As the saying goes, life is like a gorgeous robe full of lice. This movie is not so cruel as it is real, our day is 24 hours, every hour is 60 minutes, we are all moving forward, can't look back, no one is special and no People are satisfied, we all support each other to endure the triviality and impermanence of life, but we resist each other's intrusion, we all conceit that we are the extraordinary among the ordinary, we are all afraid of sudden changes, we have been trembling As time goes by, we want to enjoy all the good things, and in this tug-of-war that is too subtle to detect, we are getting old. When we no longer compromise and want to make changes, we find that we have been abandoned by life. All we do is isolation, and only protests that are innocuous like children playing with temper, and finally talk to ourselves and return to calm. It's like in the male protagonist's final speech, people have limited opportunities to make major choices, and they run out. It's like when I want to go back to the site to relive the movie, only to find it's been deleted, and my emotions can't calm down for a long time. I have written so much without knowing what to write, as if I have lived for so long and do not know who I am in the attic. There is no way to interpret this kind of film, only to feel it.
I've been listening to the movie's ending song, smoke gets in your eyes. I'm glad I finally finished writing this review, even though no one is special, I'm still trying to be special, and I hope you are too.
They asked me how I knew my true love was true.
I of course replied
something here inside cannot be denied.
They said, someday you'll find all who love are blind.
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