There is a Lili in everyone's heart

Bryon 2022-12-18 19:27:16

The Danish Girl is certainly a story of a deviant, secular non-transgender person, or at least unheard of in the age and circumstances of its occurrence - after all, Lili Elbe was one of the first cases of gender reassignment surgery in the world; but It's all about these two questions we all face: Can we really do what we want? Can we truly be who we are? The

feature film isn't much richer than the trailer, and the Danish landscape painter Einer Wegener accidentally After becoming a women's model for his wife and portrait artist Gerda Wegener, he gradually faced up to his inner gender orientation. He went out in social situations under the pseudonym Lili, and finally underwent sex reassignment surgery.

I think the director also realizes that many people will misinterpret the whole process as a "playing with fire" style in which a man and his wife play drag games too much, which leads to a change in gender identity, so he made the details and lines. There are many hints, such as when the couple's life was still "normal", the protagonist who appeared as "Einer" at that time was already quite soft, and even the stylist had already used false eyelashes and mascara at this time. , implying that the protagonist's femininity has always existed; and when the plot developed to the end, when his wife Gerda lost control and begged It's time we stopped this stupid game, Lili told her that this was never a game for her; Seeing that when Gerda was asked about kissing Einer, he also admitted that it was too tempting to see Einer wearing an apron, I had to kiss him. Everything, even a little blunt for unknown reasons, is telling the audience: This is not a story of finding oneself, but a story of admitting oneself. Lili—or rather, the true self in the depths of her heart, her true desire, her deepest hope in life—has always been there, and she’s just waiting for an opportunity to break out of her cocoon and become a butterfly.

It is a little regrettable that Tom Amber, as a director specializing in Oscar in recent years, has once again exposed his lack of in-depth exploration of characters. "The Danish Girl", as a subject with great potential for deep exploration of character relationships and inner struggles, eventually The director's previous works, "The King's Speech" and "Les Miserables", are quite satisfactory and have to be superficial. The love between Gerda and Einer, as shown in the plot and lines, was supposed to be a deep bond. Six years of harmonious married life, Einer abandoned it when he said it was abandoned, whether it was when Gerda asked Einer to stop wearing women's clothes or between the two stages of gender reassignment surgery. When the "she" who has become Lili at this time is eager to pursue a new life, I can't see Einer's nostalgia for Gerda from the beginning to the end. The whole story is Lili's life-saving straw for Gerda as his only supporter. like dependence. From the perspective of Lili's pursuit of her inner gender identity, her attitude and behavior are established; this is also where Amber is most inked. In the process of becoming Lili, Einer was shockingly naked in the mirror and tried her best to hide it on the big screen. The plot of male organs may be a behavior that every male who has had doubts about gender identity can self-identify. But for "he" who is Einer, how can he simply abandon his life for so many years? Are you so determined not to look back? I don't believe that Lili in reality is such a one-sided chicken soup symbol. I only see her who is desperately pursuing the "true self", and who is pursuing the future, but I can't see the her who has been fettered by the past - but For anyone, especially Lili, who was controversial in that era, how could it be so simple to give up the fetters of the past and the shackles of reality? In the end, before the second stage operation, Lili smiled and watched Gerda walk out of the ward. At this time, she was crying bitterly, and I finally saw that Lili, who has a future and a past, a pursuit and attachment, and flesh and blood. This is also where I have a slight criticism of Eddie's performance. He played more like a separate Lili, rather than this complex whole from Einer to Lili.

At this point I am grateful to actress Alicia Vikander who played Gerda, on several occasions between her career ambitions (Lili as her muse, her ticket to mainstream European art) and the desire to get married life back on track Wandering uncertainly, in the end, she had to watch her husband drift away from her. Her powerlessness made people feel the same way. She couldn't even see her love for Einer. When chatting with her friends, she recalled her past with Einer. She said that she was the one who struck up a conversation and took the initiative to kiss her for the first time. She said that when she kissed Einer, it was like kissing another self; but This love is so blind, even after Einer became Lili and told her frankly that the two were not, and Einer's childhood friend Hans showed her in every possible way, she still held Lili and could continue to accompany her by her side. fantasy. I couldn't see exactly how Gerda's mind was winding, because maybe she never saw it herself. I sincerely hope that Alicia can nominate an Oscar for best actress with this, her performance is really worth it; as for Eddie... If he is nominated, should he mention the male lead or the female lead? This is a very tricky question - if you mention the male protagonist, I bet the jury will receive protests from LGBTQ organizations, especially transgender organizations.

Of course, I have said so many bad things about Amber. After all, he is a director above the pass line, and "The Danish Girl" is also a work above the pass line. My favorite part of the whole film is at the end of Gerda wearing the scarf that Lili left her to return to Lili's childhood hometown. Lili pursued gender identity and finally completed the sex reassignment surgery as she wished. Her pursuit is a symbol of desperation, as if the change of her body will give her complete control of herself, even if the sunrise is fleeting like a mayfly; but Gerda's The pursuit has not stopped until this moment, her powerlessness, her entanglement, and her longing, when the scarf flew to the edge of the misty cliff, it set sail again; a flesh and blood Gerda, for the same flesh and blood, For the audience who are imprisoned in reality, it is not necessarily the one who has the most blood, but it must be the one who can touch it the most. After all, the reality is not a single-threaded fairy tale paradise where you get what you pay for and you can do whatever you want.

I used to think the title The Danish Girl was referring to Lili, but when I wrote this, I suddenly felt that she could also refer to Gerda, a bridge between hope and reality, you and me in front of the screen - if one day I want to Give up some of the life you have to pursue the words of your heart - the confidant you need most.

Here's a little trivia: Although "The Danish Girl" is based on and adapted from Lili Elbe's autobiography "Man Into Woman", Lili's life has undergone a lot of changes in the film. She has undergone four sex reassignment surgeries in real life. Not twice in the film, also lived very strong for a few months after the operation, and eventually died of cardiac paralysis, not the massive blood loss and postoperative infection in the film.

Lili's story is not an isolated case of transgender people, nor is it just an identification problem that the LBGTQ group encounters; everyone has all kinds of desires they can't get, or another self that they can't be, Lili Going to pursue it, Gerda is always torn between pursuing what you want and maintaining the status quo, and more of us, whether you admit it or not, have chosen to compromise too many times under the polishing of time and experience. So, going back to the two questions I had at the beginning: Can we really do what we want? Can we truly be who we are?

This is an unanswered question, a matter of opinion. As someone who has always held unrealistic fantasies but is sadly becoming more and more realistic, my answer is: it will never be possible, completely, truly, and without any conditions, to pursue your inner desires, to "be yourself" . Lili, as I have said many times, is just a symbolic existence of the words "pursuit" and "identity", and her moth-to-fire ending is somewhat embarrassing and alarming. Of course, I have always been an indecisive person. I have never been able to cut off the past, and I also think more about the future and do less like walking on thin ice; the pursuit of myself in the past year has made me pay too much, and I have finally returned to the state of being so timid. . But Lili is not just the moth that flies into the flame, she is also the flame, if you keep her in your heart, you will always have the ability to summon courage again.

In everyone's heart, there lives a Lili. You kill her or become her and she is there.

(Uncle Moo's original work, please indicate what to reprint)

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The Danish Girl quotes

  • Dr. Hexler: Tell me about Lili... Where did she come from?

    Einar Wegener: Inside of me.

  • Gerda Wegener: It's hard for a man to be looked at by a woman. Women are used to it, of course, but for a man to submit to a woman's gaze - it's unsettling. Although I believe there's some pleasure to be had from it, once you yield.