you can't go home again

Jayde 2022-03-08 08:01:24

I was sitting in the movie theater watching "Old Man in the Mountains and Rivers", and I remembered my dad. When he was still alive, he often talked to me about his hometown, which was in a remote county in southwest China. My dad always talked about the back of his house. There is a mountain, majestic and beautiful, with green vegetation in summer. In the late 1980s, my mother and him went back to their hometown once, and when they came back, they told us about this legendary green mountain: What, it is a small earthen bag. Even so, we couldn't bear to expose my dad, and let him talk for so many years. Later, he suffered from cerebral hemorrhage and hemiplegia, so he forgot about this mountain, but he wanted to go back to his hometown, but he couldn't help himself. The relationship is all in the north, but the return home in the 1980s turned out to be his farewell to his hometown. He joined the army and left home at the age of fourteen. He went north with the army, met a girl he liked in a foreign land, got married and had children, and settled down. First, I devoted myself to the revolution, and then my children were born one after another. In addition, I had to travel a long way to get home. I had to take a train for several days to reverse the car and then go to another car. The economy was poor, and the extra money at home had already been sent back to my younger brothers and sisters. After going to school, he was financially prosperous, but fell ill again, so the return to his hometown in the 1980s turned out to be the only time he returned home after he left his hometown. He was like Zhang Jinsheng in the movie all his life. He spoke a strong local accent. People in the north often couldn't understand him. If I was there, I would act as an interpreter for him.



I grew up in the north, and when I was a child, I couldn't understand why our old man always thought about that little backward and remote place. Until later, on the day I left home by myself, my mother took me downstairs to get into a taxi, wiping tears, I quickly said goodbye to her, the car started, and I didn't dare to look back. My first stop was Hangzhou, and I went back to see them when there was a holiday during that time. I took the train for more than 30 hours, stayed at home for a few days, and then took the train back for more than 30 hours. In the very beginning, I did my hair, shopping for clothes, etc., and I waited until I got home. One of my friends said, wait until you start to have your own hair stylist, fitness card, supermarket in a strange city. When shopping for these things, you really leave the house.


Perhaps because I am a second-generation immigrant, I actually don’t have any deep feelings for this northern city where I was born and raised. When I was a child, I always felt that this was my prison, trapping me and suffocating me. Despite this, when my classmates left the city one by one, when I practiced for them, I would still tell them to come back if they didn't get along well outside. But none of them came back. Later, I had to leave myself, and my friends also told me, it’s okay, if it doesn’t work well outside, I’ll come back. I just smiled and didn't say anything. In 2006, I left Hangzhou for Beijing. The night I made my decision, I took a taxi home. When I passed West Lake, I looked out the window and suddenly realized that it was time to leave. I like Hangzhou, but such a beautiful place is not my home. This is the first time in my life that I have a real understanding of the word "hometown", so I packed up and came to Beijing, not out of love and nostalgia, just because it is here More opportunities. When many people leave their hometown, they feel that they will definitely come back. But as I walked, I went home for thousands of miles, and the way home was long gone.


"Mountains and Rivers Old Man" is about a group of people and their hometown. Some people stay with their hometown for a lifetime, some people leave their hometown and never go back, and some people finally come back, the leaves return to their roots, and some people's In my heart, my hometown has always been just a legend. Among all these stories, the one that touched me the most was Liang Zi's story. He was the one who finally returned to his hometown, just like a character in Carver's novels, taciturnly enduring the torture of fate, wandering abroad for 12 years, always struggling At the bottom, he didn't earn a penny, but he got sick. To him, his hometown is a dilapidated empty house, the last sense of security in the wandering wanderer's heart - in this world, at least there is still so much A place where you can quietly wait to die, the so-called falling leaves return to their roots, nothing more than that. Zhang Jinsheng, who never came back, went farther and farther. He was in a faraway land, and his native accent did not change. He could only rely on making friends with a group of fellow villagers who spoke the same dialect to find the lost homeland. This may be his ambition back then. When Bo Bo stepped out of the house, when he left the cramped and backward town, he never thought of it. He forced his son to learn Chinese, but what if he did? After all, he could not let his son understand his nostalgia. The boy who doesn't remember where he came from or his mother's name, he is a person without a hometown, but he still keeps the house key that his mother gave him when he was a child when he said goodbye to his mother, he still remembers his mother saying, "Let's The key to the house, you should have one." Will he come home eventually? The mother, who is almost blind, is the only person in the movie who has always stayed in her hometown and never left. Is it because she is afraid that the children who are thousands of miles away will come back one day, but cannot find her?



Hometown, the definition in the Chinese dictionary is "a place where you were born or lived for a long time". The word itself is a past tense, it is destined that only when you turn away, you start to have a hometown, and people who have not really left it will never really understand its meaning. Many of us, from the moment we bid farewell to our mother, are destined to wander the world forever, but we didn't know at that time that we will never go back. After so many years, I finally understand my father, but unfortunately I can't tell him. On the poster of the old man of Shanhe, there is a sentence: Everyone can only walk with you for a while. This reminds me of another sentence from another movie:


life is about letting go, but the saddest thing is that we didn't have time to say goodbye.






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