The main purpose of this article is to write about the movie, and some of the things that came to my mind after watching it. Of course there will be spoilers, but spoilers are not the point of this article, and I don't think it's a good movie if you don't want to watch it.
The movie mainly tells the story between 5 couples (couples), and there is always some "sexual eccentricity" between each couple. Of course, first of all you have to define what is "weird" to you: Pual & Mavev Mavev in the movie is masochistic, but in the plot of the movie, she always fantasizes about being raped, the so-called rape fantasy; the second pair is called Dan & Evie, the boy Dan has a strong desire to role-play, so much that The role-playing between the two often put the cart before the horse, and gradually evolved into not to increase sexual interest, but to vent Dan's own desire to play; the third couple is Richard & Rowena, who have worked hard for three years to have children. But it has been unsuccessful. The doctor told the wife that it may be because she did not orgasm during sex. Gradually, the wife discovered the secret of her own orgasm and sexual desire, that is, when her husband was crying, the so-called Dacryphilia, tearful fetish, that is, watching Other people's tears will stimulate their own sexual desire, and as a result, they continue to use various lies to deceive their husbands in exchange for sexual desire and orgasm; the fourth pair is Phil & Maureen, husband Phil's sexual desire will only be revealed when his wife is asleep, the so-called The Somnophilia sleep fetish, that is, peeking at other people's sleep will generate sexual desire, so that the husband secretly gives his wife sleeping pills in exchange for his own sexual desire. The fifth pair of Monica & Sam is a bit special. The boys are deaf and the girls are video interpreters for the deaf, but the deaf boys have telephone scatalogia, the so-called "obscene phone addiction", the obscene of strangers The phone was the best way to get him aroused.
The first two couples seem to be easy to understand, isn't it M in SM, and role-playing, but the latter couples seem a bit bizarre. But in fact, it depends on how you understand it. "Tear-feeling sex addiction" can be understood as an abuser, and the other party's tears represent a state of abuse to a certain extent. Generally speaking, only the abuser will feel the abuse himself. Pleasure and sexual desire, but "tear sexuality" expands the direct causal relationship in the middle. As long as you see your partner cry, no matter whether the "abuse" is issued by yourself or not, you will feel pleasure. So much so that she even came out to watch tragic movies together, asked her husband to cut onions, and hung pictures of her husband's dead father all over the room to stimulate her husband to cry. The fourth couple's "sleep fetish" is a bit complicated to say, it belongs to paraphilias. If it is further subdivided, the "sleep fetish" should belong to the "predatory sexual desire" in the Kinsey sexology report. predatory paphilias", this will not expand (because I don't know much about XD either).
"Sexuality" The Pot-Lid Theory
In fact, about the matter of "sexuality", it is not necessary to understand it as hard as memorizing concepts and words in school. While the four sexual fetishes covered in this film are clearly defined and explained, and have their own wiki pages, the "hobby" should have a more personal meaning at the same time. Everyone will have their own hobbies in sex, such as biting ears, such as licking the cochlea, some people may see thick pubic hair will increase libido, and some may see shaved clean genitals. It's sexually interesting, but it's also possible that you are extremely picky about the length of your genital hair (even hairstyle XD), and you can't say if the length is controlled at 5mm (plus or minus 2mm) - what I want to say is, about your own sexuality, You must have a different sexual interest than most people, and your own arousal. And the so-called "sexual fetish" that you can call a name by summarizing it is nothing more than a vague definition. It is enough to find a "pot cover" big enough to cover similar sexual interest points, and we will call it for the time being. "Pot Lid Theory". But I don't think it's appropriate to use such a large and general "pot cover" to find a specific correspondence in your sex. Just like you can't use an industry to accurately explain your work, those "nouns" in sexual fetishes just provide you with orientation and direction in the ocean of fetishes, and are a beacon for you to find your own fetishes. There is no need to define your own sexual preferences, you just need to know them and make them known to your sexual partners in an appropriate form.
Letting your sex partner know about your fetishes is easier said than done but carefully done. The sexual fetishes between the four couples in the movie all ended in tragedy without exception, and the reason was nothing more than communication. In the way of communication, too direct and too implicit are not the best choice. The result of being too direct, in addition to the fact that the partner may not accept it, is the loss of those vague areas in sex, which can easily become textbook sex, and make the whole process of rolling into a fixed pattern. For example, in the first couple in the movie, the girl directly proposed a "rape fantasy", and then inevitably fell into a paradox: when she wanted to rape, it was no longer rape. And being too subtle is more problematic. The tragedies that happened between the two couples in the back were all because of being too subtle, or even concealing their sexual hobbies.
Therefore, "sexual hobbies" are not actually pathological. The reason for the appearance of sickness is nothing more than communication: the prying eyes of outsiders, and the unsatisfactory communication between partners.
In the end, the film uses an exaggerated method to make these originally independent and unrelated tragedies converge in a car accident and death, echoing the English name of the film "The Little Death". Many people can easily come to a strange conclusion that "you see, sexual perversion will end well" at the end, but the director didn't mean it. Know that no matter what mistakes and tragedies end up in sex, it's not sex's fault.
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