Pursuing a happy life is easier than pure love

Catharine 2022-03-22 09:01:40

There is a feeling of watching it for a long time, like watching the movie version of an American drama, just like in HIMYM in the end, Ted took the French blue trumpet and went to wait for Robin under the window. Everyone is saying that you are kidding me? What about true love? I can only comfort myself that there are different true loves at different stages, and this is life. This film is like an American drama, the plot is very life-like, the characters' thinking and emotional patterns are not extraordinary, and love is only based on needs, not necessarily. In fact, there is nothing to classify these three women, but if you insist on classifying them, it seems that you will always encounter these three types in life, the love relationship caused by the relationship between career cooperation or colleagues. It's your true love but you always miss it again and again. One came to marry you. If they are lucky, they can be alone, if not, they can at most sigh like the male protagonist, "It's quite complicated." The best thing about this movie is that it's really hard to know who's mom and who's the one unless you see it at the end. You thought it was the same person but it wasn't. But after Liu Anhua Ming, I felt that everything was unimportant. I felt that "Mom said that life is too short, so I will leave regrets inadvertently, and I must take a good look when I encounter beautiful scenery", try to look carefully, the pursuit of happiness is easier than pure love, After all, love is fleeting, the future is illusory, and it is not the present that is drunk now. Anyway, can't play fate. The male protagonist is selfish and vulnerable, reckless and passive. Selfishness and vulnerability Needless to say, there are many details worth pondering, and recklessness is buying rings without knowing the situation. And passive, listening to Lao T's latest talk show a few days ago, he emphasized that men are actually very passive. At the time, I didn't quite understand it, but after watching this film, I immediately understood that except for active skin-to-skin contact, everything else was passive, and I didn't know what happened to the woman I loved. On the contrary, women are very aware of the situation and know what they want, showing a tendency to take the initiative. Emily chose to stay in New York after breaking up with the male protagonist, and find a new job to settle herself. Although these are not written, there must be many difficulties behind her. She did not get immersed in lovelorn, and worked hard to live a better life. Appear gracefully in front of the male protagonist and propose a compound. Xia Xia likes the male protagonist and expresses it directly and takes the initiative to show her kindness. Love has always been part of her. What she wants is her career, so she chooses to publish the article. I won't talk about it in April, from copy From a girl to go to a university to study for a master's degree and then to become a high-cold white-collar worker, it is simply the process of female diaosi becoming a goddess. She is getting better and better, and she is not disheartened by the setbacks of love at all, just like the heroine in Jane Eyre, "Do you think that I am poor, humble, unbeautiful, and insignificant, so I have no soul and no heart? You are wrong, I have as many souls and as full of heart as you do. If God gave me a little more beauty and a little more money, I would make it difficult for you to leave me, just as it is difficult for me to leave you now." She didn't complain at all, Solid life, more and more beautiful, when he comes back to find her one day, she can still turn around and say, please leave now with full dignity. And what about the male lead? He has been accepting it all the time, accepting the breakup that he feels inexplicable, being with Xia Xia after accepting the provocation, accepting April's letter but not understanding why she came back, and Emily, who obviously doesn't want to contact her again, is with her again. Finally accepted the divorce. If it wasn't for his daughter's suggestion, he would have been so useless and passive forever. Most men's life ends when they marry or divorce Emily. That's the woman you finally choose. After falling in love, having a child, and getting divorced, do you really want to continue to toss? How sure are you yourself that you can make that woman happy? Just thinking about it makes them troublesome, and they might as well watch a game. I've always thought of it this way, whether it's a person or a person who loves things, once you give up, it's hard to get back. If you get back, you need more patience and energy. Even more unlikely. And what about the male lead? He has been accepting it all the time, accepting the breakup that he feels inexplicable, being with Xia Xia after accepting the provocation, accepting April's letter but not understanding why she came back, and Emily, who obviously doesn't want to contact her again, is with her again. Finally accepted the divorce. If it wasn't for his daughter's suggestion, he would have been so useless and passive forever. Most men's life ends when they marry or divorce Emily. That's the woman you finally choose. After falling in love, having a child, and getting divorced, do you really want to continue to toss? How sure are you yourself that you can make that woman happy? Just thinking about it makes them troublesome, and they might as well watch a game. I've always thought of it this way, whether it's a person or a person who loves things, once you give up, it's hard to get back. If you get back, you need more patience and energy. Even more unlikely. And what about the male lead? He has been accepting it all the time, accepting the breakup that he feels inexplicable, being with Xia Xia after accepting the provocation, accepting April's letter but not understanding why she came back, and Emily, who obviously doesn't want to contact her again, is with her again. Finally accepted the divorce. If it wasn't for his daughter's suggestion, he would have been so useless and passive forever. Most men's life ends when they marry or divorce Emily. That's the woman you finally choose. After falling in love, having a child, and getting divorced, do you really want to continue to toss? How sure are you yourself that you can make that woman happy? Just thinking about it makes them troublesome, and they might as well watch a game. I've always thought of it this way, whether it's a person or a person who loves things, once you give up, it's hard to get back. If you get back, you need more patience and energy. Even more impossible.

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  • Maya Hayes: Poor April. Just like the character in the story. Who's always been the friend then she realized she doesn't just want to be the friend she wants to be the *girl*friend. Except it's too late.

    Will Hayes: What do you mean?

    Maya Hayes: Weren't you listening? She came home for you.

  • Maya Hayes: How come you changed all names except hers?

    Will Hayes: What do you mean?

    Maya Hayes: In the story, you know like mom became Emily, and Summer's that Natasha lady who writes for that magazine... But you didn't change April's. Why?

    Will Hayes: Why - Why are you so concerned with this anyway?

    Maya Hayes: Because I want you to be happy.

    Will Hayes: You know, I'm happy.

    Maya Hayes: Trust me, dad. You're not happy.

    Will Hayes: [Long pause] Put on your coat.