Some time ago a co-worker's father died this afternoon suddenly feeling out of control in the QQ group,
had he wanted to say to everyone took some home specialty,
multi-chat a few, could not even say that several "very Sadness is sad".
Some of you don’t know how to respond to this sudden revelation of true feelings, and some have to say "sorrow".
Thinking of which psychology book you have seen, at this time, what people need most is companionship,
so I hesitate again and again. I still agree with this. The unfamiliar colleague said, "We are all here and we will pass."
Although it was rather embarrassing, I couldn't find a more useful way of expression.
I watched this movie in the evening, "The Anti-Cancer Me".
Unexpectedly, this is not an inspirational film about how to overcome cancer, nor is it a tragic and aesthetic literary film. After the
film is over, my mind is full. It’s all a lyric from the original soundtrack:
I won’t run far, I can always be found.
In addition to working hard to find a solution,
what empathy, comfort, and distraction are the
same as sex, medical marijuana and morphine.
It's all short-term dismissal, or painless care.
After that, there is still only emptiness and helplessness, like the cold air everywhere in winter.
Amid emptiness and helplessness, when you see a person sitting in the other corner of the dark room, you
feel at ease in your heart at that moment. In fact, everything is superfluous.
And the people who
can be seen by you at any time in that corner, the people who can answer your phone at any time, the people who
can go to the places you hate to accompany you to do things you hate
, may only be three in your life. One: mother, true friend, good lover.
Believe me, the one who accompanies you to the end is not necessarily the people who were inseparable.
It's not that I have to sigh that the world's impermanence should still be there,
but they really can't get through at certain moments.
Some suffering is poverty or disease, sometimes it is patience or temptation,
and sometimes it is just a quarrel, and others decide to let it go.
Of course, some people will come back after they leave, but you no longer need this kind of capricious company.
We need company, in fact, we need a sense of security and belonging.
What you want is nothing more than the promise that the other party can fulfill:
"I have been here. I can always be found."
There is no "but", no "then", no "sorry".
There are no excuses, forgetting, and not answering calls, and
there are not so many conditions for being unwilling or unwilling because of this.
Yes, the cure for cancer is not "accompaniment",
but it is the best thing outside of "cure".
There is a discipline that uses this word when explaining "love".
Plato used Aristopan to tell a story in the dialogue collection:
Once upon a time there was a kind of person who was a yin and yang.
Zeus split a person in half. From then on, the desire to love each other is rooted in the heart, and
it must be restored. The original state of the whole united two people into one, and healed the pain that had been cut in the past.
Therefore, each of us is one half of the human being, and it is something that becomes the whole when combined;
therefore, each of us is always looking for the other half of our own. This kind of hope and pursuit of becoming a whole is called love.
I was about to finish writing that the original English name of the movie was 50/50, half and half.
Whether it is psychology or philosophy, this is currently the most appropriate definition of "love" in my opinion.
I have always liked Western wedding vows, which are noble and sacred interpretations of this emotion.
This passage can be dedicated to those
few people who accompany you unconditionally and you are willing to accompany :
for better or for worse, for richer , for poorer,
in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish;
from this day forward until death do us part.
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