In a paradise like Hawaii, you can get to know a typical old American: Matt, a real estate developer played by Clooney, is a good husband who is conscientious and responsible for making money for the family. He is a competent lyric poem, a very rich and successful person, and a good man who truly loves his wife and is loyal and unswerving. It's a pity that these names are all he has, and he doesn't do anything else!
In front of his wife, he is a silent man. Although he loves his wife, he has not had any communication with her. So his wife relied on intense water sports, relying on an affair with a man who did not love her to find the passion of life, and eventually died in an accident.
In front of his daughters, he was a silent man. He loves his daughters and gives them the opportunity to experience in order to prevent arrogance and extravagance. Send them to the best school. But he didn't even know what his daughter didn't eat, let alone understand what they thought.
Facing a dying wife, a rebellious daughter, the truth of an affair, and a friend who has been hiding it from her. Matt was in pain, but with his "serious" mind over the years, he could only slowly kneel down and search for the world he destroyed with his own hands. In the deep blue eyes under the silver thread, the wise, confident and firm eyes instantly vanished, leaving a void that could almost swallow everything in the universe. Faced with this reality, he could only choose to remain silent once again.
Matt didn't do anything wrong because he didn't actually do anything. He is such a conscientious and meticulous "good man", who loves his wife and children deeply, and contributes to the family like a textbook. But in his eyes, surfing and shopping sweet talk is just an add-on to life. Since it is an add-on, you don't need to care. He can give you all the material basis for life, but he has never learned to give you a sweet and short episode like bubble gum. If keeping up with someone is choosing a life, Matt's life is rich and boring.
The same as him are those dog blood stories hidden under the 30%+ divorce rate in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou. These people probably did not do much wrong. As Newsweek's China Marriage Investigation Report said, the grounds for divorce have now expanded to areas that lawyers cannot mediate, because it is too succinct, with only three words: "I don't love anymore."
The fast-growing city and various other social factors are like giant beasts, digesting the minds of the mischievous people in its belly. Time is fragmented by various terminal devices. As long as you are willing to say it online, you will never meet in person. The city is too big, and rushing to the same point is definitely a waste of time! The chat content is also infinitely entertaining. No one is talking about the interesting things in their own life. What they are talking about is nothing more than the hot news that has just been posted on the mobile phone. In round after round of gatherings, gags and laughter are real joy, and at the same time, they are also the best realistic anaesthetic. After the effect of the drug, it is inevitable to feel lonely and empty in the face of the stress of life.
Because this party is for entertainment, this kind of work is for living, this kind of rush is to make you look less lazy, this kind of hustle and bustle is to make you look less lonely! Enrichment is moving towards what you want, and communication is exchanging understanding of life with someone you can trust. Taking up time is not fulfilling, and gathering friends will also be lonely. After all, few people care about your feelings in reality. Even when someone tries to care about it, you will be habitually vigilant to the person who comes, and then freeze your heart to make it look strong at that moment. And hard, and then slapped TA with a "hehe", almost forgetting how painful the backlash after thawing is. At some point in the future you will have to choose silence, because you have overdrawn your share of dialogue in the previous carnival!
At the end of the film, Matt forgave his wife, dealt with his wife's affair object, and reunited with his daughters. Matt reconstructed his world. He tried at least two things: 1. Make life full of fun and make happiness a habit 2. Handle the world that lovers and friends can't pay attention to
The taste of life is more of a habit. As long as the warehouse and food and clothing can be solved, a person can dig and create happy points. The stress of life does not over-exploit a person's time, which is the basic element of life. Combining the fragmented time to play some interesting things can also manage the relationship better. After all, it is not all animal desires that men want to satisfy, and women long for some pink dreams no matter how old they are. Creating a cosmic romance only requires a little background knowledge. Picking a star for TA costs $9.99. If you are too strapped, you can choose to paint music or poetry. If you don't have time to expand your talent at all, you can even continue to hone your sweet-talking ability like a person I know, and it will go deep into the bone marrow for decades. With the ability to tap humor from life, it is possible to shape better communication channels. Optimism and self-confidence are additional products of humor, and they can change your spiritual world.
In the early hours of yesterday morning, someone posted a message to Weibo, complaining about the need to catch up with the article late at night. I replied: "It's useless, let's continue to work after venting, see this meager at this time, and then help you reduce the workload except your mother, no more than 3 people, sleep, you can wait for Estee Lauder. Let’s fix the dark circles
under the eyes , hahaha~” In my eyes, the relationship between different people in the world can be classified into the following categories:
1. TAs will care about your success, which is what everyone does Yes, including passers-by
2. When they care about your failure, most of your friends will do this. After all, a few words of comfort are always heart-warming.
3. TAs pay attention to your life process rather than the finale. People in the core circle of friends can do this. Sometimes TAs will trace your recent state and give encouragement or comfort. Followed by meetings or advice.
4. When the TA found that you were having a difficult time, they gave the help allowed by the time cost, and gave better communication and analysis. They chose actions rather than just verbal words. This is a very precious treasure and must not be discarded. Few of the billions of people will pay attention to your feelings and are willing to share and exchange understanding, and more importantly, are willing to burn their own time to make your life a little better and trace the troubles you have encountered in the process of life.
These very few people are the last pillar of my world, and thanks to them for not giving up on me in some difficult times, it makes me, such a tossed person, constantly mature.
I think Matt is a good guy in the end because he respects his wife's choices. I understand that Chinese women seek the power to control their own destiny, and so do men of course. Respecting and trusting those you love is the only way to a happy ending. Are you hungry? I've cooked noodles, so come and eat!
Life is indeed not easy, and there are not so many crazy idealists who burn themselves to light the way ahead. Without long-term plans and goals, without solid spiritual support, without execution, without a sense of belonging and without love, these are the norm that can be seen in the city, but they are by no means irreversible. At least before the world is destroyed, you can choose to save a few quotes from those noisy parties, organize your thoughts, make your life a little more interesting, and then ask the people around you "How have you been recently?" alright?"
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