Later, after reading the film review, I realized that I wanted to express that the little girl grew up and got rid of her mother's control?
His mother is indeed poison, but I think a lot of people say her mother too much. .
Her mother is not at all worthless.
First of all, she is strong, although this strength comes from previous injuries. It's just a pity to say that the way she took after being hurt was more extreme, turning into a poisonous oleander for self-defense. So in the end she poisoned the lover who left him and went to jail. She finally told her daughter that Barry wanted to kill her and she was in self-defense. In fact, we can imagine that Barry didn't want to kill her, just left her, and the pain was similar to killing her. Including her possession and control of her daughter is actually a form of self-defense, because people lack a sense of security and belonging. In fact, she is also teaching her daughter the experience and lessons she has lived for half her life. Although she is a bit extreme, isn't that the case in life? Our parents always teach us not to do this, not to do that, so as to avoid detours. Maybe in the future, as parents, we actually want to do the same. For example, she taught her daughter to be independent, think, be strong, don't follow that person just because he is nice to you, you have to know what you need, I think these are good things. As an independent woman, don't we need it? Like the families she was boarding in, Star was afraid that she would steal the man and shoot her, the girl at the mac school beat her because she watched her boyfriend, including Claire in the back, choose suicide for a man who didn't love him Wait, every woman places her hopes on men, and uses all means in order to possess these men. What will happen if that man goes away? Yes, we admit that we love, we are afraid of losing, we are sad, we are sad, but this is not an excuse for our possession and dependence, and it will not be the whole of our life. When a man is not at home, we should have our own things to do, when a man is empathetic, we can grieve and suffer, but don't hurt those who shouldn't be hurt because of possession and jealousy, I hope We can be a little stronger, and then live the life we thought about but didn’t achieve because of this man, and do the things we wanted to do but didn’t do because of this man. Like a mother in a movie, go be a great painter instead of hysterical or even suicidal. As the question asks, who is your oleander for? This is not a selfish proposition, but an independent proposition. Your endless dependence and possessiveness are never selfless to others. Therefore, women need to be independent.
Second, we have to know what we need. I admit that human beings are social animals and need warmth and security between people. But don't blindly accept or ask for it. Just like the heroine, she waited until she met Claire and knew that being loved was such a happy thing. But we can find a problem. Every time the heroine is in a family, she is always greatly influenced by others, at least there will be obvious changes in her dress, which may be because she is too young. Mother said "Knowing the names of 27 kinds of tears doesn't get you anything" Although this is a bit problematic, I want to say that we have to measure for ourselves what is good for us, helps grow, and what should be Abandoned. Just like the heroine's final self-deprecation is actually an extreme. If we accept the conclusions of the previous generation, we may avoid detours, but we are like puppets. If we want to be independent, we always have to fall a few times. What is important is that we can find a delicate balance. Some persistence has nothing to do with form, but a firm strength from the heart. And these things are the price of growth. The heroine went through four family stages during the most important period of her growth. It should be said that the days she spent with Claire had the greatest impact on her values. It is conceivable that if the mother hadn't been imprisoned, the girl would grow up to be an amazing painter, full of artistic life, but she must also resemble her mother, beautiful but dangerous.
In the end, in order to get rid of her mother's control, the girl asked her mother to let her go. She succeeded, she was free, but in exchange for her mother's eternal prison life. Is this expensive? different people have different opinions. I remember a sentence my classmate said: everything is just because we are too stupid, if a person is smart enough, he will definitely find a good balance in it.
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