In the film, Dean and Cindy are a couple who have been married for six years. With the arrival of the "seven-year itch", there is a problem with their marriage. This kind of problem is not a third party, but Dean. And Cindy's heart has been shaken about life and love. After six years of getting along, Dean has become more and more indifferent to life, and Cindy has long lost the romantic feelings of "You and Me" when dealing with love. As a result, there is no love in the marriage anymore, instead there is confusion, quarrels, anger, despair, until the end. Some clips in the film that mix sweet memories of the past into cold reality are heartbreaking. In one episode, Dean played the guitar at the entrance of the mall to accompany Cindy's tap dance, and sang "You Always Hurt The Ones You Love" earnestly. The deep romance and tacit understanding of the two people only made people feel happy. The diametrically opposite part is after the marriage. The two drove to a love hotel to celebrate Valentine's Day. There was a fierce argument on the way. Cindy suddenly stopped and said that she needed to be relieved. As a result, she rushed into the woods on the side of the road and the hillside, dumbfounded crying and angry Beat tree trunks for vent. At that moment, I was thinking how big a gap must be in the communication between husband and wife, so that in the face of the husband's incomprehensible quarrel, the wife was unwilling to respond, but just endured the intense pain, and finally broke out irrevocably. In the development of marriage, whether it is Dean or Cindy, they have gradually become incompetent in love, one is incompetent in life, the other is incompetent in love, because of incompetence in love, it is inaction in marriage management. Whatever, in marriage, career or life, failure comes from inaction. A Western proverb says, please appreciate the precision of this sentence but forgive its meanness. Dogs cannot lift their heads.
Inability to love is a sin. Hopelessness, indifference, walking dead, flies and dogs, what makes us lose our enthusiasm and responsibility, incompetently content with the status quo, and indifferently and indulgently. In the final analysis, a social ideology should ultimately be held responsible for it. Dean and Cindy both grew up in unhealthy families. Dean's single parent growth background made him inherit more of his father's idleness, and because he was afraid of losing his wife and family like his father, he used his own way. Firmly shackles his wife; and Cindy sees her father's violent nirvana and mother's forbearance a lot in a family that looks like a god. She doesn't believe that love can continue in marriage. Pessimism is her interpretation of marriage in her heart. They are either extreme or selfish or indifferent, all of which are passive and hopeless acceptance of the status quo. If families can give their children more love and warmth, and if society can set a better moral and responsibility benchmark for people in society, perhaps our Valentine's Day will be brighter.
These days, unmarried girls are always shouting that they want to get married. One day, a married senior couldn't help it and warned: If you want to get married well, you have to see if you have three heads, six arms and seventy-two changes. Also, you have to have a Guanyin heart. Well, girls, please share and encourage yourself if you come here.
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