------ the movie "Blue Valentine's Day" feels
if this is the final appearance of love?
- Suspicion, quarrel, unbearable, hurt each other, and finally each turned away.
After watching "Blue Valentine's Day", I felt like a needle was stabbing in my heart. It wasn't very painful, but it was a subtle and secret itch. You can't scratch this itch, you just have to endure it. Nothing can be done.
So I was afraid of marriage, I felt how long life is, and how much courage it takes to be entangled with a person for a lifetime. Can you survive the "seven-year itch"? Can you escape the quarrel of diesel, rice, oil and salt? Can you face the aging face without getting tired? ...The trivial matters in marriage, the little things in life, all these, can you really face them with a sincere heart? Don't complain, don't complain?
"Blue Valentine" tells the same story as "The Kramers". After the difficulties in their married life, the two were exhausted, their lives became a mess, and they were even scarred at the end. What caused all this was not the so-called third-party intervention or something more serious, but just the female protagonist's boredom with the current life. Time is a poison, it can wear away the strongest love ever, and finally make people resentful. And those memories of being in love are like a joke.
Dean's love for Cindy needless to say. He fell in love with her at first sight, took care of her carefully, and was even willing to marry Cindy who was still pregnant with someone else's child. For many years, he treated his little daughter as his own, and gave her more love than his biological father. Not at all, maybe even his biological father is not as good as him. Everything stems from his love for Cindy. However, these are far from enough. Cindy is tired of his cynical attitude towards life. She doesn't want him to be content with the status quo. She hopes that he can do something, and she herself hopes to be a successful woman. So conflicts began to arise, and finally intensified on the night that was carefully designed to spend the two-person world well. Cindy locked Dean outside the bedroom door, and went back without even waking Dean up early the next morning. Already working. Dean, who was originally full of passion and looking forward to a romantic night, was extremely depressed and went to the hospital where Cindy worked. However, the final result was that Dean left in pain, and his back was very lonely. And in front of him are brilliant fireworks, it will be late, the tears in his eyes have not dried, where will he go?
I still can't get over the part where Dean was so angry that he dropped the ring. He loved her so much, even if he was so angry that he threw the ring into the grass, the next moment he rushed out of the car to look for her, how could he be willing to throw away something as important as the ring! It was the testimony of their marriage, the oath, the love that could not be thrown away. However, in the end, he still couldn't get it back, which may also hint at the final outcome of their love, unable to find the past beauty.
The story of the two threads intertwined, the more beautiful the past, the more the sadness of the present is set off. Life is boring, and memories are no longer important. The future is still lost.
Maybe a girl like Cindy didn't love Dean. There were so many men in her life. In the end, she didn't choose Dean just because of pregnancy or impulsiveness. She really fell in love with him. She is just confused about the current life, she has become realistic, physically and mentally exhausted between work and family. She just didn't know how to keep going.
And Dean, even a poor boy, makes a living by moving people, but his enthusiasm for life can be seen from his careful helping the old man to clean up the house, but the most valuable thing about him is that he is a romantic boy, he He can sing, draw, play musical instruments, and is passionate about love. What makes him a middle-aged man who drinks beer every morning to paint walls and has no dreams? Maybe this is the cruelty of life. Yet his love for Cindy and his daughter is so touching. He said it was the worst he could be, and he wanted Cindy to give him a chance, and he did what she wanted him to do. However, the dazed Cindy couldn't face him, their tears stung me, and I was speechless looking at the pain of the two of them.
Is this the future of my life? Is it possible that in the future, I will also be worn away by time, lose confidence in the future road, trap myself in a small world, and live unhappy every day?
Cindy said: We are not happy anymore. What could be more deadly than this sentence? A man can't make his beloved woman happy, so what else can he say? All the words of pleading, all the promises, all the justifications were in vain. Because they are unhappy, even hugging each other can no longer warm each other. Instead, try saying goodbye. Forgetting may be the best option.
I don't remember where I saw a sentence: it turns out that saying goodbye and forgetting is the serious thing to do for the rest of my life. Compared to it, fanatical love is almost the same as a sneeze.
So Dean turned to leave, and the younger daughter chased after him, and he coaxed her back. He didn't know where he should go, he was just sad, he still remembered the feeling of his heartbeat when he saw her for the first time. He said, "I think she's familiar, she's very different, like when a song starts playing, you can't help but want to dance." However, no matter how beautiful the memory is, no matter how gorgeous it was, it's just the past. His love for her started from the heart and spirit, but when it fell into reality, it was riddled with holes and could not survive. He gave himself very thoroughly, and then returned so much sadness and exhaustion. However, I know Cindy is also in pain. It's not that she doesn't love him, she's just sad that they have changed and their love has changed beyond recognition. So I don't know what kind of road I'm going to take, so I resist and panic.
Not all couples go through this period, maybe just get through it. Is love still very beautiful, and the final look is still very moving? I always hold such colorful expectations, always afraid that in the end, everyone will turn out to be hideous. But reality is not a fairy tale after all. How deep the joy will be filtered out by time.
And the greatest despair in life is to be in a slow-moving defeat. Love or life and death can never be forced.
2012-2-29
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