For this betrayal, I feel that B is very hurt and innocent, but at the same time, it seems that I can't blame T too much.
T was born in a middle-class family in the United States. In the era of the single-person working model, the father usually went out to work and the mother gave birth to three or four children. After the end of the twentieth century, the family entered a two-person working model, with a nanny taking care of three or four juniors. child. According to T's age, she should have grown up in the one-person working model era, so she should have experienced the father and mother after having the next child. suffer hardship. When T quarreled with B, he repeatedly emphasized that they are different now because they have children. In fact, this is exactly what T has experienced herself, because she has children, so, whether it is necessary or not, she will naturally worry about family expenses, unemployment, and B's ability to work.
The bad thing is that B is still unemployed, and later there is no artist subsidy, which will undoubtedly exacerbate T's anxiety.
In times of crisis, it is natural for a person to want to enter the environment she believes is the safest and most familiar. At this time, T would doubt her own sexual orientation. In fact, it was her instinct to let her escape back to the arms of a man. It was not necessarily that she really fell in love with that man, and it was not necessarily that she did not love B anymore.
Hidden behind T's behavior is a very unpleasant problem: T thinks that the heterosexual couple model is safer, then the gay family is relatively unsafe! The "insecurity" here is actually a series of worries hidden in T's mind, for example, are gays or bisexuals more likely to lose their jobs? Less likely to be promoted? In terms of education, can children from homosexual families enjoy the same rights as children from heterosexual families (public schools in the United States are not random, there are queues, children need intelligence tests, and parents have to pass a series of audits)? Can homosexuals really compete with heterosexuals in terms of income? Although American law stipulates that when homosexuals are discriminated against, they can seek fair treatment through legal appeals, but these issues will not be talked about in people's mouths, but are done through unspoken rules of the heart or society. Unable to prove. Then again, the law itself discriminates against homosexuality: it does not recognize same-sex marriage.
Here, for the time being, let's talk about how the American people view homosexuality.
I remember that T betrayed B and got on with a man named Henry. When they first started contact, he told T that he had no opinion on T's life before, and hoped that T would not have any psychological burden when interacting with him. I remember that T was very moved at that time, hugged or kissed him, I don't remember. Later, when the two were about to break up and quarrel, Mr. Henry made another remark to show his true views on homosexuality. He said that one day is Lala, and life is Lala. What he means by this is that once you do something bad, you can't help but keep doing it, no matter if you're tortured or influenced in the process. Not to mention why T left him, but looking at his contradictory statements, we can see that the general public does not regard homosexuality as a normal person at all, and they usually do not attack or discriminate because they are afraid of breaking the law, or they are too lazy to answer. However, discrimination is bound to exist.
Looking at the world from the perspective of homosexuality, you will find that they themselves regard themselves as children who have made mistakes, consciously accept discrimination, see themselves as a vulnerable group in society, and feel guilty for their actions. You might be wondering, how could they be ashamed? They should have declared their sexual orientation in order to justly insist on being the true self. Yes, no matter how disguised people are, they cannot betray their true self. This is the nature of human beings. But consider the environmental impact. If one person says you are an SB, you may retort and call him an SB; if three people say you are an SB, you may retort, but feel a little sad; if someone who knows you They say you are a SB, then you will definitely think that you are a SB deep down, unless you are the kind of hero whose mind is strong enough to ignore anyone's thoughts and fight to the death even if you are hostile to the whole world ( Unfortunately, such people are very rare). This is the individual version of the so-called "three people become tigers".
I'm not making assumptions, this drama has exposed this psychology very deeply.
Remember the gay demonstrations held on gay coming out day in season two? First of all, heterosexuals never demonstrate, they do not need to show, because the demonstration is actually because there is no "power"; heterosexuals should never be happy about their coming out day, because they can come out every day, and come out It's natural to be righteous; by contrast, gay coming out day is heart-wrenching, often accompanied by tears and reprimands, and perhaps better surprise or sadness. (Actually, the saddest part was not the day of coming out, but the series of terrifying preparations, both mental and material, that I had done before.)
Jenny met an old colleague that day, and the old colleague said that the pride of homosexuality is far less than shame, so they showed off their only pride on this day. In a word! There are many similar examples of people not really accepting homosexuality. For example, at Dana's funeral, the priest declared that she should have a man to provide her with solid and reliable shoulders, which shows that Dana's parents did not allow their daughter to have any relationship with homosexuality. , even though Dana had come out firmly with her parents during her lifetime; and at the funeral, the group of friends was placed in the corner of the back row, which is even more indicative of this.
Having said so much, I just want to prove one thing, that is, people do not identify with homosexuality from their hearts. No matter how good homosexuals are, they can only be marginal figures in society and cannot determine mainstream values.
It is based on these considerations that T will have worries that are not worth mentioning in B's eyes after having children. I think these worries are enough to blind T's mind and make her make wrong judgments and return to men. (I only consider it based on T's personal situation, that is, the person she really loves is B, not intending to offend fellow males)
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