B is almost a copy of her father: strong sense of responsibility, calm, stubborn, once determined, his inner thoughts will not be easily changed, grasp the values of mainstream society, control himself rationally like a successful man, and at the same time, rely on strength and ability Take control of the world. But she is actually a woman, not only has the appearance and shape that ordinary women dream of, but also has the talent and knowledge to kill men and women, and has the strength and rationality of successful men. There should be no waste of life on her growth path, because a rational mind always forces herself to make the right choice, and unworthy choices can never stop her.
Therefore, the B we have seen from the beginning is such a successful woman who has a successful career, takes charge of her own life, manages trivial matters in an orderly manner, sets clear goals, and clearly knows what she is doing and what she will do.
In the United States, there is such a life philosophy, that is, work hard to do what you love and make money from it. In this process, the most important thing is to maintain a balance between work and life. I think, according to this mainstream value, B does a perfect job.
But something was wrong, causing BT's sex life to gradually become boring and boring. In response to this problem, psychologist Don put forward his own views. He believes that excessive commitment of responsibility between lovers, especially the promise of long-term or obligatory care, will greatly weaken the passion of both parties, and even reduce their charm and attractiveness in the eyes of the other party, causing the party who fulfills the commitment to bear the burden in his heart. Heavy pressure without knowing it, manifested as a loss of interest in life, boring and monotonous. I don't know if this is the psychological explanation of the "seven-year itch", but this is the explanation I personally agree with the most.
So in the first season, we often saw B walking towards T cautiously and lovingly with a cup of some kind of drink that T likes to drink. This is actually the process of taking care of T with a full sense of responsibility. This action designed by the screenwriter is very representative, and B's completion of this action is very convincing. Because in the eyes of some macho Bs, T is a dependent person who needs to be pampered, needs someone to help her make choices, and should be the "little wife" who should be taken care of by her. The source of the problem is here. Through the later plots, we know that T is actually a very assertive woman. Her unique vision and insights in her work are no less than that of B, and her smoothness and sophistication are even more so than B.
You see, the sense of responsibility is really a strange thing. If you pay less, the other party will say that you are irresponsible, will not trust you, and will feel insecure; if your sense of responsibility is too strong, it will become a cage and will inadvertently obliterate the other party. Take the initiative, make yourself bear too much pressure, and weaken the charm of the other party in your mind. Therefore, how to love her well without letting the two suffer from the "seven-year itch" because of excessive responsibilities is a problem that many couples need to solve.
Against this backdrop, B thinks she can handle it all until the pressure takes her breath away, and the passionate and equally cool carpenter easily captures her heart.
Here, I personally fully understand B. I am not advocating that betrayal is justified or that I am against taking responsibility, but I have always felt that human emotions should be naturally revealed like clouds and flowing water, without any impurities, even if the impurities have a nice name called responsibility. Marina's husband, the earl, said, "the heart is stronger than the head," which translates as emotion stronger than reason, and I agree. Of course, this is different from the extramarital affairs that happen in our country. We mainly have money all of a sudden and don't know what our surname is.
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