Some thoughts on Lady Mary and relationships

Nelda 2022-09-24 11:36:49

I just watched the sixth episode of the first season a few days ago. At that time, I didn’t know that there was still a second season, and I didn’t know that the screenwriter might have more ambitious goals. In an Austin-esque twist, Mary and Matthew's lovers end up getting married. However, Mary's attitude was still unclear at the last moment, and Matthew went to join the army again. The suspense of the relationship between the two remained, and it was unknown how long it would last.
Of course it's not kind for the screenwriter to abuse people like this, but I think the change in the relationship between the two is the most exciting part of the whole drama. A girl like Mary has been proud of herself since she was a child. After all, people are smart and beautiful, and they combine the two most important advantages of human beings. Putting aside their prominent family background, they have enough reasons to be proud. I deeply thought that such a girl was incapable of falling in love at first sight. When she interacts with people, her first task must be to establish herself as an outstanding, superhuman image first. The second is to gradually perceive the other party's advantages, and the premise is that the other party can work hard enough to arouse her interest. For her, it's okay to take the initiative to show goodwill, but it's not okay to be the first to express your intentions. Because self-esteem is above everything else. Losing face is much scarier than losing love. It is the heart's pleasure to fascinate all beings with your own charm. Even if you meet someone you really like slowly, you can't get rid of this problem. She has a good insight into the people around her, but her ability to comprehend her own thoughts is not up to the mark. I think that's the crux of Lady Mary's tragedy so far. Fortunately, there are people in this world who are willing to fight, and there are suitable people who are willing to suffer. With the docile personality of Matthew in the play, in real life, it is also a good match for girls like Mary.
Mary, this girl, has obvious advantages, but also the same disadvantages, and it is not a lot. She's not very kind or compassionate. Although it is mentioned in the play that she helps the servant William to go home to visit his seriously ill mother, it seems very human. But as she herself said, it's just a little effort someone in her position can do. She couldn't do such a thing as her third young lady, Sybil, walking a few miles with a horse with a hoofed shoe for her servant's future. The second lady said that she would rather ride a lame horse than dismount and walk, and she really knew Mary better. She is selfish and indifferent. After her father's heir, that is, her cousin and fiance, died in the Titanic shipwreck, not only was she not sad, but she immediately asked to block the news of their internal engagement, for fear that she would not be able to marry in the future. She is also good at playing tricks and fights. The second sister wrote a letter to the Turkish embassy to destroy her reputation. At the party, she gently and skillfully used a few words to repel the suitor who the second sister finally waited for. At the end, he raised his glass and declared war on his own sister with a smile. But why do I still think such a person is cute? Because she is smart and beautiful. To put it more cruelly, stupid and ugly people are not qualified to be evil and willful. Gentleness and kindness are optional for beautiful and intelligent people, and may make people feel a little tasteless, but for ugly and stupid people, it is an indispensable tool to make up. Don't look at the drool of the song "I'm ugly, but I'm gentle", it's actually quite reasonable.
Having said that, "the lovers get married" largely depends on fate. All kinds of courtship techniques and confession methods are likely to be self-soothing. I have tried, I have tried, even if I fail, I will not regret it. Literary works, movies and TV are taught in this way, but it is really difficult to implement, and countless people are struggling to decide whether to take that step. After all, there are very few people who are full of self-confidence, and they may not happen to meet people who eat that way. Most people are waiting, waiting for the right person to drop from the sky. Some people are deeply favored by God, and they wait for it at a young age, so they grow old together; , I missed it. In short, in those few years, the two of you didn't have fate; there are some people who may never wait for a lifetime... After all, the love between the two still has to be attributed to the word "destiny". If "Fate" is a great goddess, it should be such as coming to Buddha and God to be busy together.

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