The movie is so depressing and depressing that if the screenwriter can idealize a little bit and let the light of humanity shine a little bit, the observability will be greatly improved. But I think it's the best way to go. Moreover, in my personal subjective and relative view, all obscenity and crooked films are of little value, not to say that they have no function, but as literary and artistic works, they have no meaning of enlightenment.
I agree that movies and life are different worlds, and the artistic processing of the former is necessary, but I absolutely disagree that literature and art are an outlet for escapism. I don't think people who only talk about romance and avoid talking about firewood, rice, oil and salt are out of vulgar taste. The meaning of literature and art lies more in content than in form. I may be complacent because I see the details of a movie and have some experience, but I don't feel good about watching the movie or reading the book itself, even if they are rated as niche or advanced works.
Literature and reality should be two relatively parallel worlds. The two will communicate with each other, but people always have to move forward in the real world. No matter how pathetic, inspirational and brilliant literature and art are, how does the time and space stop or even intersect there. , it doesn't help you solve real-world problems with concrete steps. Different people will find a relative balance between the two worlds, but not all of them, there are some real writers and painters who choose to end the real world, which in my opinion is an imbalance. I admire them, but can't understand them.
But if it is completely separated from the spiritual world outside of reality, it is also a kind of imbalance, for example, it is completely unconcerned about the proposition of abstract sublimation. As far as I am concerned, I feel that the world is approaching the absolute right things, such as a sense of responsibility, such as compassion. Even if I can't practice these relatively beautiful and relatively real things by myself due to various reasons such as growth background, character weakness, bad luck and bad luck, I must at least know what is good, so that I can have moral standards and code of conduct, and only then can I evaluate things. Including evaluating yourself and making choices. In the purely real world, the establishment of such standards can be learned through the accumulation of experience and observation of others. But how short the time we can live, how limited the people we can meet. But fortunately, before we were born, in addition to making friends, there are many people who have summed up their life experiences into a form that can be communicated. Because a large amount of information needs to be compressed, active or passive, there is a process of artistic abstraction. Only then can we be lucky enough to enjoy literature and art.
This is why I think the spiritual world is indispensable. It may not help you eradicate real problems, but it can help you change your attitude towards problems. I am very utilitarian, so the more realistic the film, the better, even if the reality is so painful, the so-called national unfortunate poet is fortunate, and it is easy to work with the vicissitudes of life.
But not all realistic topics are worth discussing. The film is about the brokenness of a family. Before it can be broken, it must be established. In fact, it is also talking about the formation of a family. At the end of the movie, the conflict between the two people could not be reconciled, and the quarrel could not go on. The male protagonist said something like this:
"Baby, you made a promise to me. You said for better or for worse... you said that. You said it. It was a promise. Now this is my worst, okay? This is my worst….”
I searched and it was indeed a wedding vow, “through the best and worst, through the difficult and easy”. I thought it was very tear-jerking to hear it at this time, and I thought about it when I was looking at Earl Cat's journal. Her original words were:
This reminds me that most girls today are only willing to say "I am willing to live a happy future with you" when facing marriage, but never thought about "No matter what hardships and difficulties you will experience in the future, when you are sick and difficult, I am also willing to Never give up."
Yi married an Indian man, Yi didn't understand mathematics, but Yi was very clear about this. For "most girls", they don't think it's not all their fault, I think there's an environmental problem. Two days ago, I heard from a Taiwanese girl in my class that she came to a summer school undergraduate student, and persuaded her to endure the current hardships and apply to our school to find a man in the future. Why do we want men in our school? Because there are many boys studying engineering, technical nerds, and they have a promising future and can earn money after graduation. Why are the men in our school willing to look for you too? Because you look PP, cute and loli.
If what they say about finding a man means getting married, the conditions and standards we talk about every day in our lives are easy better best. Who wouldn't live happily ever after eating hot pot and singing songs? Unless marriage has degenerated into a random routine like saying hi and having a meal, how can you find a man without considering the difficult and worst part? Although a technical house and a lot of gold can avoid many difficulties in life, it is also a guarantee of through easy, but some contradictions in reality are not controllable by human beings, and they are not small probability events. Such as birth, old age, sickness and death, such as parting in love and not wanting to be resentful.
I have the best hope that everyone will eventually find someone who shares the good and the bad. But what if you can't have both? In the movie, Cindy is an MD, Dean dropped out of high school; Cindy is a doctor, and Dean paints; Cindy works hard, but Dean doesn't seek to be motivated; Cindy cooks breakfast, does housework, picks up the children, and Dean leans on the sofa to make the children naughty and mischievous.
So I couldn't blame her when I looked at Cindy's young but tired and forbearing face. The same blond hair and big eyes, before all the vitality of youth, now all the look of old age. Ji Er grows old together, the old makes me resentful, how can we continue such a marriage if it is not broken? But is that fair to Dean? Even if he wasn't, at least he avoided the fate of Cindy's single mother, at least assumed family responsibilities that were not his business, at least raised his wife and ex-boyfriend's children.
He said "I didn't want to be somebody's husband, or Dad." But he became both. If the former is not so difficult, because at that time he was crazy about love, and he married as soon as he married. What about the role of the father? He doesn't have any reason to like this little girl who drags oil bottle, but in fact, he spoils her so sweetly. Whenever two people are together in a movie, the little girl hooks her neck and sits in his arms. Being turned upside down and hugged. The picture of father and daughter is too warm to be true.
The only time he didn't hug her was after the last unresolved dispute, when he left the house, the little mm ran after him, the little body was leaning back, and the little arm pulled his clothes, asking him to keep it. down.
At least, he is a kind person, so he will truly love other people's children, and only then can he return the little girl's sincere nostalgia. At least, he is a kind person, so he can go through the difficulties and worst of others. But what is the use of kindness? In the adult world, who will get through your plight because of your kindness?
Looking back at the poster is full of unspeakable desolation - hugging so desperately. In fact, what's the use of me cherishing you again, don't tell me I'm not going to fail this time.
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