When Harry met Sally, they believed there exist friendship between men and women, but finally they still fell in love with each other and got married, wow....I would like to say it's really confused me...I mean, I love happy ending but I still cast some doubt on their marriage, is it really for love? Or just for having been used to get along with this guy and can not lead the life without him (or her)?
At the first time when Harry met Sally, he said: Men and women can never really be friends, because "the sex always gets in way", and Sally's response was totally opposite. They are in different worlds, different attitude toward life and love .
When they met again after 5 years, Harry was going to marry with Helen, and Sally was just in a new relationship with Joe. And Harry asked Sally to be his friend, the reason is that they already have partners and they will not fall in love with each other. But Sally refused.
Maybe their fates are joked by God, they met in 5 years again. In that time, Sally just broke up with Joe, while Harry was divorced with Helen. Without these tragedies happened to them, I think they can't be best friend forever . They came to understand each other and got to know what men and women really want and think.
Since then, they can do everything with each other except having sex, this kind of safe relationship enable them to release themselves without fear of abandonment, which makes them feel relaxed and comfortable. Their unconsciousness, especially for two souls who just had a badly emotional experiences, avoided them to involve in a meaningful relationship, they thought they would never get hurt.
But something they feared most still happened in an irrational state. After having sex, everything become wired, seems that the relationship between them should have a new definition. Once a relationship was given meaning and obligation, people will be anxious and loose sense of safety . This is the fact that many people are always unwilling to face.
I saw many couples are not happy when they married, but why we still think it necessary to marry with someone in a proper time? Why we appreciate some kind of stories like “ To hold your hand, to grow old with you”? Why?
People claimed that: Because we love each other!!
There is a great deal of truth of that, yet If a man and a woman fall in love, they don't need to marry, they can choose to be lovers forever, I think. The truth I believed is that no one can avoid the fear of loneliness during their whole life. People married just want to guarentee their life and need a home for soul.
Sally and Harry married at last, become couples from friends. They don't need to experience the period of adjustment, which includes conflicts, distrust and misunderstand, as other couple experienced.
Maybe this is the ideal of marriage: Marry with someone who knows your defects but still loves you and never abandons you…
And if today someone ask me whether men and women can be really friends or not, I would definitely say yes. We believe in god, we believe the existence of alien, so why can't we believe this wonderful thing in this world? Haha !! Nothing is impossible!!
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