After watching this film, I have to comment that this is a violent and cruel film, comparing the first meeting of love six years ago with today's six years later. We can't say anything about love, it was perfect back then. We can't comment on life, maybe this ending is not doomed, the contradiction is whether to let the daughter grow up in a broken family or a nest full of quarrels.
The whole film adopts a melancholy way to state the mutual hurt between Dean and Cindy. There is no loud roar, no slamming the door, but the whole process is full of cold violence. In fact, I just realized the harm of cold violence. Like a cancer in love, it grows slowly and destroys everything.
I think this is more like a real-life documentary, reflecting certain social issues, what ruins love, is it marriage? no! It's the lack of tolerance and communication, the lack of flavor for a happy and meaningful life. Through the film's "House of the Future" segment, that blue romance may not be what Dean wants, it's the family and Cindy and their daughter that Dean wants to protect. Cindy also wanted to communicate with Dean through such an opportunity, but in the end, the lack of tolerance and urgent romantic feelings led to the blue sadness.
After watching the movie, there will be a sense of fear. Some people say that this movie is not suitable for two people to watch together, but I don't think so. After reading it carefully, two people can ponder and discuss what our future will look like, and write it down. The love in the film is incomplete, what is love? "Love is patient and kind, love is not jealous, love is not boastful or arrogant. It is not shy, does not seek its own interests, is not easily angered, Does not reckon with evil. He does not rejoice in iniquity, but in the truth. Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."
What the film lacks is a real understanding of love between the two, with Cindy too much for herself and Dean too much for her family.
From a realistic point of view, Dean may not be able to take more responsibility for the family, and Cindy has been tired of it. It is also the fuse that this marriage shattered. For Cindy, I still highly praised him for understanding the meaning of the leader's conversation and immediately rejected it with "I'm married". And Dean also went looking for the ring out of love after losing it.
This is my understanding, and it is the first time I have felt one way or the other about a movie, record it. --by:arlin
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