After the end credits, the single-loop player returns to the beginning of the film, listening to the little girl screaming: megan, megan. Somehow, in a trance, I seemed to hear her shouting: daddy, daddy. Very cute child, right, but had to face a very realistic reality. The adults spread their hands and said: See, this is the reality. However, the children do not understand. Maybe when the children grow up, they will say to adults: come on, grow up.
From a male standpoint, after watching the film, subjectively I hate the heroine very much. But after thinking about it rationally, in fact, one should not be too harsh on a person. To be honest, it may be helpless: this is the reality. On second thought, both parties are responsible.
The purpose of marriage is to stay together for life. On the surface, the form is very romantic and touching, but perhaps its essence is to achieve emotional loyalty through a contractual relationship. It is said that marriage is the grave of love. In fact, not necessarily, but marriage and love are indeed two different things.
First, analyze the male protagonist. The male protagonist is a very good father, although it is very likely that this cute little girl is not his own flesh and blood, let’s put it heart to heart, there are not many people who can do this, and loving a woman does not mean that you will love her A child born with another man has a very common word called "seeing himself as one's own". To be able to do this, it seems that the male protagonist already has an inexplicable sense of sublime. Because, although it is said that if you love a person, you will love all of her, but there is a saying, "A kiss cannot be borrowed. I think everyone can understand the meaning of it." Next, let's see if this good father is a good husband. On the surface, he is an absolutely good husband. He is affectionate, humorous, funny, talented, self-sufficient, and a very nice guy. However, in essence, he is not a very good husband. There is a Chinese saying, "To be a man, you need "Pan Donkey Deng Xiaoxian". Of course, this is the ideal state, and the male protagonist in the film also has at least four of them, or even five. But why the heroine is not satisfied, why is not satisfied? why? My interpretation is: I hope my husband Jackie Chan. It cannot be denied that there is an element of vanity in this, but this is also human nature. Contrast produces happiness, although it seems that everyone wants to deny this and think about their own happiness alone, but in fact, contrast does fucking produce happiness, doesn't it? Of course, there is also frustration. For example, Zhang San, who used to be inferior to you, became a big boss after 20 years, and a beautiful woman in a luxury sports car. You said, if you think about yourself again, is it a little uncomfortable? It's human nature, so the heroine's emotions are normal, because at this point, the hero is a little "unreliable", which makes the heroine unacceptable.
But the marriage ended just like that, an impulse, or a move. For marriage, to paraphrase a sentence that should have been used in money, it is impossible without love, but love is not omnipotent. We often say that to love a person, we must love all of him, including his shortcomings. However, have you ever thought that the advantages and disadvantages of certain aspects will be converted into each other in different situations, for example, you are talented in singing and dancing, when you are in love, it is very good, but after getting married, you continue to do this One set, I am afraid it will be a bad thing. Of course, the male protagonist actually handles this very well, he is also a self-reliant person, and his heart is also very kind, which can be seen from his actions. But, how should I put it, although sometimes I also want to say: Fuck mature! But thinking about it carefully, the male protagonist is a little immature, at least not to the level of maturity that his wife wants him to achieve. To put it bluntly, in fact, these two people are not suitable.
Let's talk about the heroine. First of all, whether she is a good mother, the film does not go into details, but there are details to see that she can be regarded as a competent mother, although the little girl prefers her father, it is human nature to give understanding. She is also kind, as you can see from the way she treats her grandma. Is she a good lover? Basically, but there is one thing, she is a little bit, in popular words: thinking too much. Some things should be known, and some things should not be known. Things that shouldn't be known have already been known, and sometimes they will bury psychological shadows and lead to the seeds of tragedy. When the heroine asked her grandma how she felt about loving someone, her grandma's words seemed to touch her heart. Here is a digression: Grandma, you are a little too real. This bridge may just be the director's arrangement, in order to point out the realistic ending of the marriage. Also, the heroine is a little self-willed and doesn't give people a chance at all. If she gives a chance, maybe her ex-boyfriend will marry her. But the premise of marriage is love. Maybe she was tired of her ex-boyfriend at that time. OK, whatever, in short, she was moved by impulse and ended the marriage. However, after all, the two are not suitable.
So where does it not fit? First, the heroine's expectations for the hero are seriously inconsistent with the actual performance of the hero. Second, there are serious deviations in communication methods and views. This is the encounter between romantics and realists, and a spark is struck, but it is confiscated. After this small spark ignites a prairie, it burns to ashes. Because neither side is willing to make a little change for the other side. If the male protagonist tries to change jobs instead of communicating in words, if the female protagonist tries to think about the goodness of the male protagonist, feels grateful and compromises a little, maybe the ending of the story is not like this, This will be a very happy family. One more thing to say here is that the male protagonist is a little childish and, indeed, a little too chatty and talkative. As for the heroine, she is a little too domineering and willful. For example, the heroine wants to have a child with the heroine, but the tone of the heroine's answer is very bad. It's like, a man has a girlfriend, tell the man, I don't want to do that, because it hurts when I'm with an ex. After marriage, you can find a surrogate mother. It is unfair to limit the people who love you now with the hurt that people in the past have done to you.
Here's a quote from Cai Kangyong: I devoted myself to my last relationship, but I was seriously injured. So this time I was afraid of getting hurt, so I reserved it. This means: the rotten person who hurt you last time gets the most complete you, and this time the developing lover gets a very cold you. I know that you are protecting yourself, but if you do business, your shop will surely fail. Bad customers who never come back get the best service, but new customers come in and are left out in the cold. Why doesn't this store fail? It
makes sense, doesn't it? However, the human heart is fleshy, don't be too harsh, sometimes people are strong, and sometimes they are very fragile.
Blabla has said a lot, and some over-interpreted it, which is a bad thing for learning, and deeply examine yourself. Let’s summarize it with the words used in the political examination paper: To sum up, the male and female protagonists are somewhat inappropriate, and they have not been able to adapt to married life well, resulting in such a result, which is regrettable, but it is also helpless . Because this is reality.
I hope that all lovers in the world will be married and grow old together.
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